My boyfriend wants to hold hand, hold me and kiss me. Except i don't. D:
I hate all the above. More so with guys. It just bugs me. I'm afraid to tell him how I feel. I don't want to hurt his pride or feelings.
Help me please.
2007-10-17 12:24:22 · 46 answers · asked by lorelei 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do you mean,"more so with guys?" are you bi-sexual?Is That What you are refering to is P.D.A. Public Display of Affection.Or is it in private too.If so I think you had better go see a Doctor.
2007-10-17 12:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are an adult or late teens and feeling this way, you need to find out why you feel that way for a physical touch first. Then the solution becomes obvious. You may have some experience in the past you may or may not recall at this moment. A psychologist or a counselor can perhaps help you find it.
If you are younger, then I don't see any problem. Your needs and wants will change. Just let it be for now. You are probably not ready for a relationship yet.
2007-10-17 12:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not like a lot of physical contact. I have been married for 3 years. I am not the touchy feel kind of person and my husband has excepted that. He knows I love him though and that is all that matters. Let him know you are not all into the hugging and kissing. Do not get me wrong me and my husband are intimate, although if he starts hugging and kissing me to much I feel smothered. Let your BF know why you are like this for what ever reason. There has to be a reason behind you not liking much physical contact. I am sure he will understand if you tell him in a way that will not hurt his feelings. If it is just him that you do not like intimate touching with than you do need to move on, it is not fair to him or to you
2007-10-17 12:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cristy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about the contact. I know you are afraid to tell him, but tell him anyway! It isn't a good idea to hide your feelings from people you know and keep doing stuff you dislike, especially not with people you care about.
If you aren't 17 yet, then maybe you just aren't ready for all that physical stuff yet. I wasn't ready for it till I was 17!
If you are over 17 and you *still* don't like being touched by guys, then I suggest you seek counseling to find out why you don't like being touched by them. It might have to do with your sexual orientation, or it might be related to past trauma or past abuse.
But you will need to find out for yourself what the source of this issue is, I cannot tell you what it is.
2007-10-17 12:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your not ready to have a boyfriend and perhaps it would be a good idea to back off/ take a break on the relationship for the present. It you feel more comfortable with it.
You should never do anything that you don't feel comfortable with. Just tell him you need to take a break and slow things down for awhile.....
2007-10-17 12:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by bill45310252 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you were sexually abused at one time or maybe you are attracted to the same sex. In either case (and even this is not the case) you need to discuss this issue with a professional. The human touch is an awesome thing when done in a loving and caring way.
2007-10-17 12:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if it's a problem with guys decide which way you want to go! If you only want friendship from this guy you need to stand up for yourself. It's not about hurting feelings, but sparing feelings and being honest. Moving on is okay.
2007-10-17 12:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Alicat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready for a bf/gf relationship. That is the bottom line. You should just be friends! That is okay, no pressure.
Tell him you are not ready for physical relationships, and that you just want to be friends. If he doesn't want that kind of a relationship, then the choice is his, he must respect your choice. He should not feel any insult, because it isn't about HIM or that you don't like him, it is just that you aren't ready.
2007-10-17 12:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by greengo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if thats what he needs and you dont then maybe he isnt for you, but then agian my great aunt was abused as a child so she hated loving contact and he boyfriend still loved her and married her they where married for 60 years and never kissed had sex or any of that most of the time they had to sleep in differant beds. so a relationship can make it but he will have to understand and really exsept why you dont like this stuff.
2007-10-17 12:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs T. 2009 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay if you feel that way than there's nothing else to do then tell him. But be prepared for him to break up with you because what's a relationship without physical contact?
2007-10-17 12:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Love Love♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋