My husband is a transvestite and a friend of mine is getting married and she needs an extra bridesmaid. I suggested to my husband he could do it, at first he said no but i feel underneath he woudl like to do it since I don't allow him to cross dress. Even though I don't approve I want hime to have some fun as a woman, so should he go for it? He does look very good as a girl, gave to say...
2007-10-17 09:31:58 · 29 answers · asked by Rachel_Louise33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Let the man be happy and dress like a woman whenever he wants.
2007-10-17 10:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by noelbutterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts?
ALL men in dresses look just like that - a man in a dress. You can't do anything about their coarser features, different body shape, prominent adams apple, deep voice, different way of walking (different shaped pelvis). If you go ahead with this, have a good answer to the question "Why is that man got a dress and make-up on?"
If your husband is a TV, let him enjoy his pleasures in private, not by exposing him to public ridicule. Sorry, but that's the way the world is.
2007-10-18 05:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all brides choose their own bridesmaids and all couples want everyone to remember their big day what agreat friend she must be if shes up for this her guests will talk about their wedding for a long time to come what a wonderful couple with open minds make sure the press is there and show the world that some people accept others for who they are inside and out hope their day is as special as they are
2007-10-17 17:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband were transgender, that is if he lived as a woman all the time, and he were someone that the bride or groom was close enough to have in their wedding party, I'd say yes.
However, in this case, it's to even out the bridal party, and, as you put it "to have some fun as a woman". Seems like an unnecessary diversion of attention from the bride & groom.
2007-10-17 16:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a good compromise you could do what my friend is doing. she is having a male bridesmaid but instead of having him in a dress she is having a waistcoat and other accessory type things made in the same material as the female bridesmaids dresses.
2007-10-18 08:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by kate m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First the bridal party does not have to have an even number of attendants.
Second if you do not approve, why are you encouraging him? Either you support him or you don't. I think it is unfair of you to not "allow" him to cross dress, but then push him to do so. Besides you do not own him, to say that you don't allow him to do something is controlling and selfish.
He should dress how he wants and do what he is comfortable doing.
2007-10-17 19:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your friend asking him to be a bridesmaid....I'd wait for an invite before making plans. If she wants him to do it and he feels comfortable with it then sure, why not. I'm a little confused why you 'don't allow him to cross dress' and then want him to be your friend's bridesmaid though. Surely you're either ok with it or you're not.
2007-10-17 16:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by magenta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to him, ultimately. Maybe he does not want to parade around in a bridesmaid dress for a whole day, in the public eye. Maybe, if it's a church wedding, it would not be appropriate anyways...
2007-10-17 16:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lizi 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he's happy to do it, and you're happy to let him then go for it (and of course your friend is happy with it). At least the annual getting the wedding album out chore will makefor some unusual conversation...lol
Good luck
2007-10-17 16:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
realistically the bride and groom are incharge of making that decision.
if the bride asks your husband if he'd like to be a bridesmaid, and HE wants to do it then there's no problem at all.
it will be a great opportunity for him to flaunt it!
2007-10-17 16:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by chilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋