I dated a guy for about a month after which i broke off with him. I told him that i wasn't ready for a relationship yet to spare his feelings but the reason i called it off was that he was moving too fast fo me. He told me he really like me alot and started to talk about living together and futur children. We decided to remain friends. This way i could get to know him better without the sexual tension. We saw each other at work almost everyday but about 1 month ago he started to behave weirdly. One minute he so friendly and the other he is so dry. Sometimes he laughs and complements my outfits and the other he passes by me with a quick hello. He hardly calls me and just the other he rings me to ask a favor to go with him to this place that he won a prize for something. He always give that glance that he is still interested in me but he never makes the effort to make a move or try to find out what the problem was between us or try to make things work especially if he still like
2007-10-17 15:46:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should slow things down, guys who try to have sex by telling girls getting married and having children are weired in such a short period of time, ask your guy friend, they don't want commitment too soon if they are really serious, most guys are afraid of commitment.
He plays hot and cold on you, trying to hook you up to the web, you should completely ignore it, let time tell if he is serious about you, or just wanna have sex with you. Possiblely he will be ask other girl the same thing, and you will see him end up with another girl soon, if he just wants to have a partner, but not being serious in a relationship, you will see this soon. so, slow things down, let time tell you, time will protect you from being hurt.
2007-10-17 15:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ah ok, this is a common problem. From what it sounds, he is only interested in the sexual relationship that you guys planned on having/ haved. The best advice is to communicate with him. If he is unable to share his thoughts about the relationship, then there will be problems in the future. Since he is talking about having children and living together in the future, he really likes you. It sounds like he also may not know how to express this.
Let him know that you want him to complement you more. I was in a previous relationship where I would do some of the same stuff that your boyfriend did. The relationship did not last because my girlfriend also failed to comunicate with me. By communicating with him and telling him what he is doing wrong, the relationship will be strong.
Also, don't give in to sexual relations so easily. If you have already, that's ok too. As long as you play it off that your interested in him sexually, but don't want to have sex yet, he will stick by your side.
Here is the guide I use myself in relationships:
The first month of the relationship should be talking and social, making sure you guys know each other well. In fact, a boyfriend is just a best friend that you have stronger relations with.
After the first month, prove to him that your interested by kissing. It's ok to start kissing within the first month, but as long as it's after the first week. If you are wanting to wait until your married to have a closer relationship with sexual relations involved, that is ok. Personally though, the relationship would get boring and dull if there is not alot of physical interactions.
I hope this works for you and I wish you all the best luck =)
2007-10-17 16:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should suggest that you guys go back out... i mean if your trying to make him notice you that much maybe you should make it obvious that you still like him!!! intead of blowing him off with lets jus be friends!!! not all ppl get the hint.. but u made urs clear, i mean by the way u make it sound u really didnt want 2 b there and now all of the sudden you do... look at you for a second and decide what you really want!! no him, or him.. really think about it before you leave and want it back!!
2007-10-17 15:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by I LOVE DYLAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hada chance and blew it, you rejected him once, he will not allow you to do it twice. Our pride cant handle it.If you want it to work or at least try, it is all on you baby, you will have to initiate everything so he doesnt have to feel that their is a chance you can shoot him down again, he will want to be in complete control of the situation so if there is a plug to be pulled in the relationship later it will be him doing the un plugging and not you
2007-10-17 15:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be one of two things. Either he is hurt by what he sees as you not sharing the kind of feelings he has towards you OR he has found someone else who is interested in him the way he wanted you to be interested in him. If that's the case, he still has feelings towards you, but doesn't know what to do.
2007-10-17 15:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by "G" 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
each and each individual is bi-polar one way or a further. anybody have temper swings. call it bi-polar in case you desire although I see it as one greater conspiracy from pharmaceutical companies to earn greater funds by utilising advertising greater advantageous medicines to depressed adult women and men. If a guy or lady shows to many temper swings or "exchange in personalities" the advantageous element is to stay away. they may well be unsafe to themselves and others. Edit: playstation One individual on the returned of many Avatars on Y/A may well be a demonstration of unstability besides. pay attention.
2016-10-07 03:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by bedlion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he doesnt want to admit to his feelings because maybe he is afraid he'll be coming too strong with his feelings and may be scared to scare you off from you liking him...
Thats how i feel in my situation, but i show my feelings little by little...
Good Luck... =]
2007-10-17 15:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by Buttagood4you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you discarded him and now you're sorry because you can't find anyone better.
You don't deserve him and I hope he stays away from you because you are what they call a Gold Digger.
2007-10-17 15:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dumped him. He's hurt. He's wondering what you're thinking.
He still likes you and seeing you at work hurts like hell.
If you want him back, then you should talk with him.
Otherwise, leave him alone.
2007-10-17 15:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by DockLuv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him an XBOX 360 with HALO 3 Legendary Edition.
That'll reveal his true feelings
2007-10-17 15:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋