I was raised and a non-bible thumping Christian home (of great faith). My boyfriend of 4 yrs is an athiest (as I have really recently gathered). I am now ready for marraige and kids in my life, I am 33. He laughs at me when I say I will raise my kids in a faithful home. He is a VERY honest person, beaufiful inside and out, and treats me great. But, can I marry someone who has a different belief in faith and directive? My sister just questioned the same thing, and ended her long time relationship.
2007-10-17 12:53:07 · 32 answers · asked by shrlytmpl1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I did it 40 years ago. 2 beautiful kids and a few grand kids later I love her more today than i ever did.
love and blessings Don
2007-10-17 12:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Christian marriage is a covenant relationship between the wife, husband, and God. How can your Atheist significant other enter into the same marriage agreement that you as a believer will enter into?
Your question is the basis for the warning against becoming "unequally yoked". You CAN marry who you wish regardless of their beliefs or lack thereof; however, your desire to raise children in a home filled with faith will be difficult when their father does not share that faith. Whether your husband teaches the kiddies to question your religious beliefs or simply chooses to abdicate his role as spiritual leader of the household, your kids are going to get a mixed message. That can lead to confusion for your future offspring.
For you personally, I would guess that the relationship is one where you are content despite religious differences. Those religious differences can become sources of strife later in your marriage, so I think you are wise to address your concerns before the wedding.
2007-10-17 13:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by detailgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason that the bible cautions believers not to be unequally yoked with non believers. Why? Because it's going to cause you a world of heartache.
What possible foundation can you build on? Surely not Jesus Christ or the word of God. You believe, He does not. The loneliness and isolation you will feel in that arrangement, if you have not already (and there is a clue, when you express a desire to raise your children "in a faithful house", he laughed at you), it can truly ruin your life.
Please, please. There are wonderful, loving, fun, kind Christian men. If Jesus and the word of God mean anything to you at all, please be very careful.
2007-10-17 13:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Esther 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can marry anybody you want, but if you are unequally yoked you are asking for more trouble that it is worth.
If your boyfriend is truly an atheist why is he with you? They don't believe in God and don't like those who do. You are asking for trouble. Heaven help you if you bring children into the world. It will turn out like Tom Cruise and Katie Holms. She is the one who has the baby but he is the one with all the control. That's not a marriage.
2007-10-17 14:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by D.A. S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure marry him if you intend to spend the rest of your life arguing with him on how you want to raise your children. Your life will be full of arguments.
2 Corinthians 6:14 "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?"
2007-10-17 13:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by Trust In The Lord 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definite it relatively is going to reason enormous problems sooner or later, particularly on holiday journeys and in case you have little ones. The Bible states: 2 Corinthians 6:14: "don't be erratically yoked with unbelievers."
2016-10-04 01:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was an atheist for the majority of his 45 years, Iam a Catholic Christian. We respected each others beliefs and basically did not speak of God or my religion. 8 years ago he became a Christian. I did not influenece him as I said before we did not discuss religion. We have been together for 23 years
2007-10-17 13:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible does teach not to be "unequally joined to an unbeliever"
Thats not easy stuff to say.
I feel for you.
But if you want to know what the Bible says....
And also, remember that it would be VERY confusing to your kids.
Reconsider.
Will you compromise faith for the sake of this relationship?
Is it worth it?
2007-10-17 13:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard topic. It depends if you guys love each other enough to set aside the differences. Otherwise the relationship will not end up the way you pictured it. I believe in the situation your in, your families might not get along either. So i think one of you needs to make a change for it to work out.
2007-10-17 12:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is a very hard decision. It is rough when something like religion has to come between two people that love each other, but you have to ask yourself if you are willing to put aside that part of you to be with this man. Discuss it further with him in a serious manner. Hopefully you will be able to reach some kind of compromise that will allow you to be together.
2007-10-17 12:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by colormecolorado 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋