So my "best friend" a guy friend that I have known and talked to many times over the past year tells me that if I do not have sex with him tomorrow, he is going to tell a guy I like that I am a filthy whore and send him a letter which will destroy me. He says in order for him not to send the letter, I must dye my hair and look really sexy for him. He called me fat. i only weigh 110 pounds!! I don't want to lose my dream guy over this.....if he reads the letter he will believe it.....because he believes all the rumors said about me. Should I go to the police?
2007-10-17 16:23:36 · 29 answers · asked by Rebecca K 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
You should go to the police and to your parents and get help in dealing with this jerk. What he is doing is both illegal and immoral. Futhermore, I would tell the guy you like just what is happening and what you are doing about it. If he doesn't believe you, that is the #1 indicator that he is not the right guy for you. You cannot have a good relationship with someone who doesn't trust or believe you. Good luck!
2007-10-17 16:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing here that has happened yet that is criminal. Both of these guys are a holes. Your "best friend" is trying to make you have sex with him? The guy you like believes all the rumors about you? How many rumors are there out there about you? Maybe if he believes them all and he still likes you he won't care what this letter says. Wouldn't he let you defend yourself against what is in the letter? Don't waste the police's time with this though.
2007-10-18 00:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Todd S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
YES go to the police ASAP.
This is a sexual threat. If he has done this to you imagine what he has done to other people in the past or what he will do in the future.
If you're afraid to go by yourself bring another friend with you to the police. My sister-in-law is a cop and deals with problems like this all the time. So no cop will think it's strange or take this as a joke if you tell them.
As for the letter, what is worse...rape and verbal/physical abuse or having a guy that you like hear rumors about you.
You can always confront the guy you like about the rumors if this jerky "best friend" actually does start rumors.
But seriously GO TO THE POLICE!
2007-10-17 23:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by bluepinkbeaner 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sexual harassment is NOT a crime. The police are not going to care if you report a case of sexual harassment to them. Sexual harassment is a civil cause of action. You can file a civil lawsuit against someone for sexual harassment and recover money damages.
Your question is an interesting legal question. Where I practice law extortion requires that someone take property from you by wrongful use of force or fear. This person is not trying to take property from you. Also, this is not rape or attempted rape in the jurisdiction that I practice law. Rape requires the use of force or fear against the victim.
You may want to contact the police and see if they will take a report. If they do take a report, you may find that the police will take no action because no crime has been committed. However, depending on how busy the police are, they may contact the person making these threats. That contact from the police may scare him enough to leave you alone.
2007-10-17 23:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by . 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You could contact the police, and if they believe there is a credible threat, you may be able to get a restraining order. However, unless there is some physical threat, it's your word against his. Now, as for your dream guy. If he would believe anyone over you, then he is not your "dream guy" to begin with. Sexual assault laws vary by state, so it would be best to check with your local police dept. Do yourself a favor and break ties with both of these guys. Seems like your worth alot more than your getting from them.
2007-10-18 04:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell this guy to hit the bricks. He is not your friend if he does things like this and Yes it is Illegal, it is called rape! Let him write the letter. If your boyfriend doesn't have anymore confidence in you or your relationship than that you don't need him either. Tell the police what he is doing.
2007-10-17 23:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should probably ditch both of them. If your "friend" is trying to force you to have sex with him, he's a douche. If your "dream guy" believes crazy rumors about you, obviously he doesn't like you that much. So scrap it to a loss...find a new guy. If your douche friend continues to threaten you, then you may want to report it. Right now, you just need to grow a pair. And maybe, if you went to the guy you liked, and told him what was up...he might stick up for you a little.
2007-10-18 00:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Guided 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wish I were your big brother because I would pummel that guy. What he's doing is illegal, immoral, and indicative of hostility and sociopathy.
Do NOT give in to him - it won't help you with this guy you like.
And speaking of the guy you like, you say he believes any rumors said about you? If I were your brother, I'd beat the crap out of HIM, too - sounds like a real jerk all by himself. You deserve better.
Go to the police or to a teacher you trust.
2007-10-18 00:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not only is that illegal, it's pathetic. If you have sex with this guy, what's to stop him telling your crush anyway? He'll just keep it over your head forever. Don't have sex with him! Call the police or tell your parents what he's threatening. This is sexual harassment and blackmail.
2007-10-17 23:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by kcpaull 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call the rape unit of the police and speak to a police officer.
If you are in school, go see the guidance counselor.
2007-10-17 23:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by kadel 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋