Best way to approach this guy...?

Question

First of all I can be pretty shy so this is going to be kinda tough for me. There is a guy at work that I've had my eye on for a little while and I'm unsure of the right/best way to approach him. I just don't want to come off as weird or say the wrong thing. His friend said he is a nice guy and I should just do it. A few people at work have told me I should say hi to him whenever I see him and take it from there. What kind of advice do you guys have?

Answer 1

just smile and say hi for the first few days. Then, start having very smal conversations (2-3 sentenses)... then gradually ask him if he'd want to have lunch with you... and then during lunch grope him and steal a kiss when he is not paying attention. No, just kidding about the last part... just act natural..say hi small conversation, flirt, stuff like that

Answer 2

The next time you happen to be around him, say "Hi. I've seen you around so many times and I've never actually met you. My name is ."

He replies.

You then ask, "So, what is it you do here?"

When he replies, he may ask what you do. Answer. And, then continue with, "What exactly does a do?" to engage him in conversation. Ask if he knows the people you said he knows that told you to talk with him (obviously he knows them, but it gives you common interests to talk about).

If something happens that disrupts the conversation (something comes up or he's done with what he's doing and has to go), don't take it as a sign of rejection. In the workplace, we do have jobs to do, meetings to attend, etc. Just make sure you tell him that it was nice to finally meet him and that you're sure you'll see him again around the office.

Now you're on his mind. The next time you see him, it will be easy to come up and say hi. You might then talk about where you like to go to lunch or ask where he likes to go (talk about general food likes and see what he likes, then you can talk about some place specific). If he doesn't say it first, say, "We should go there for lunch some time," and see what he says. You'll know right then if he's interested. Guys like to be asked out (it's an ego thing), even if it's just for lunch.

If you do go to lunch, see how it goes. Talk about what you like to do outside of the workplace and see if you have similar interests. You'll pretty much know if he's interested in you. And, remember to tell him, "That was fun. I really enjoyed your company," when the lunch is over. Maybe even throw in a "We should do it again some time."

By then, the ball's in his court. In a workplace, you have to be careful about persuing someone, particularly if you get any inkling that he might not be receptive to your advances (most guys are). Good luck and Happy Hunting.

Answer 3

*Forget the shyness go on and say hi to the guy and see how it turns out. Once you have thus broken the ice, you can proceed to hound and make him yours.Of course if you never try you will never know.
*If you are too shy for that kind of approach ,you can borrow something from him, say like a News Paper, and that way create some common ground from which you can launch your onslaught.Keep up the Hope sister.

Answer 4

Being a guy, I can say that saying "hi" is a start. If you are shy, you can chat with him in a group setting...kind of a common chat. You will at least be able to find out what he is interested in. As you become comfortable in knowing him you can go further. Nothing wrong in asking for a date either once you are comfortable.

For all you know, he might be interested in you but he might be shy in approaching you.

Answer 5

Look for clues about his interests. He may have sports items on his desk or drive a fancy car or ...

Try to talk about his interests. Do something non-commital like going to lunch or Starbucks.

Try not to one-up him. If he drives a 10-year old Mazda, don't say your brother just bought a new BMW.

Look for a way to compliment him on something. If he drives a 10-year old Mazda, that means he is practical. He would rather build a nest egg for a brighter tomorrow than waste money on a car.

Answer 6

kay first of all the first two people to answer....really obnoxious and selfish, get a life.

I agree with what your coworkers say....next time you pass him say "hey" or at least try to make eye contact or something. If he's interested, which he probably will be (why wouldn't he be?) then next time he'll probably say hey back or at least smile or something. I think he'll think it's cool you're confident enough to make the first move! Go for it girl and good luck :)

Answer 7

Just go up to him and start talking or have one of your friends introduce the two of you this way you have a person there to get the conversation going and the next time you talk it want be so awkward

Answer 8

Go up to him and say hi, then explain to him you have a work related problem and ask him for some frendly advice take your time and let it develop and stay where he can find you to ask you.....go for it you have nothing to lose but a little time!

Answer 9

I think the advice they gave u is a very good one to start ...just go up to him if u see him and say hi ,how are u doing ....ext. and take it from there...just think maybe hes the same way and has wanted to come up to me ..u never know

Answer 10

The person that said "just say hi and take it from there" was correct.

Start saying hello to him, then one day he will stop to talk.

He may be shy too and hoping that you will break the ice.