So my boyfriend and I have been dating for five years and we have talked about getting married when we first met but I still don't have that commitment from him. He has told me that it will happen before our Six year anniversary but that's 10 months away! I am starting to get really frustrated. I guess because we live in the South everyone under 25 has to get married after college BUT me!! I am so tired of people asking why we are not engaged and what's wrong with him but the real thing I'm thinking is what's wrong with me. Why are relationships so difficult. He is the only boyfriend that I have ever had and I always thought relationships would be fun when I met the kind of guy I wanted to date and it has been but know that I think about it all the time the fun is kinda gone!! I don't want to complain to my friends becasue they are either married engaged or they are into there own crazy stories of being single!! HELP a confused girl!!
2007-10-17 13:23:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait for him to ask, he's hinting that hes going to ask soon. You don't want him to propose just because you were putting pressure on him. Planning a wedding is stressful, and everytime it gets difficult you don't want him throwing it in your face that you made him do it. He will propose, 10 months isn't a long time and he's going to do it before then anyway. This is the fun part, waiting for him to do it. Its exciting and you're never gonna have that feeling again so just enjoy it.
please anwser my question :)
2007-10-17 14:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by sarahryan86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, difficult as it sounds, I would wait until your six year anniversary before making any judgements about the state of the relationship. If he hasn't proposed to you by then, then you should sit down and explain the way you feel. It sounds like there's loads of pressure where you live for young people to get married, but what's the point in that if marriage is going to be unhappy because it has been rushed into. Try not to obsess about this because otherwise it'll lead to tension in your relationship which sounds great as it is. There's nothing wrong with you by the sounds of it. He wouldn't have spent 5 years with you if he didn't love you. I think when people ask you about marriage, they probably don't realise how much you've been worrying about this. Enjoy things as they are and have faith that you'll marry the man you love.
2007-10-17 20:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by hatty m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you only want to be married to be part of the club - or to have a pantomime wedding like those that seem to be in vogue at the moment? You've already had 6 years of committment which is longer than some marriages, so be happy!
By now you must have some property in common, perhaps you should ask him to join you in some sort of contract to determine who gets what in case of break up. That might spur him into some kind of action, sounds like he's set in his ways and you are too timid to tell him how you feel, communication is all. If the fun is gone, it may be time to move on, marriage is not a magic cure all for boredom. Best of luck, have courage!
2007-10-18 03:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get pregnant, he'll have to marry you.JUST KIDDING!!! The same thing happened to me, except I would have never in a million years waited as long as you have. I just gave him a year, I knew what I wanted and I let him know. we talked about marriage and what it meant to both of us and if that's what we wanted, because if we didn't want the same thing then he needed to stop wasting my time, we got engaged then married later on that year. I was honest and I was pretty blunt. Now I thank god everyday I did that. who knows, might work for you too.
2007-10-17 21:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same situation, i av been with my fella 6 years now and still nothin from him, but i think he is finally goin 2 pop the question very soon, so dont worry bout it he will he is prob findin right time 2 ask u. he will if he want's 2 be with u and he loves u.
goodluck lol
2007-10-17 21:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by danni s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next year is a leap year. On February 29th 2008, propose to him!
2007-10-17 20:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Zheia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds that you are bored with him. Maybe he also has the same feeling so he didn't propose to you. I think you should let him know your feeling and ask him how he feels.
2007-10-17 21:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by Littlestar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋