My son is non confrontational and this child is aggressive pushing tripping etc. The mother is actually the leader of my son's tiger den and from what I have seen has no clue how to handle her son, which makes you wonder how exactly she became the leader. My instinct is to tell the mom to talk to her son, but I don't know if that will work. I don't want my son to be the victim of an abusive unruly child and suffer from low self esteem etc. I have told my son that it is not his fault and to tell the boy to leave him alone, but as of yet it hasn't worked.
2007-10-17 11:20:59 · 9 answers · asked by R J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Get your kid in boxing/karate class...for the future. Not to bully other people, but to defend himself.
2007-10-17 11:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your son continue to be a victim! It's not your fault, and it isn't his, either. The mother is obviously clueless and not only shouldn't be a den mother, but shouldn't be a mother. Try talking to her again. Tell her that the bullying is still continuing. Then, in a polite manner, offer to help her with the cub scout meetings so things can be sorted out. However, hold back for a minute or so if you see the bullying again - this may be easier said than done! But your son might feel more confident standing up for himself if you're nearby. He's still a little boy; he's going to need help standing up to his bully. Teach him to use his words, and make sure he knows if he doesn't speak up for himself, he will continue to be picked on.
You may also want to consider getting your son into self defense classes. This isn't to teach him to beat up his bully by any means. Rather, it will teach him confidence and respect for himself (that is, that he shouldn't put up with being bullied). He may learn that it's OK to be non confrontational, but not at the risk of getting tripped and pushed around. Good luck!
2007-10-17 11:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by SoBox 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the age when boys start stretching their strengths. Maybe this kid is jealous and doesn't know how to handle it, maybe he is wanting a closer friendship with your son, and going about it the wrong way. YES talk to the MOM....One time when my son had this problem with a kid, I asked the boy if he wanted to come over and go swimming in our pool. Talked to the parents so that was ok....(My son didn't like him very much but, this proved to be the best thing for my kid, and the other kid) I was able to talk to the boy about bullying and what it is, does, and how others look at him when he is acting like that. This kid felt somewhat left out with other kids, and this was his way to act big. Well, my Son learned that the kids that act like that are often not liked very well, and sometimes they need a pat on the back, or someone just to talk too. They will feel better about themselves eventually if they know other kids do care. This taught my Son to be a problem solver, fixer, and he was always willing to help someone.
2007-10-17 11:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by Toffy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The main thing is your son. He does not need to feel vulnerable. The bully is not the problem, because he is a minor. I would confront the mother and kindly stress that his attitude will NOT be tolerated. If she can't handle him I would let her know that the police will be called if another incident occurs. The main thing is your son.
2007-10-17 11:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to bully a lot of kids...i know its bad that when i was around six. I learned out from my dad so he must be getting it from some where. I was must afraid of my mom being called from the Principal or another parent, but I never got called upon. Teach ytour child the WITS,
Walk away
Ignore
Talk about it
Say something
Anyways I hope your child doesnt get bullied anymore and I hope it helped, lots of luck.
2007-10-17 11:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the mother......give her the opportunity to do something and then IF she doesn't you have the COMPLETE right to stand up for your son. He is only 6....common now....
thats what parents are for.
Also, maybe, you should take this as an opportunity to teach him to stand up for himself..........its only going to get worse as he gets older. Get him into Tai Kuan do or karate or something..... those things help kids to have confidence,
be obediant and stand up for themselves.
Good luck, mom
2007-10-17 11:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my parents told me to fight and stick up for myself because no one else will. you must tell your child to stick up for himself or hell never make such important decisions later in life when you are not around. of cource violence isnt the answer but at 6 you cant truly get injured
edit
for the dude below me, you cant ge called on by the police for bullying at six
besides no signs of physical abuse no evidence besides too drastic
2007-10-17 11:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would let the mother know that it is going on, and that if it does not stop, you will be talking to the school (teachers, principal, whoever).
2007-10-17 14:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your his mom and u need to step up to the plate and stand up to your son. obviously, the other kids parents aren't doing that with their kid.
Track down the other kid and tell him to get the **** away. he's 6 -- he can handle it and teach ur kid to defend himself.
jesus crist lady.
you can't just be like "leave my son alone please..."
you have to be like, "do you need your mom to get over here!?!?!! you leave my son the heck alone!!!!"
and u teach ur son how to stand his ground!!!
2007-10-17 12:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋