So when im around someone that i like i figit. shake my leg, bite my lip, twiddle my thumbs, avoid eye contact. So there is this girl who cuts my hair. when she was doing my bangs at first i was staring at her but then i realized i was smiling really bad. so i looked down well then i saw some lol cleavage. so i looked up and i saw her smiling so i tried to look away. then my leg started going up and down. Anything i can do to calm my nerves around some one im very interested in???
i no i asked but like i only had a few answers.
2007-10-17 09:31:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest...just apologize and say that you are a bit nervous...if they ask why, you can tell them that you would be embarrassed to say. If they press you, I think you can tell them because you find them attractive. Honesty IS the best policy....
2007-10-17 09:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is easy! Think about her dancing around you. Think about the funniest joke you can tell and just tell it to her. Think about what you want to talk to her about so once you start up a conversation with her your bangs are cut and she's done and you've just initiated a conversation that may lead to something else. Oh and you're not nervous and figiding anymore.
Just keep your mind focused on talk to her or thinking about something off the wall. Talk to yourself in your head.
The best thing though is the first paragraph and that's to just talk to her. Ask questions about her. How long she's been cutting hair? How long has she had those nice boobs? I don't know come up with something though. Good luck.
2007-10-17 16:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by level_9yo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have more confidence in yourself, and self-esteem. Fill your mind with lots of positive affirmations; that is good thoughts about yourself, boost your moral a bit.
There are lots of ways that you can boost your confidence and self-esteem. Check out the many self-help books that are on the market.
Do a google search. Type in "Self confidence" and see what comes up.
Everybody feels nervous when they see somebody they like or when it is their first date, even when they have dated before they still get nervous around somebody new. So it is perfectly normal to feel a bit nervous and get butterflies in your stomach.
Take heart. There is somebody for you out there. Just work on building your confidence and self-esteem, and overcome your shyness, ok? Things will gradually get easier.
Blessings x
2007-10-17 17:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Night Owl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is to actually get up the nerve to talk to this girl. After the initial uncomfortableness, the feeling of jitter bugs should go away. The more you get to know someone the more likey you are to feel comfortable in their presence.
2007-10-17 16:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by joelenebrowneyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really help feeling nervous. You just have some very strong indicators that you are nervous. I had a friend who always shook his leg a lot while sitting, and it would be for no particular reason. His GF would always smack his leg, not hard, every time he started to shake his leg. Over time he stopped.
2007-10-17 16:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alrighty young one. Let me help you out here. You are trying to not show your emotions which are manifested in physical actions due to your lust or affection for this crush who sounds like she is a female as you are. 1st, that is so sexy. For real, you have to practice being around people that makee you figgity. If you are around them more often, you will be accustomed to relaxing around them. How can you be around this person more you might ask...Take them out. She cuts your hair so tell her you would like to thank her for doing a great job and invite her to starbucks so yall can sitback and chill. I do not suggest that you get any coffee though. You need to drink the tension tamer tea only.
2007-10-17 16:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by slbeezie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i think you need to breath slower and deeper and think that you are your worst critic and most people are more worried about there lives and only take notice of very few things other people do or say, then you need to work on getting more confident with yourself. self esteem plays a huge role in your nerviousness and eye contact.
good luck.
2007-10-17 16:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by Angela W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a few deep breaths and maybe ask a question or two to start a convorsation? its the best way i know to calm down because by starting a convorsation, you're building confidence to be comfortable around a person whom you like...
2007-10-17 16:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about something else.. it's the only thing that works...
normally, they suggest when you're nervous around people, to imagine them naked, but if your looking down her shirt at the time, this probably isn't a good idea.....
2007-10-17 16:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a few deep breathes and then talk to them. I meaan why not what do you have to lose someone who you just met saying their busy or no. I mean who cares what other ppl think. Just be yourself you'll be fine.
2007-10-17 16:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by Damien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋