specially dat a very nice doctor told us dat he only has 2 years 2 live!!!and please i need 2 know what's the point of tellin a patient these stuff,,i know it's all a matter of statistics but if i were a cancer patient and i heard dat,i wud rather die 2morrow..i really wanna know how 2 inspire a patient,how 2 give him hope,i think spirit has a major role in any kind of disease!!!
2007-10-17 11:27:33 · 17 answers · asked by amira 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
As the previous poster said, watch Patch Adams.
Robn williams is so funny in the movie that the actual cancer patients used in the movie said they never felt so good before.
Look for an upside. 2 years left ot live. you have 2 years to do virtually whatever you want.
if this patient is female I suggest a book called "Why I wore lipstick to my masectomy" the woman in the book swore that she would not let cancer kill her on an emotional level so she did crazy things to show the cancer you can't hurt me.
2007-10-17 11:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by christigmc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that they need to prove the doctors wrong, A woman over here in England was suffering from cancer and she raised over a million pounds for charity by doing sporting events, this didn't only increase her time she had with us but also had an effect on future cancer patients. Tell them that they should get out and do what they really want to do, they have been told when their time is up and the rest of us have to keep guessing, therefore a lot of us end up doing not even half of the things we wanted to do because we think we have all the time in the world. It is always possible for that two years to double or even tripple, we just don't know, so tell them they shouldn't waste a minute of that time and do more in those years than the average person does in a lifetime.
2007-10-17 11:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Francesca C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are comming from friend. I am in the same boat unfortually. I was diagnosed with cancer 3 times already and this is the last time. My oncologist just told me that the cancer has spread threw out by body and i only have 8-23 mts to live. I personally wish he never did that, like the old saying goes what you don't know won't hurt you, it seems like this is the case for you and myself. I know personally its hard to have someone lift your or there spirts, I belong to a relay team and they are trying to be my support, and yes hope is the main and big thing, let him digest what was told to him and let him got threw all the changes there is, like 6 different stages and just be there for your love one as much as possible. have him and a family member join a suport group and see if that helps. I am just talkin from personel experience that i am goin threw right now. I am so sorry also to hear about your sad news and i hope all goes well for all of you and you all will be in my thoughts and prayers also.
2007-10-17 12:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by teddybear18202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've personally know of cancer patients who were given so many years or months to live, and they lived four times longer than they were supposed to.
You might help the patient find a cancer support group, where there will be people who can give him hope.
You might talk to him about the fact that none of us know when we are going to die--a healthy person might die before he does.
You might sit down and help him think up a list of all the things in life he loves, and can still enjoy.
Focusing all of his spirit and energy on the things he loves will make him feel positive, and give him reasons to go on living.
Bless you and your patient. I hope this helps.
2007-10-17 11:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Angelique 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think knowing how the cancer progresses is better than not knowing you're going to die. Doctors didn't used to tell patients, and they didn't have time to get their affairs in order, or to say good bye to people they loved, or do things they wanted to do.
I think having hope is a great thing. The doctors can't say for sure how long someone has, so you can't believe everything.
Find out what the person would like to do, and then make sure they do it. My sister-in-law has had breast cancer this year, and so what we did is make sure she wasn't alone. She is single, diagnosed with breast cancer 7 months after her father died. She likes to shop, so we did that, and let her stay with us at our house.
Best wishes.
2007-10-17 11:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Debra S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the person with cancer to GET ANGRY and to FIGHT the cancer with everything s/he has. I was declared 'terminal' and given three months to live when I had cancer ... in 1972. I told my doctor I would dance on his grave and he wouldn't die until he was an extremely elderly old man. I've had cancer again (same kind, also 'primary') ... and THAT was over 20 years ago. YOU CAN SURVIVE CANCER.
Next, tell your friend to 'visualize' his cancer cells as being 'weak and wimpy' and his 'immune cells' as being 'giant warriors in armor.' Tell him to draw them if he wants to ... draw cartoons in which the cancer cells are being 'killed off' by the immune system's cells. He should 'visualize' or draw them EVERY DAY.
Third ... he needs LAUGHTER. Buy him joke books, take him to funny movies, to comedy shows ... keep him laughing. Laughter does help because it actually strengthens the immune system.
Last ... I'm sorry, but a person NEEDS to know they are considered 'terminal.' You can NOT FIGHT something if you don't know you could die from it, but you CAN FIGHT it if you do. What the doctor did was correct ... but YOU can help your friend fight this terrible disease ... and I hope you are in it for 'the long haul' because cancer drives many 'friends' away ... but the ones who 'stick around' are your friend for LIFE.
2007-10-17 11:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drs have to tell patients what to expect in order for them to make informed decisions about their care and treatment. Most of the time there are options and people have a right to know what theirs are. Sometimes, especially right at first the best thing you can do is to let the person know that you are there for them, and you intend to be there for them no matter what. And you need to let them cry sometimes. Let them know you will listen and love them if they are scared, laugh with them when their sense of humor kicks in, and not judge them. There's really no magic bullet that will make it easier, but the love and support of people who really care can.
2007-10-17 11:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by robert t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch Patch Adams with Robin Williams.
2007-10-17 11:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by rugger5746 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's agood Question, I have the same problem with my Mother,
I've tried getting her to watch , her tv show like Little house ,
tv ministry, I've tried Playing dolls , which we've always done ,
my Mother is on hospice & only given 6months, she's so weak she can't walk, I'm planning an early Christmas , because ,I have a feeling she's not going to be here for the real thing.
anyone have any suggetions?
2007-10-17 13:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said a mouth full, spirit has alot to do with it, (Holy Spirit)if you feel doomed you will be doomed, if you feel alive and well you will be alive and well, besides my daddy survived cancer and died of a heart attack, god works in mysterious ways, and he works miraculoulsy in us, pray, bible research can save your friend, not just lift his/her spirits, god is the only one with a time limit on our lives. Joel Osteen has a book called "Your Best Life Now" in his book he proves the miraculous works of the Lord, when his mama was saved of disease, when a doctor gave her no time at all to live, she praticed and preached GOD's word and it saved her, that has been done over and over again in our days, it is FAITH in our good Lord. Good Luck and GOD Bless
2007-10-17 11:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by tammyorr1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋