I'm re-wording a previous ?. Had sex w/guy friend that I've had 1yr & we are very attracted to each other, but both in serious relationships before so couldn't act on it. He's been trying to get me to spend more time w/him so I've done non-date type things with him like work out, watch games, etc. and we talk about everything & share secrets. So, I don't think he was just after sex. But, it's been 4 days since the sex and haven't heard from him. Don't want him to think I regret it, so sent him a text message today (that's how we usually communicate) & told him I enjoyed other night and was happy I got to spend time with him. Well..that was like 6 hrs. ago & still haven't had a response! I saw him at the gym tonight and he kinda smiled at me but I can tell he's avoiding me and/or feels awkward. How can save friendship and hopefully take it to next level? How long should I give him to come to me? Or, should I ask him to meet to talk? Don't want to scare him off or ruin things. Pls Help!
2007-10-17 14:12:23 · 23 answers · asked by JES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Offer it up for free or start dating his friend. You sound like you probably scared him off.. show him you're not that interested and he'll be all over you
Treat em mean, keep em keen!
2007-10-17 14:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Judo Chop 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those are the breaks when you have sex with anyone you should know the risks. sorry. Sex is Sex and that is what he wanted - maybe he did not like your sex and never wants to be around you again for fear you will push it or fear of hurting you more. I guess I just would not have sex until your married then your won't avoid you.
2007-10-17 14:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by heavnknowz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already gave away for free what he was looking for. Why would he waste more time developing a relationship with you? This is why some people require a ring BEFORE giving it up. Sorry about your luck.
2007-10-17 14:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck! If he likes you then he will like you after he had sex with you. It sounds like maybe he doesn't know what to do now that this has happened. Don't hound him or anything. That would push him away totally! You also need to think about something-do you want to be in a relationship with him or do you just want to be friends with him? What has happened has happened you can't go back-remember that!
2007-10-17 14:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by grtfulhdgirl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u didn't scare him off. he only wanted to sleep with you and he got that. you can't repair this. unfortunately, he is a dog and once you realize this and move on life will be great. if he wanted you badly enough he would have contacted you or wouldn't have been acting all weird. oh yes, when he is lonely again he will call you. please do not give in.
2007-10-17 14:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by lookingforanswersandquestions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy friend is hard to manage when you're making the wrong move....or you don't move at all...follow your heart
Maybe he's just not that into you?! There area lot of guys out there!!! explore if you can!!!
2007-10-17 14:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Iggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you ummm shouldnt have slept with him.
Sounds like he is not at all interested in you so give it up.Dont you think if he was interested in you he would have dated you by now.
You were good for one night sounds like.
2007-10-17 14:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there isnt saving the friendship. sounds like he only wanted you for sex. just leave him alone and if he was a true friend then he will talk to you.
2007-10-17 14:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by trixie6336 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, all he wanted was the sex. Don't try to force a friendship with him... you'd be the loser again!!!
2007-10-17 14:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by Everand 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
o well maybe he is a little shy after what happend .. or maybe his g/f found out ..(that woul d be hoorible =[ ) just next time u see him in person ask him ! be like " heyy hoes it going ?? how come u ingoring me , was it something i did " then what "? tell me " ..
nd be like i really dont want this to come between out friendship .. then tell him how you feel and whats on ur mind .
2007-10-17 14:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by charmed4life64 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋