Question for the ladies?

Question

Why is it that the guy always has to make the first move? :\ say your with a guy that your not that interested in but he makes a move on you, and you slap him in the face. Does the guy have to make the first move because it's the girl that doesn't want to get slapped? :\ Because I'm pretty sure that the guy would feel a lot comfortable with the girl making the first move just to make sure that he knows your interested in him, and he do the rest knowing that your ok with it.

Answer 1

I've always made the first move. Guys make it more aware that they dig you. If I can tell a guy likes me and that he is nervous about making the first move - then I will save him the stress and make the first move myself.

I'm ofcourse married now, but our first kiss was initiated by me. Our first sexual encounter was initiated by me. It made things nice for him.

Answer 2

IT's just a man's place. He likes to lead, so we let him. it's been like this for ages. He asks u out, he kisses u, he proposes to u, he puts the ring on ur finger, and he lifts the veil and kisses u again. Then, in the sack, he'd prefer if he took the lead again. See, males should be the head of the family...that's just the way it is. But I do see ur dilema here, because well...a guy shouldn't jsut assume that a girl would like his advances...and well, some of u won't take no for an answer, or if she moves, u just move closer. It's not because we don't want to get slapped. Besides, a gentlemen wouldn't hit a lady no matter what anyway(relax, a lady wouldn't provoke a gentleman to hit her either).

Girls go through the same feelings guys do...because we think that u know, he might not want this, so we're nervous too, and hope it won't be akward later. But usually, it isn't, because most likely, the guy would want the girl to make a move...but sometimes it's not. Besides, if a girl gets rejected, she might start to cry right there(we're more emotional), but if a guy gets rejected, he'll just walk it off, and go to the next girl...no biggie, it rolls right off his back. So y should a guy fret. So, he gets slapped...most guys would just walk it off, and go hunt for another girl. Besides, u guys are more aggressive, so it's expected...we're not.

Answer 3

Can an old lady answer this? Unless the Man comes across too strong, he should never be slapped, for being a man. It's up to the gal to politely put him in his place, in a way that's nice, to the point, & not as to run the man off, completely. The gal also wants to feel as if you are interested in her, & by you making the move, she feels as if you ARE. In my day & age, Men always made the moves; but, I wished it was more like now, because there was a few cuties I really would've liked to had put the Moves on. LOL The EYES can do the walking; so keep eye contact with whoever you're interested in, & give her a little while to comply; whatever you do, don't come on too strong or talk loud or things like that, & keep the dirty talk to yourself.

Answer 4

I'm really inexperienced, I'll admit that, but this is how I see it anyway.

Personally I'm crazy shy and it's just more comfortable for me to wait for a guy to make a move, especially if he's more outgoing and extroverted.

Generally, it seems to be more "accepted" that guys move first, not to say that it's right though. Over the years, I suppose people have gotten accustomed to the seriously old-fashioned stereotype where the man does everything from raking in the cash, to courting the women, to controlling the country. So, in short, it's kind of the mindset that a lot of people have.

However, everyone is afraid of rejection and everyone gets nervous, right? So it's unfair to live with such a mindset where men have to do everything first. But we can't be stuck doing nothing out of fear - if everyone holds back because of it, we're doomed. I suppose someone just has to take a chance with someone else and, worst come to worst, lick their wounds and carry on...?

Answer 5

Hey, blame your ancestors it was set in a lot earlier than this, how a woman was supposed to raise the children cook, clean,etc. and the man, was supposed to provide for the family. But anyways.. that part of the reason.. hey I mean, I little bit of boht "moving" but unfortunatley it does'nt always go the way we want it to....but it would be just as uncomfortable for the girl to make the first move as the guy; try looking from a girls point of view... both people should make a move, sometimes it's a girl, sometimes a guy.... it all depends on the people.It's uncomfortable to both parties....well, sorry it probably won't get better but men are supposed to be well;men the provider the big tough one, it's a stereotype that exists and maybe someday it'll be broken slowly but surely

Answer 6

I'm a girl and I always made the first move. You should try and have a better idea if the other person likes you before you put the moves on her.

Answer 7

slapping is wrong no matter who makes the first move....if you prefer a girl to make the first move then, fine...but, getting slapped should not be a reason to get all shy....just stay away from chicks that look aggressive.

Answer 8

nuhhuh...guys don't have to make the first move but it's good for us because we know that you're really into us. I mean if a guy makes the first move, I know that he's actually interested in me whereas if i make the first move i'm really unsure if he actually likes me or not...hope that makes sense.

Answer 9

the guy makes the first move bcuz they think its a guy thing, but like me i sometimes make the first move. i make the first move if i want to do some of the rest i'll do it its 50/50

Answer 10

i dont think you guys always have to make the first move...i think girls should be brave
and if u have girls slapping you cuz you make the first move u need to get some new girls they arent good for you
get some decent girls that dont drag their guys around on a leash