i have a very good friend that i had a "friends with benefits" relationship about four years ago. i told him about four years ago, that i was in love with him, but he did not reciprocate. since then, we have stayed friends.
three years ago i started dating someone new, and we have been "on again, off again" for three years. we are on right now, and i love him. but recently my good friend has told me that he loves me and that i am the only one for him.
i am very unsure as to what to do. my bf now is good to me though he doesn't have the best track record (we argue a lot and can't resolve problems).
what do you do when you're in love with two people?
2007-10-17 12:11:19 · 5 answers · asked by editor25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make a good choice and live with the consequences, there is no other way.
2007-10-17 12:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down by yourself and remove all distractions. Make a list of what you need and want from a man (there is a big difference between need and want). Review your list and decide things you can not live without, and what things you are willing to compromise on.
After you make your list think about each of the guys and see how much of your list they match. I would say the one who matches more is the one you should focus on. If they are too close then ask yourself which guy you can't live without.
One more thing to think about... given the history you have provided about your current bf, it doesn't sound like you 2 are really a match. Arguing a lot and not being able to resolve problems, is a good indication that you two are just different people who need different things, especially after 3 years. How many more years do you want to spend in an on again/off again relationship?
2007-10-17 19:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by tygres74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your heart tell you? Your heart will win every time over your head! If you and your current Bf can't
resolve problems, that isn't going to get better either...
Make a list of the good and bad in both(what you like and don't like about them)
..and whose good outweighs their bad the most is who you should choose!
Things that get on your nerves will get worse if you can't find enough good to outweigh the bad...
2007-10-17 19:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by ✿❃❀❁✾ Stef ♐ ✿❃❀❁✾ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll have to choose...
sorry, but there's no way you can keep the both of them. they wouldn't let you off the hook that easy.
choose the one you really love - the one you can see yourself growing old with. choose love over lust.
2007-10-17 19:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the one with the biggest willy.
2007-10-17 19:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋