ok the guy i like, hes perfect, is in jail for 3 years he used to go to my school but i never got a chance to talk to him what should i do ? i really like him and i dnt wna wait 3 years
2007-10-17 13:47:14 · 61 answers · asked by Linda U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok he aint perfect bt hes really nice my friend says and hott bt thats not the only reason. ok, ive talked to him a couple times bt he wasnt in my classes. he went to jail for spraypainting buildings it aint like he was a murderer
2007-10-17 14:27:50 · update #1
I appreciate that you are not being judgmental. He may have just made a mistake and now paying for it.
Maybe start off with writing him a letter and just connecting with him. Take it slowly and just try to get to know him better.
I imagine it would be harder for him now to maintain contact with his old friends and would welcome your letter.
Disclaimer though, I don't know how young you both are but as a parent, I would need some convincing if my daughter told me that she thought someone in jail was perfect for her.
In the end its your decision but make sure you've thought it out and obtained relevant advice from people who care for you.
2007-10-17 13:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by TraderJoe 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you know why he is in jail? That should be a consideration. If it is something you can accept and you really want to deal with letters, collect calls that run $25-$50 for 15-20 minutes at a time, harassment from Corrections Officers and being watched every second you are visiting, then write to him. Being with a prisoner is not easy, make sure it is something you are willing to do.
2007-10-17 13:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by jess4u2c2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the other girl, if he's perfect then why is he in jail. Don't waste your emotions on him, if he does decide to talk to you then I'm so sure that the only reason would be so he can have company in jail and have someone like you bring him stuff. There are way better men out there, I mean say he gets out and you have a relationship with him and he mucks up and goes back in the slammer, what will you do??. Think about that, your future may be all about jail visits and stress.
2007-10-17 13:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
don't let what the others have said discourage you ok? who cares if he was in jail! you didn't say what he did. he could have done something not even bad. the law is wrong sometimes, ok? don't judge someone based only that!
anyway, visit him. a lot. write him, send him pictures. be there for him for the time he's in. let him know that as long as he's good and helpful and all that while in, he has a chance to get out early.
if you can't wait the 3 years, then you'll have to find a new man, becuase chances are, he's staying in that long.
2007-10-17 13:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by toadstoolcouch 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
In all honesty you really don't have a choice he is in jail and 3 years is a long time to wait for someone and especially since you don't know what the future will hold for you in 3 years. He is in jail so that is not a good way to start a relationship with someone especially since it is not something you would be proud to tell your folks about if you were to become an item. My advice is move on find someone you can actually build a relationship with and who has good values someone who can be there for you and wont miss out on your life because he is in jail. You can still write to him because he has time on his hands now but don't set yourself up for heartache and loneliness, have fun and meet people you deserve better than that.
2007-10-17 13:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie-lyn V 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
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2016-10-13 00:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by stinnette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this might sound crazy and you can take it as you want to... but I'm in the same position as you cuz the guy i like is in jail but there going to move him to another jail next month.... so it kinda of sucks because i was talking to him before he went to jail and we were going to go out but i was out of town and he was goin to jail... and the same as the dude you like his in for 3 years it sucks because i really like him but we send letters to each other..... mainly don't listen to the other pplz on here if you do like him write him a letter then find someone in his family and ask them to give him a letter. that what im doin. hope this helps and you not alone you can message me any time.... ohh by the way how old r u!!!!
2007-10-18 15:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by kermit 13 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok i no every 1 is saying this but he is not pefrect if he is should not be in jail. but if u like him then ask him out say the truth and every 1 likes some 1 for some reason and u may not care if he is in jail and that is ok so hope i helped !peace!
2007-10-17 13:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I get that you think he is perfect for you. This man is handsome, manly, and hot!
Yet, he has sits in prison while he thinks about life outside and the women who await him ( but he isn't thinking about you or any other woman who is decent) he is thinking about getting out and resuming his life: making a score, having a B-----, busting some guy's a--, or even using you to get back into every day life. I am warning you to stop this now and realize that your "perfect" guy is not so perfect. I just want you to know that you are a fabulous person who doesn't need that kind of dead end attention.
2007-10-17 14:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lizbiz 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like a match made in heaven!! I guess you could commit a crime and then be in jail, too. That would put you closer to him. Convicted felons love to have people put money aside for them so you could start a savings account in his name. Get a bunch of your friends to be penpals with him; the guys in jail love getting mail and packages (especially if you can sneak a file or some contraband in to him). (That is another way you could end up in jail with him, too!) Three years isn't too bad. He will probably get out and do something to put him back in there with his new friends so this might be just a short vacation for him. Next time he commits a crime, he might do more time. It is a common fact that criminals will play the game and use their victims until they run out of money; then they go on to the next one. Don't know why this is someone you find so exciting. There are so many men on the outside to choose from; why choose one who is already a criminal??
2007-10-17 13:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋