My son is non confrontational and this child is aggressive pushing tripping etc. The mother is actually the leader of my son's tiger den and from what I have seen has no clue how to handle her son, which makes you wonder how exactly she became the leader. My instinct is to tell the mom to talk to her son, but I don't know if that will work. I don't want my son to be the victim of an abusive unruly child and suffer from low self esteem etc. I have told my son that it is not his fault and to tell the boy to leave him alone, but as of yet it hasn't worked.
2007-10-17 11:20:26 · 15 answers · asked by R J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Threaten the bully's parents with a lawsuit. That'll show them!
2007-10-17 11:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Seymour 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have 3 boys and at some point I've had this talk with all three.
Sit your son down and let him know that you two are going to have an "adult" talk. Explain why some people are like that. Honestly. Let him know that the other mom isn't teaching her son right from wrong. Maybe he acts this way because things at his house are bad. Explain what that boy may be feeling to make him act this way. Ask if the other boy has friends, real friends. Don't tell him to turn the other cheek but tell him to TEACH the other boy how to be a friend. If he picks on him ask him to play at recess. Pushes him, sit by him at lunch. Calls him names, don't call names back but compliment the other boy in return.
Kids are more like us than we know. We can be hateful if to the check out girl at the grocery if we've had a bad day. Kids can take hings out on each other if something in their world isn't right.
2007-10-17 15:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should defiantly say something to the other child's mother, even I you think it might not help, you might be surprised. At least she will be aware of the situation. Have you seen this happening yourself. If you do, speak to the boy and tell him it's not nice to hurt other children (might make him bully your son less if he knows your on to him). Also try and find out why your son in particular is being bullied, and if it's just him or other children he is bullying. If it is other kids too, speak to their mother's. They might have an idea themselves. Either way just keep reassuring your son that it's the other boys problem that he has a bad attitude, not his. Tell your son to ignore him and stay away from him as much as possible. (All kids experience bullying one time or another in their lives). There's heaps of great books out there too, pick one up and have a good read.
2007-10-17 11:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to this mom, but do so out of earshot of the children or other parents. It's possible that she doesn't even see what is happening between these boys. As a cub scout parent, its highly unlikely that she would encourage this sort of behavior in her son.
You also need to be teaching your son how to stand up for himself. He needs to know how to express himself, and demand the respect from his peers that he deserves. Play act scenarios with him to teach him the appropriate responses and actions in these situations. Of course, we wouldn't encourage hitting, but there are ways for him to look out for himself.
I strongly encourage you to try to work things out with this boy and his mom. This is an opportunity for both boys to grow and learn, but if the tiger den mom and you cannot work things out between the boys, then you should find your son a new den. This is supposed to be a good experience for him.
2007-10-20 19:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer permit your son proceed to be a sufferer! it is not your fault, and it is not his, the two. the mummy is obviously clueless and not in simple terms should not be a den mom, yet should not be a mom. attempt chatting together with her lower back. tell her that the bullying continues to be persevering with. Then, in a polite way, grant to help her with the cub scout conferences so issues could be regarded after out. in spite of the indisputable fact that, carry lower back for a minute or so in case you notice the bullying lower back - this could be extra convenient stated than achieved! yet your son might experience extra optimistic status up for himself once you're close by. he continues to be a splash boy; he's going to choose help status as much as his bully. instruct him to apply his words, and be sure he's familiar with if he would not communicate up for himself, he will proceed to be picked on. you additionally can opt to contemplate getting your son into self protection instructions. that may no longer to instruct him to triumph over up his bully via any potential. fairly, it relatively is going to instruct him self assurance and appreciate for himself (that's, that he shouldn't post with being bullied). He could study that it relatively is alright to be non confrontational, yet no longer on the prospect of having tripped and pushed around. solid success!
2016-10-04 01:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by hamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 9 yr old girl and in 3rd grade another girl was bullying her and i don't know how long it went on because my daughter is kinda shy and when she did tell me i sat her down and talked with her and told her its not her fault that's she bullying her and i told her to ask the girl to leave her alone. so after she told her that she left her alone for a little while then she started again so i called her teacher at school and told her i was concerned about my daughter being bullyed and the teacher had called the girls parents and told them and after that day the girl has been extremely nice to my daughter and now they are friends and she wants to come and stay the night and wants my daughter to come and stay the night but i said not for awhile until we know her better and all that stuff.
2007-10-20 18:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents cant help. Im from NY if you didnt fight back you were a victum for life. My son had this same problem. We told him to do it the old fashion way. Fight back! It worked. But it was really hard for my son. He is the same way. This year 2nd grade he and that kid are now good budies. But if he doesnt learn how to deal with it now it will continue to happen. Good luck. If this doesnt work or your son cant do it. Talk to the teacher, or person who is around when it happens. Make them aware of the situation. It can help.
2007-10-18 11:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by demo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't handle it you put it in the hands of the teacher and principal. If it is the den leader you need to keep yourself out of it unless the school fails to act. Tell your son to stay with his friends (bullies don't tend to go after groups) and to stand up for himself. As I tell my son....never ever start it but damn well finish it
2007-10-17 16:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't the other boy's fault that your son is non confrontational and non assertive. It is up to your SON to defend himself. If he doesn't don't blame the other child or the other mother's form of parenting. Just because she doesn't parent YOUR way doesn't make HER way wrong. Obviously since your son is easily bullied you're not doing a very hot job yourself.
2007-10-19 07:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
talk to the parents first, if that doesnt work then talk to the school teacher or principle. They will take care of it. Tell your child just to avoid this kid, it is not worth getting in trouble over some kid being mean.
2007-10-17 11:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋