Is He Cheating?

Question

i think my boyfreind is cheating. he use to always complement me but not any more. he would always spend time with me, not any more. i can never get a hold of him, anymore, usually it him always calling me but not anymore, i know that he has lied to me before about where he was but i don't know who he was with or if he was even with any one. what should i do we have been dating for over a year now?

Answer 1

The best thing to do is ignore him and see if he comes running. Don't initiate any contact, wait to see if he contacts you and when he does, don't reply for at least 8 hours (and then tell him you are busy with your mates). If he is off with someone else, he wont give a hoot that you are 'busy' so its a dead giveaway. I wouldn't be sure he is cheating - sounds more like you are being taken for granted but then you never can tell. Give him a taste of his own medicine and see what happens. Good luck.

Answer 2

Before you go and break up with this guy you may just want to set down and talk to him. It is so easy for people that do not know this guy to say he is cheating, by just reading what you have wrote. Maybe he just needs time to his self or time with his friends. Ask him if he is wanting to see other people. If he says he is commited to you tell him how you feel about the changes in the way he has been treating you. Alot of the times as a relationship matures there are not as many compliments as in the beginning of a relationship. Also let him know that he does not have to lie to you about were he goes. I hate for some one to lie to me, so I would not put up with this very long

Answer 3

well, it is never good to snap to a conclusion! If it were me i would get a hold of him and have a very serious talk and make sure he knows that he is in hot water! If he keeps acting like he doesn't care or is being secretive after you have had you discussion i would break up with him! I have always thought once a cheater always a cheater! But he might not be cheating so remember always get the truth first!

Answer 4

I went through the same thing with my parents. My mom started spending more time with this teenage girl who used to live next door to us. My dad suspected something when she said she's going to spend time with the girl until the girl's boyfriend got home from work. My mom didn't come home until the next day, and she didn't say she was staying over or what the ****. In the end, she was cheating. In fact, she's been cheating since July with some ugly dirty *** guy who lived on the rez where the teenage girl lived. You know, if something like that seems to be happening with your boyfriend, he may be cheating. Try to study his behavior.

Just between you and me, I feel like going back to my mom's house and beating the **** out of that asshole for ******* up my parents' 24-year relationship. They were together for 9 years before I was born, and my dad's really broken up about it. Anyway, I'm rambling now. I'm going to stop now. Good luck.

Answer 5

I think you should talk to him. He may be losing interest in the relationship. I would not assume he is cheating although he might be. If he is then you should definitely break up with him. On the other hand, he might not even realize he is doing it because men perceive things so much differently than women. The best advice I can give is tell him how you feel and see what he says. Be clam and assertive not accusatory when you tell him how you feel and how you perceive things because the situation might get blown out of proportion.

Answer 6

I hate to say, but why not ask him what the heck is up?? If you have been dating for over a year number 1. quit expecting the compliments. number 2. expect he won't spend as much time with you and number 3. you should have open communication enought to talk to him. Or you can always kick him to the curb and find someone else to experience the same things with.

Answer 7

It doesn't sound good. Now the not complimenting and spending time with you doesn't necessarily lead me to believe he is but when you can't get a hold of him and he won't tell you who he is, these are bad signs. Stop calling him and don't answer your phone when he calls for a few days and see how he reacts. If he isn't mad then he's probably got someone on the side and its time for you to move on.

Answer 8

Well darling you can't base cheating on the fact that he doesn't compliment you anymore. You can however base it on the fact that he has lied to you before about where he was going to be at. Plus, if you feel in your heart that he is up to no good, then your heart will not fail you. Start doing some investigating of your own and if you don't feel like you are up to it, have a heart to heart with him and explain to him how you feel and that he should consider you more like he use to. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

It seems like you two need a break. You should both agree to take some time out, i g some time to think about your relation, your feelings etc... Usually, a week to a month should do the job. If you can't live without each other it will obvious immedeately. If you feel like breathing again, finally - then it's all said - you two have just lost it.. (:(

Answer 10

1) The honeymoon period is over. I'm sorry, but this is pretty much a fact of life. You're in a relationship and he isn't going to be doting on you 100% of the time. Does it mean he's cheating? No, it means he's busy.

2) Talk to him. Arrange for weekly date nights. You don't need to be spending 100% of your time together--it's not healthy for either one of you.