Last night my friend Heidi's beautiful daughter Chloe just passed away peacefully in her sleep after battling an inoperable brain tumor for over a year. I just cannot grasp why a child has to die? I know the typical answer is that there is no answer, but I need some wonderful wisdom from my answers friends to help me sooth the pain.........
2007-10-17 16:45:36 · 24 answers · asked by Lili 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thank you all so much for your wonderful caring wisdom. It REALLY does help. It's an odd thing but sometimes strangers can bring the most sincere solice because they are not just telling you what they think you want to hear; they do not know you.
I think out of every one I have read so far I have come to the conclusion that one special thing Chloe just did was stop each one of you in just a moment of your lives and reflect on what is really important - just by reading my question. And I thank you all for that. Chloe would have loved that for a brief moment she brought happiness to someone's life.
2007-10-17 17:00:02 · update #1
I'm so sorry for your friend's loss. Life can be very unkind and unfair. I wish I could tell you something comforting about a Divine Being wanting a little angel, but I just can't. What I hope is that the inoperable brain tumours of today, can be treatable in the near future.
2007-10-17 16:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always sad when someone passes. We grieve because we are selfish - we want that person back with us. I have seen that for some reason, there are those that live a long life, and those that seem destined to be here only for a short time. Irregardless of how long someone is on this earth, all life is precious and has some purpose. We just don't see the entirety of it from our vantage point.
Sometimes lessons in life are for us. Sometimes bad things happen for others to watch us and how we react.
I could give you all the platitudes --- your friends daughter is in a better place, in no pain, at peace etc. I also know that those thoughts aren't a comfort at this time, though with time these thoughts will bring comfort.
I guess that the only thing I can tell you that death is just another process like birth. We came into this world from a womb of warmth and comfort. If we had recollection of that time, we were probably terrified of the change and did not want to leave when it was time. I am sure it did not take us long to realize that although it was colder, and we didn't have immediate nutritional needs met any longer, this world was a lot more colorful and intersting! I am sure that death is very similar. We can leave this world protesting, but once we are no longer here - it won't take us long to realize that what is next is even better.
2007-10-17 16:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Cinthia Round house kicking VT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you. My little niece died last December after only 2 months of life. God really does have his reasons. He used Chloe for something. I don't know what. But I know he used her to bring joy and love and she served a real purpose. Think about the good things she brought into the lives of those around her. God used her to get through to others. It is something he does. Even my 2 month old niece who died served a purpose. I'm sure it might be a while before we know what that was. But if nothing more, she was there to show the importance of life and how short it can be sometimes. That we shouldn't take our lives for granted. We all will perish and some much sooner than one would expect.
2007-10-17 16:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Dani Marie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Firstly please allow me to express my sorrow because of the passing of your friend.
Death is no stranger to my door.
I have lost so many people that were dear to me that I've come to realize that death is peace for the person that dies and a big discomfort for those left behind.
Tirsirsh has given you some good information and I pray that you find some solace in what she has mentioned.
Please understand that death does not have to be a permanent state.
I have no intentions of preaching to you. I just want to share some spiritual truth with you.
Jah has been given a bad wrap.People say that a loving God would create a place where people would suffer forever. Or would take a child from it's loving parents to be with Him when He can create all the angels he would ever need.
If you take it upon yourself to learn the truth about Jehovah you could be a real comfort to the child's parents.
As sure as she died she will live again.
Find out about Jehovah and find out why that statement is as true a statement as you will ever hear.
It is good to know God Jehovah and His son Jesus.
2007-10-17 19:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by Robert J W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sincere condolences to you, your friend Heidi and her family. It is very normal to feel shocked and disbelief. No matter what I say will help the emotional numbness disappear faster.
It sounds cruel that young Chloe passed away so early in her life. It is so unfair, but the truth is that "time and unforseen occurences befall us all" (Ecclesiastes 9:11). Sickness befalls us all and sadly, sometimes sickness claims a victim.
It is good that you are talking to others (and receiving some comforting words) and no doubt you can still be a supporting aid to Chloe's family in their time of need. But when you are all by yourself, why not talk to our caring loving God? Truly, he is the hearer of prayer and he wants you to pour out your heart to him whenever you feel like doing so. Why? Because God "is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves" (Psalm 34:18). Jehovah God feels your pain and doesn't like anybody to suffer. So let the "God of all comfort" help you when you need him to! - 2 Corinthians 1:3.
I understand that you are not ready just yet, but in due time if you would like to know the wonderful hope that Jehovah God has in mind for ALL humankind (including Chloe) - as mentioned by Robert J W, you are warmly invited to ask any of your local Jehovah's Witnesses to explain this marvellous gift from God to you. Of course, you can always email me.
May Jehovah God keep you and your friends in mind during your time of sorrow. And I will keep you and your friends in my prayers ...
Take good care ...
2007-10-17 19:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
15 years ago my youngest sister had leukiemia and no hope of recovery. It was just the machine keeping her alive. Mum, Dad one of two other sisters was there and I were at her side. Dad was a drunk, he didn't know what was happening, Mum was about to loose her child but didn't want to let her go on her say so and sister also didn't want to ask to let her go. I was in the Airforce at the time and I guess in a way we tend to understand life and death through the military way. So my sister asked mum if it was ok for me to ask to let her go and asked me if i would. With out hesitation i did so and thus our sister died and her suffering of the past 18 months was over. Everytime i travel my train into the city here it goes past the cemetery where she lays. She is gone but never forgotten and i hope she forgives me for getting the machine switched of. I now don't believe in any gods but mother nature has ways which we will never understand.
2007-10-17 17:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by munro5112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is more dificult for those who are left behind. But death is as much a part of life as being borne.
One life time is a complete amount of time, a measurement, like 24 hours is a day.
You don't understand why she had to die, but do you understand why she lived?
She lived her whole life and hers was short. You will live your whole life and part of your life will be passing from this material world.
When you pass on, those who will be left behind will also ask why.
But you will know the answer.
Chlow, now knows the answer. Be happy for her and miss her with fond memories.
Gypsy Priest
2007-10-17 17:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsy Priest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lili, God is all powerful and all knowing. We cannot even begin to imagine His infinite wisdom. God is also love, pure love, the source and summit of all things love. In rough times like these it's important to remember that we're not God. God has His reasons as to why He chose to bring Chloe home. We may never know until we ourselves get to heaven. In the mean time we need to realize that since God is love we can place all our trust in His love and believe that He had a good, no, a PERFECT reason for it.
Remember, God uses what may seem like the worse of situations and circumstances in order to bring about the ultimate good. Pray for patience and TRUST Him.
2007-10-17 16:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by stpolycarp77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately there is nothing that can be done, but understand that the beautiful memories made will still allow Chloe to live on in those who loved her...
As Time Goes By
By selkiekay
As time goes by our age is falling on our heads,
and the once joyous youth is slowly fading.
In times like these,
the pressure is increasing on our brains,
trying to understand why we exist and how we came to be...
This is just a worthless task,
so why not just let us bask.
As time goes by life keeps moving on.
Although it feels wrong...
As time goes by, the birds will still fly
and when I die,
your life may be apart for a while
but life goes on, and it's not wrong.
Because what I do alive is more important,
than worrying about why I'm here
and pout, then disappear.
Because you and all the others have memories of my life.
Don't hide me in the back of your brain and let it rain,
don't hide yourself, because as time goes by...
So shall I.
2007-10-17 17:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by selkiekay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure that anyone has the words to help you in this moment, it is just one of those times that is hard to get through. I had a niece of mine pass away at the age of 2, and it is confusing. But at the same time, we all knew she was ok somehow...just too many signs that came to us in the days after she passed....I know she is happy where she is at now. Peace be with you and your friend.
2007-10-17 16:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋