Sex for the first time?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years are in love. We just started talking about having sex about a few months ago but never really tried to do it. We are both virgins by the way. Last night we had such a nice date and had such a connection that made us both realize we are ready to take it to the next level. What can I do to be safe and prepare for this? We are both inexperienced, how do you start? and where is a good place for a first time, something romantic please! thank you :)

I am 20 years old.

Answer 1

Dearest lacey
This is kindof long but worth the reading if you have time. Smiles first go together and pick out the condoms try to make sure you get the ones with lube on it. It helps but not really needed after you are totally excited, your bodies juices will be more then enought. The second and most important thing is to find a quite safe place were you both can realx and have allot of time. The romance comes naturally when you are together so jsut be you'r selfs. I am sure the both of you will be thinking of allot more things then romance at that time.
If you have a full day alone make sure you have a bathroom witha shower so you can share a shower together (NO SEX IN THE SHOWER) cant wear a condoms in the shower.
Third by relaxing and making out like you must of done by now 1000 times, feel eachother up explore yo'r bodies and let his touch your chest and virgina area with his hands.
Slowly take off clothes and kiss eachotthers bodies, try oral sex with him.Not you but ask him to try to have oral sex on you. Lay back and enjoy the feelings and it will most likely make you ***. Try masturbating him so you can see what can happen when he cums.
You will know when youa re ready to put the condoms on and try it, relax and enjoy it and make sure you dont forget to buy more then 1 condoms. You will use a good amount if you enjoy it as much as my g.f and i did the first time.
Good Luck
You cna e mail me if you want any other info

Answer 2

First of all, congrats for finding that special guy. First the unromantic part... Condoms are imperative unless you plan on having a child...which also protect against STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) but that shouldn't be an issue if you are both virgins and one of you doesn't have HIV, Hepatitis or other. If you don't want to use a condom and don't want a potential pregnancy, I would go to my doctor and get some birth control (if this is something you aren't against).

How to prepare? Books are a good place to start. Read them together and you can both 'get in the mood' at the same time AND learn. Relax, have fun and take it slow. Let your body tell you what to do. You'll figure it out. It takes practice and multiple times before things really feel great...or learning each others bodies, as well as your own.

A nice dinner (no alcohol since this dampens the mood) and a place that is quiet where both of you are comfortable and won't be interupted (a hotel room?) Make certain that family and friends will leave you alone for the night or for several hours at least. Turn off the cell phones and the Television. A nice bubble bath after dinner would be romantic and both of you will be squeeky clean...start by touching, kissing and cuddling and nature should take its course. Good Luck and have a good time!

Answer 3

well for starters you might try getting on the pill a couple of weeks before. tell him to use a condom. you can never be too careful. since it is the first time a bedroom with a big conformable bed would work best. appropriate lighting is a must. a little music would not hurt. makes it more exiting and muffles sounds if there is anyone else around. it might hurt a little and be awkward since it is the first time for both of you so a comfortable place is a MUST. two inexperienced people in the back seat of a car are not gonna have fun. then be creative. you might get some whipped cream or some chocolates so that you guys get a lot of foreplay. better lubrication equals less pain and more fun! but remember be careful and use protection. you dont want to have any worries about pregnancy because that will make it awkward and harder for both of you to do it. and above all just have FUN!!!!!

Answer 4

There are a couple of things to consider before you move forward--and they aren't about which CD to pop in.

I took a moment to read others' posted responses and I have to say that age is not a given for sexual readiness. I've met 35 year olds who shouldn't be doing it at all, and I've met 19 year olds that seem to have a better grasp on the issues at hand. However, there is a correlation between age and sexual readiness (the older you are, the readier you are to grasp and face the issues). If you are very young, (<21), you may not have the life experience to really know what you are getting into, and you may want to consider this.

Also, yes, morality is important, but it is a personal matter. If you feel okay with premarital sex, that is your right. In all of the issues sex brings, morality is really the least of the issues because it exists _outside_ of what is happening in life itself. You can feel a certain way about something regardless of what is actually happening. Just be sure of where YOU (and he) stand BEFORE you do anything further. You can't take back what's already done, and believe me, regret is hard to remove.

I assume you are aware of the "safety" issues but that makes them no less important: pregnancy and disease. I strongly suggest talking to your doctor or a clinic for birth control BEFORE you proceed, as many birth control methods require advanced placement/taking before sex starts. You need to find a method that works for you and that you can STICK to.

Finally, and perhaps the most important, ask yourself AND him:
*WHY do you feel ready to take this step?
*WHAT will this mean to you? To him?
*HOW will this affect you if this relationship ends? Soon or in time to come? Will you regret taking this step now if this ends?
*HOW will you deal with the consequences (emotionally, how it changes your relationship, physically, if pregnancy results, etc.)?

If you two can sit down and discuss these issues maturely and take the steps to handle this decision responsibly, you may be ready to move forward. And honestly, the ability to have this trust in one another, this maturity, is the most romantic thing of all. Candles and music are nice...but nothing beats knowing, deep down, this is really the right thing for you.

Answer 5

I just want to first off say idk how old you are...this isn't something yo want to rush into. I know you said you have been dating for two years and are in love, but sometimes it may not be the time, so make sure you are mature enough to do this.
If you do go through with this, go out for a romantic dinner...if you have your own room and noone is home, set up some candles, if you want, have some soft romantic music in the background.
Also, make sure you use protection. Before going into this, you and your bf should practice putting on a condom...learn how to get it out of the package properly, make sure you know how to put it on wihout making even the tiniest tear, unrolling it etc... becasue if done at all wrong it defeats the purpose of wearing the condom and won't help protect you from getting pregnant or from STD's...you dont want either. For extra protection, you can take the pill as well as condoms are onl effective like 95% or so of the time. Also remember it is not impossible to get an STD despite using a condom, and the pill doens't do anyhting as far as protecting from STD's...it is an extra protectant against becomming pregnant.
If you have taken everything into consideration and are 100% sure you want to go through with it, just remember he is your one and only first and also I saw someone else wrote to make sure he isn't taping you. If you love eachother I don't think he would, but you never know.
Lastly, assuming you do go through with it, don't stress it, take it slow, let things flow and enjoy yourself.

Answer 6

first and foremost make sure you are on birth control and also use condoms at all times. your first time should be special as it is one of the things in life that you will remember forever. a weekend or overnight trip would be a good start. if you are to young for a hotel then hopefully you will think a bit longer before taking this big step into adulthood. one good connection such as the one you shared does not mean your next step should be sex. there should be alot of special connections first
good luck

Answer 7

How old are both of you? Are you 100% ready to get pregnant & be a "mother"? If you're both under 18 & still living at home, wait & enjoy your teen yrs.-he should use a comdom first to be on the safe side if you're not ready for pregnancy, If you both wanna get married, live together first for a while, & you'll know what marriage can be like & if he's the "right one" to for you-good luck.

Answer 8

Well do something nice. Stay at one your places were you know you wont be bothered. Watch a movie, get comfortable and take it from there. Dont overly prepare- you dont want your virginity to be given up in a pre-fabricated date.

Make sure you have a condom. You can have him start on top. Make sure he goes slow- it hurts for some women at first. So its key that you take it slow.

And just have fun hunnie, when i lost my virginity it wasnt planned (he was protected though)- but i for sure dont regret it cause he was so careful. He made sure i was ok, he was sweet and made me love every moment of it.

Good luck

Answer 9

Safety: Use condom and/or other protection

Place: This is tough without knowing your age and/or circumstances. If either of you have the funds, spring the 80 - 120 bucks for a nice hotel room so you have complete privacy. Else, use someone's house where you won't have to worry about time or getting caught. (Although his first experience may not last too long). : - )

Answer 10

First of all make sure that you guys are really alone and make sure no one bothers you. Second of all make sure you use protection and just try to take it easy. It would be best to do it at a hotel because that way you will be sure no one would drop in on you and both of you could be more relaxed and secure. Good Luck!