This is personal, and I appreciate your care in answering:
My GF and I have been together 3 years and usually have no problems in our sex life as a whole. It is healthy, fun and we are both content with each other's abilities and performance. However, she has always been very "shy" if that's the right word. Lights off during love-making sort of girl. She talks a lot about how uncomfortable she is with her body and stomach, even though she is 5'4" and 120 lbs, which seems very healthy to ME. I love her for who she is, but I thought she shared my sex drive when I first got into the relationship. She basically doesn't. Again, I know for a fact she has no issues with me or my performance, but I this self-image mentality is starting to affect our intimacy. Since we have sex less (from every other day to now twice a month), I have been going out of my mind! She tells me she WANTS to have more sex, badly, she just feels "not confident". Is this for real or is the issue something with me?
2007-10-17 09:57:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her you are uncomfortable with yourself too, but you feel free around her. And that if she wants, you'll run around booty naked, in the light. Tell her you fell in love with her, not her body, but her personality makes her beautiful inside out. Tell her she can me comforable around you. Also give her time.
2007-10-17 10:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by ABC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5'4 and 120lbs seems to be great shape to me. I dont see how her self image issue could bring down your sex from every other day to twice a month! I think you need to sit down and talk to her about this situation and let her know it is really bothering you. Ask her to tell you the absolute truth! See if something else is going on. My girlfriend and I had the same thing happen to us, but in this situation, it was me that had the problem. It turned out that my testosterone was pretty much in the dumps and that is why i only wanted to have sex about 3 times a month. I finally got help from a natural medical doctor who prescribed my testosterone cream. My sex drive drive is much much better and it has only been 3 weeks.
You have been with this girl 3 years so I dont think you should have a problem having a heart to heart talk to her. You two need to figure out what is going on, whether it is psychological or medical. Sex is an important part of a young relationship.
I highly doubt the issue is with you. And i doubt that she may be getting some from the side as some might say. Just talk to her and find out.
2007-10-17 10:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mike G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have an eating disorder and have struggled with self-image for years. When I have struggled with these issues there have been times that it has affected my enjoyment of sex. I still wanted to have sex but I had trouble enjoying it because I felt so uncomfortable with my body. It is possible that your girlfriend needs help with her body image. My best advice is to do your best to make her feel beautiful and loved.
2007-10-17 10:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by KO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer know your gf so i'm no longer able to make conclusions approximately this occasion, yet I could say that she has in all probability experienced some sort of sexual abuse in the previous, possibly you're able to ask her...idk, yet she feels undesirable approximately exhibiting you her genitals. She would not believe you as her boyfriend. Or parhaps she has been informed that intercourse is undesirable, so she feels to blame approximately it. do no longer stress her to do something she would not opt to do. it relatively is her physique, and you 2 are no longer married. subsequently, she has the splendid to be sure to instruct you or no longer. possibly you're able to end exhibiting her your male area too. in simple terms permit her be, do no longer difficulty her approximately it lower back, because of the fact bothering her approximately it would in simple terms make her experience undesirable. in case you relatively love her, be sure she is gentle. possibly some day she'll believe you adequate to instruct you her woman area. some human beings could be incredibly shy approximately that area of their physique.
2016-10-04 01:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by ridder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was confident before, what changed? You need to ask her and be sensitive to her response. Make her feel comfortable that nothing she could tell you would make you love her any less. (unless she's sleeping with someone else!)
2007-10-17 10:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Redbutter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is having problems with self image she might want to see a therapist.
2007-10-17 10:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she told you she wants to have sex more frequently, believe her.
Just be there for her and support her.....ask her if there's anything you can do to help.
And, if this is really driving you crazy..........maybe you should reevaluate your relationship with her, maybe she feels like all you do is have sex. Maybe she wants other things in the relationship....GOOD LUCK!
2007-10-17 10:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's holding out for marriage? Ask her if that's an issue.
2007-10-17 10:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably telling you the truth. try to compliment her more often and tell her how you feel ...that you love her and her body the way it is....and tell her you think shes perfect...
2007-10-17 10:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Future Ms. Doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋