I'm 17! D':
My step dad is closer to my age than hers (he's 28) and he did cheat on her once with one of my moms close friends. Before that, I used to like my step dad. He seemed pretty cool compared to some of the other jerks she married. He was like an older brother to me.
And then one day me and him were innocently horsing around (i'm a tomboy :p)and stuff and my mom got all upset. It's like walking on eggshells with her, really. And now she says mockingly that we "have a crush on each other"! That was FREAKING UNCALLED FOR!!!
And not only that but she goes on and on about how "men are" and stuff and I hate it! I didn't mean to do anything! I didn't do anything either! I'm actually a 'good girl'.
I got so fed up that I told her that if she cant trust her own daughter to be around her husband that she has serious problems.
what should i do?
2007-10-17 13:05:02 · 9 answers · asked by Dr. C∂ƒƒee £ips :} 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh and plz don't say we need family therapy
I know!
it just isn't happening : \
and its not a "life threatining situation" either, I'm a mature responsible teen and I've lived with worse drama :p
lol
2007-10-17 13:07:27 · update #1
ugh god, i know.
and i hate the b**tard!
he's a pig! and he's tearing my
relation ship with my mother apart!
2007-10-17 13:19:00 · update #2
this is just me so feel free to ignore it, she is insecure so badly u are the one she is taking it out on. but i would of already yelled at her so bad it would have made her and myself cry, u may have to yell to get her to listen because it seems her mind is made up. i would of said how she is acting out is wrong and she should take her insecurities out on her man not you. and if u plan on moving out at 18 i would mention she may ruin all ties she has with you for good because you will not be accused of things you know u didnt do. stand up for ur self she is ur mom but she is wrong.
2007-10-17 13:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by vera2good 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom's reaction has nothing to do with you so you must 1st not blame yourself but have a little empathy. She is insecure and within reason, your stepdad has made it difficult for her and this is what she acts upon. It's all a process that she has to go through, I would sit down with my mom, ensure her that you may not know her pain but you feel it because she is your mother. Inform your stepdad that this is causing major issues and that as her husband it is his job to make it right. Whenever the time is right let your mother know that she has someone she can trust (you) and that you love her and wouldn't hurt her at the cost of loosing her to a man.
2007-10-17 13:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by LoveRain 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she is an adult with a nearly grown child. she should know better! it is not ok to mock about that with you because once again she should know better. even though you like him better than the other guys she has dated ( so i'm happy for you) she should be marrying someone that can be a father figure not a buddy or older brother type. she isn't in high school and you are not competition for her "man" u are her daughter! and as such she should respect u and ur opinions and feelings above any man she is dating. she needs to start acting like a mother. tell her how you feel and you don't like her joking around like that. good luck!
2007-10-17 13:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Behavior is everything. You haven't dealt with those drama's honey, you have simply lived through them. You know there's more to it than you are making out, and if you don't think so, maybe you should take a good look at the behavior of your mothers cheating liar of a husband.
2007-10-17 13:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom has been hurt A LOT by your stepdad. It must be terrifying to know that her daughter, who has many of the qualities that she has, is almost legal and wrestling with her husband. How would YOU feel?
Be understanding and sympathetic toward your mom, and don't be so defensive about being physically attracted to her man. It's not a big deal, and you getting all freaked out turns into more than it is.
2007-10-17 13:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, be careful anyways. If I were you, I'd talk with my mom and let her know what I'm thinking & feeling. Then I'd steer clear of that man. Best to not be wrestling & so forth, because he might be the one who tries to take it further. He might even be trying to test you now. He seems like a pig anyway.
2007-10-17 13:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do for your mom, she has mental issues and all you can do for her is pray. Luckily, you only have 1 YEAR LEFT!
2007-10-17 13:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by 17 years young 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old was the person he cheated with? I'd stay clear from him, he sounds kind of extra friendly.
2007-10-17 13:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by j r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop being paranoid and get over herself.
2007-10-17 13:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋