I broke up with her a year ago. She was wonderful but I didn't have time to her and I couldn't carry on a long distance relationship; but I MISS her very bad. Two months ago I sent her a letter asking her forgiveness and telling her that I was extremely stupied but with nothing about getting back together. I didn't expect she would reply because I disgraced her, I admit I hurt her much. And then she replied with a very brief e-mail saying she forgave me and she got over the hard time. I sent her another e-mail thanking her for her reply and saying that I wish we may have a chance to have coffee together someday when I go back to the country (actually I meant to be friends as a step to get to know each other better that might lead to a relationship again).
It is more than one month and she has not replied. I know she read my e-mail but why hasn't she replied? Also I tried to call her once and no response.
Note: I know from friends over there that she hasn't dated anyone since me.
2007-10-17 09:42:49 · 11 answers · asked by Heartache 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some things are so difficult to explain. We look at all sides, at all probabilities, at all the could be's and would be's and find no answer---everything is a big question mark. It looks like she has her own world now, but I believe she did what is best by replying to your email about what she truly feels after the separation and that you are forgiven is good enough for you to know. She knows that you feel something more than friendship for her, and maybe that's why she chooses to shy away from you. She knows in her heart that she can never be more than a friend and she probably feels uncomfortable with you.
Being indifferent to your feelings and not complying to your email or call means she couldn't care less. She could had been probably gone through a very difficult time in her life after your break-up. You say, she hasn't dated anyone since then. So, give her a break. There's another way, a bit more difficult though, called one step at a time. Do you get me? Don't underestimate the power of the saying, "If there's a will, there's a way."
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ravishingV
2007-10-17 10:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In another country, you didn't have time for her, and you can't carry on a long distance relationship... Sounds to me like you already made the choice for her... when it comes to matters of the heart, you either love her, or you don't... and if you love her, then you need to be there for her. I moved heaven and earth for the woman I loved, we dated for 4years long distance, and have been married for 14. I called her every night, and visited almost every weekend. Remember, relationships aren't about what YOU want, they are about what you both want, and showing your their for the LONG RUN. I am sure in her mind, even if you did come back, she would think "will he stay? or is there something more important than me that will take him away again?" Personaly, I would say it is over, now you need to learn from it and move on...
2007-10-17 09:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Zerstorer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and her do not sound like your going to get back together soon. whatever you did must have hurt and maybe she hasn't gotten a chance to get over it. Give her some time and if it;s meant to be she'll come back for you and if its not learn from your mistakes because you cant change them and you can only learn from them.
2007-10-17 09:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably just means that she needs time to think things through. It doesn't necessarily mean your relationship with her is over. Give her time and wait for her call. If she doesn't then maybe she's not ready to work things out.
Hope everything goes well for you !
2007-10-17 09:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better find someone else and I mean like ASAP. I was in the same situation but my girlfriend broke it off. I am still hurt and miss her terribly. She still calls me because she "still wants to be friends". I haven't dated anyone since we split because I have it in my mind that maybe miraculously, she'll change her mind. Do yourself a favour, find someone else. HIRE A CALL GIRL IF NECESSARY!!!
2007-10-17 09:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its good that she gave you the forgiveness, maybe she had to do that for herself, for closure. maybe shes still scorned or even unsure if she wants to travel the same road with you again.we are kind of funny like that. we go there get the t shirt and sell it if we didnt like where we were at that time in our lives. know what i mean, if its meant to be she will come back but if not you have to understand her point of things too. good luck to you and God bless you
2007-10-17 09:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 4 boys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is remembering what you did to break her heart.
She forgave you. It doesn't mean she forgot.
You messed with her mind and maybe now she is afraid to take a chance with anyone.
2007-10-17 09:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by L M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has not called you cause she is not intrested in you anymore. I am a woman so i should know...get over it or you will seriously creep her out!!
2007-10-17 09:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sexy Mama of 2 cuties♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has forgiven you but doesn't want to see you. Sounds like it to me.
2007-10-17 09:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by tugar357 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, but yes it is over.
It is time for you to move on too.
2007-10-17 09:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋