I need to try to get over being jealous about everywoman my husband talks to. he works with pretty women that are younger then me, (i am 32 and he is 47almost 48) we have been married 10 years and together for 12. he has always been a flirt, but a couple years ago he was talking to this girl he works with( texting her) and playing a game with other guy co workers to see who could get her to like them best. he told her all kinds of lies, like we were seperated and getting a divorce, that he hated me, and so forth. he knew he was wrong, and admitted he was wrong, but swears nothing sexual happened, and I believe him. but he still talks to other women, and says its just friends, but how do i get this past thing out of my head? I want to trust him again, but my mind wont let me stop thinking he is doing the same things with other women. Im afraid I will lose him if I keep going in this direction. please help me, serious answers only, I will not leave him, so please serious answers only.
2007-10-17 11:21:40 · 5 answers · asked by chicksmom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of my close friends is married. He still flirts with women all the time. His wife is ok with this because she trusts him. He has never led a woman he's flirting with to believe that it was anything other than flirting.
Your husband crossed that line when he began lying about your marriage. Maybe he had no intention of following through with any kind of physical action, but he broke your trust. You say he has apologized and that he knew it was wrong. Hopefully it was a "game" that just got carried away.
Since you are not going to leave you have to take a leap of faith. You are going to have to CHOOSE to trust him. There is no other way other than deciding to put the past behind you and start with a clean slate. It will take time. Maybe a lot of time.
And by the way..........when your husband crosses the line it's no longer "irrational" jealousy.
2007-10-17 11:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to try to trust him and its funny cause i know exactly how you fill even though I'm 19 and not married may attitude is like I'm 30 with three kids by him and what he could be doing runs through my mind all the time and im so aggravated by the thins he dose if i could knock him out i would but you just have to com down an breath just call him ask him what hes doing and hows is day but dont interrogate him. let him know how you feel and that you get jealous easy he should respect that and as for that chick at wrk get really jazzy {NICE LOOKING} go up to his job and bring him lunch let the CO worker know whose top ***** around there. I mean i know you re probably a little more mature than that but i promise you will fill better.
2007-10-17 11:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to her that. If he is not having relations with them dont mean he is not cheating. my wife started talking to guy on line and now we are no longer in the same bed. even though there is no way they will ever meet. Do you know why? she wants what she cant have, and what she can she dont want. she ended our relationship. But still wants me to stay here and take care of her and childern. Dont show you crave him! dont restrict him , he will not want to be with you then.dont tell him you love him, it shows you crave him. And he dont care if you do ,or he wouldnt do it. The more you show him you dont care. The more attention you will get, why? He will wonder whats going on and crave you. It is to late for me but you can make him follow you around like a dog in heat. I showed i cared and said i loved her. Tried to talk to her. gave her all my attention. dONT WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-17 11:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by TIM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, trust your instincts. And if they are telling you that hes cheating on you, there probably right.
2007-10-17 11:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple! Be more rational and less jealous! ;)
2007-10-17 11:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by skaizun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋