My 5 year old daughter has in the last month or two become so snotty and rude, she is constantly talking back and not listening. I dont even know how to describe how bad it gets, but i'm a very laid back single mother and not much bothers me but when she acts like this ( which is all the time) i dont even want to be near her, it upsets me so much. I know it's part of a 5 year old, but how do i get her to realize she needs to be more polite and listen and use her manners at home?
thank you.
2007-10-17 11:38:00 · 10 answers · asked by madybaby2002 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I very well understand your attitude because it's close to how I felt at certain times with my sons. But if the case is as bad as you describe I think you need to get across to your daughter that she needs to respect other people (inculding yourself) and to address them in a way that she would want to be addressed. Being 5 years old she should be able to understand this, and if she keeps acting up some sort of punishment should get the point across. Spanking her butt (after a warning) is the most immediate and memorable reaction, but cutting TV time or taking away a toy may also work if you have the heart to stick to it.
Best of luck!
2007-10-17 11:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be careful that you don't let yourself answer her back when she talks back to you. That just keeps it going and it escalates. Very firmly tell her that you will talk to her when she is calm and polite. After one warning, it's time out (not in her room if toys are there). Like the TV Nanny does it, the child must come to you and apologize when she's calm. Be firm and be consistent. Also, like someone else suggested, be calm and reasonable when you speak with her.
Some time when she's calm and having a "good day" talk to her in a pleasant concerned voice and ask if someone at school (or elsewhere) has been mean to her or hurt her, or if kids at school talk mean (rudely). There could be a reason she is suddenly acting out like that.
2007-10-21 11:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jan F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son started with the attitude once he began going to kindergarten. Other kids apparently get away with talking this way to adults so he figured he'd give it a shot. I'm pretty laid back too but if you think I'm going to listen to my 5 year old tell me what to do, well, it's not happening! When it started, I warned him to quit it or the next time he talked back or said something rude, he was getting hot sauce. Sure enough, he did it, I put a dab of hot sauce on his tongue and he hated it! He has toned it down quite a bit, now that he knows the dreaded hot sauce will be used. (I let the hot sauce work it's magic for a minute then give him milk to wash it away). And for those parents who will criticize me, please save it - not interested in your opinion.
2007-10-18 05:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Empress1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Set some rules and stick to them. If she misbehaves send her to time out and then discuss her behavior. I'm sure her kindergarten teacher doesn't put of with this so she needs to exhibit the same behavior at home as she does in school. It's a pain to have to deal with but sure makes your life easier in the long run.
2007-10-17 11:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg you were talking about my 6 year old little boy right. I am going through the same thing too. He thinks that he is old enough to talk to me that way and it take every inch of my will power not to pop his mouth some times. so good luck and if you get a answer tha worked for your little girl please tell me about it so I can try it on my son.
2007-10-17 11:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremiha@Isaiahsmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it would be good for you to be less laid-back and more active in teaching your daughter who's the boss of the household.
2007-10-17 12:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Scotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you will not allow and tell her each time she does it she will sit on her bed for 10 min. Then do it each and every time. You can't back down and you have to do it each and every time! That is all it took with our son. He still gets sent to his bed to sit but not has often. And we don't let up any time he miss behaves he has to sit on his bed doing nothing!
2007-10-17 12:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take away privileges since Christmas coming so u tell her to rite or tell u her Christmas list and tell her she better be good or she is not getting anything and if she steal believes in Santa do the Santa trick all moms do with there children
2007-10-17 11:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do about an attitude is to ignore it. When she treats you rudely ignore her. When she talks back, shut your mouth and walk away from her...don't acknowledge her.
2007-10-18 19:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The key is not to demand respect from your children. In order to gain the respect of your children, you have to treat them with respect as well. in other words, Respect is a two-way street. model respect by being respectful toward your kids. Being respectful of your kids doesn't mean you put them in charge.
2007-10-17 12:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by julie ahean 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋