How do you get that thing back?

Question

So here's the deal.

There's this boy. We'll call him [A]. And there's this other boy. He can be [B]. I was talking to A for a while. Very sweet, kind, cute but 4 years older than me and lives about half an hour from me. I'm not sure he minded, nor did I, but the age thing was a problem.

Then I started my new job and B worked there. Hadn't met him before, but we started flirting and joking around with eachother at work and I went over there once in between shifts. The next day we messed around.

A won't talk to me anymore and I don't know why. He doesn't know about B. I really liked him. =/

B thinks that this whole f---buddy thing is how things are going to be, but that's not what I want.

How do I change B's mind and just be friends, and get A to start talking to me and show him that what I'm looking for, and what he's looking for, is the same thing & perhaps we could find it in eachother?

Answer 1

A is not interested in you. Clear to me, happens to the best of us all the time.

B just has to be told straight.

Answer 2

Tell B the truth - that you just want to be friends w/o benefits.

A seems tricky since you said the 4 year age thing was a problem. My hubby is 6 years older than me and he had a little bit of a problem in the beginning since I'm younger than his little sister but no longer.

A half of an hour is really close in my book - I think I'd need more info about A to help. Like where did you meet and where do you see him etc.

Answer 3

I don't think you'll be too successful in manipulating A to be your boyfriend. He realizes he's too old for you, so probably is not interested. B is only interested in you sexually, and probably isn't ready for anything more serious than just messing around. My advice is to dump both A and B, and go look for C. C will like you for who you are, will be age appropriate, and will provide lots of fun, friendship and perhaps more. Haven't met him yet? Trust me, you will! Good luck!

Answer 4

are you absolutely certain that A doesnt know about B? if he has a friend or something working there he might! and about B, girl, you just gotta tell him listen, i dont want you anymore!! he'll leave you alone after that for sure unless hes a stalker. as for A, try calling or emailing him again and if he still doesnt reply, maybe he met someone else or has something going on thats interfereing. either way, if he doesnt write or call back then you have to move on. best of luck! =)

Answer 5

First do not try to be friends with B he is already in the mind set of F--kbuddy. A may be doing the same thing as you are. You are better off finding someone closer to you and that you have intrests and more chemistry with.

Answer 6

guys know when you cheat by talking to other guys...A found out about B and you will have to do a lot to get his trust back if you really want a relationship with him...B will never be more than what you have allowed him to be from the start...that's why abstinence is the best answer if you're looking for something more serious...until you abstain, you won't find a guy willing to settle down with you because they know your reputation...even if they just meet you...sorry...

Answer 7

Stop having sex with B

Do your best at talking to A, on some common ground not dealing with your relationship..

A may have found somebody new, while you were fooling around with B

Answer 8

OK stick to B .HE has a job!. change his mind get to know him find out what his interests are and try to meet them interest to see if you can change is mind. A is to old mayb alright when your older.

Answer 9

be true to yourself what ever you may or may not of had with a you ruined thru it out the window for B so why even condider A no longer part the equation although he doesnt know yet he will