can personality make a guy unattractive?

Question

I look pretty good. People always say I'm very handsome. I never had any girlfriends because at school I never talk to them because I don't like to talk. Can this be a turn off? If someone doesn't talk does it seem like they seem to arrogant and come off as a snob sometimes?

Answer 1

Personality can most certainly make a guy unattractive, but it sounds to me like that isn't your problem at all, so don't write yourself off yet. There are a good many girls who find it more attractive to seek the quiet disinterested guys. Even though you don't like to talk, try striking up a conversation with someone. If you want to change how people perceive you, you'll have to change what feeds that misconception.

Answer 2

Oh yeah most definitely..... if a guy feels like he's superior to others, that he's too good for ANY woman or stuff, they can have Tom Cruise's face but they will still be scratched off my list of possibilities.

In your case, I don't think people think you're snob because you're quiet (unless you like to show off your money or stuff like that) but a guy who never speaks gets too boring.... I once met a guy who was not bad looking and I felt fine when he asked me out, because he barely talked when we met but I thought it was because we were meeting for the first time and he was a bit shy....... after the date I found out that this was just the way he was..... he never spoke, and this made me think of him as not-interesting, not educated (cause if he traveled or read he would have some topics for conversation!!) or just plain dumb. Turned out that he DID travel and he DID have education, so it was just his personality which didn't help...... now he's happily married but the wife is a stupid ignorant girl, so there you go, that's what your "not being too talkative" can get you....... good luck in overcoming your problem!!

Answer 3

ugh. i know exactly what you mean. I mean...i do like o dres nice and wear some make up. But i am strong too and i dont give wierd compliments. I do understand what you mean, and yes guys do findit attractive. I mean not if you overpower them or be a complete guy. But some or many guys do like athletic girls. I think your still in that little phase. I used to hate make up and dressing up and i would wear ONLYcomfy clothes and ONLY wear myhair up, i was almost like a boy it is almost disgusting. But i kind of grew out of it. I found my balance of being athletic and tomboyish with my girlish side. And the romance....dont worry about that. ;) everything will fall in place. I hope you remember my words and laugh at worrying on uch foolish thing. I am sure your really good and fun person to be around. So just enjoy everything while you can.

Answer 4

Ok, let's look at what you said. YOU are confident in your looks. Ok, good for you. But you also said that you never talk and that you don't like to talk. Is it that because what the girls at your school talk about is not of interest to you, or is it that you don't know how to talk or even know what to talk about?
So let's break this down. If you like anyone at school, sit and observe how your guy friends talk to girls. Or, go after what you like to do. If you have something in common you can talk about that, and feel safe keeping your feelings safe. Nothing wrong w/ that.
So, it's not that you are a 'snob' just sounds like you need practice in becoming a better conversationalist.

:)

Answer 5

Yes you can appear to be arrogant if you don't talk but it's not the end of the world if you don't like to. Think "the strong and silent type". Try examining your body language. Do you stand with your arms crossed in front of you? If you do you may appear to be closed off. Try keeping your arms at your side. Do you avoid eye contact when people talk to you? If you do you may be giving the impression that you are bored, don't care, or you have something to hide.

Try to soften your facial expression. Relax your eyes and relax your jaw. You don't have to smile but a pleasant expression may make you look more open and aproachable.

If you have a problem with actually speaking because you are shy or think you are going to say something that will embarrass yourself or you are not happy with your voice, try taking a drama class or a class in public speaking. There you will learn how to control your voice, how to control body language and become more confident with speaking in general.

Answer 6

Not really a turn off.

In highschool, we had this really hot guy, tall dark and handsome. He looks like Tamahome and Yagami Light. He looks like a sexy anime for short, but the best thing about him that we all girls thought was that he doesn't like to talk much. Actually, it just seem he doesn't like to talk. He's very shy around girls. That's what makes him mysterious, and that's sexy.

But that is because he's still handsome and cute whenever he just seems to be shy. there are guys of course who would look plain stupid and iirritating whenever girls would ask him about something.

Answer 7

it doesn't seem like they are a snob, makes them look shy so u don't get to know them

u need to talk a little, maybe just a hey would be good

but a lot of the time it gives the illusion of sensitivity, not arrogance

so don't worry about, I'm sure a couple have a crush on u, but they don't wanna make the first move!

Answer 8

Yes, sometimes you can come off as arrogant, esp. if you are attractive. Some girls will think you know how hot you are and think you're too good to talk to them. Even though you are not talkative, you might try to make more of an effort.

Answer 9

yes it can be a turn off and its probably your only problem. When you dont talk to people they think you dont like them or are not interested in what they are saying at all. Try to talk to people a bit more , let them get to know you better and explain to them sometimes you dont like to talk but its nothing presonal. I had the same problem myself and realised people are just misunderstanding me because im quiet.

Answer 10

If you're good looking, then ignoring the girls advances will make you look arrogant and unapproachable.

However, if you save your talking for the girl you like, she might feel special and like you.

Obviously you want the chicks, and since chicks like to talk, I think you'd better start talking.