Anyone who has any Suggestions for me , kindly post your response. [ Some of you girls know what I"m looking for right?]
2007-10-17 09:10:20 · 27 answers · asked by snowbunny360 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
at church.....or at Calvin College
2007-10-17 09:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by m m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I'm a Southern California dude, so I'll do my best to give you an answer. No, you are not stupid for asking the question you ask in a world of betrayal and disloyalty. The only spiritual man who was proper and straight without error would be Jesus Christ and, He's not around here anymore except in spirit. But as for worldly people (guys), the only way you will be successful in finding a guy who is spiritual and smart will be the one God directs you toward, but don't be in a hurry. There's a lot of guys out there who are looking for the wrong reasons, and relationships are the furthest thing from most of their minds. Take your time, pay attention to priorities and, guys should not be one of them because if they are you will definitely and absolutely be disappointed. There are a lot more important things than trying to find Mr. Right in a world full of so many Mr. Wrongs.
2007-10-17 16:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we're pretty good at hiding. I'd say church is definitely one option, but you obviously can't just start flirting during the service, so you probably want to try church picnics and outings instead of just services.
Other than that, I don't know. Most of the other smart and spiritual guys I know end up like me, getting wrapped up in various hobbies and not getting out and meeting women. Martial arts is a popular one, so you could try taking a class. The gym is more popular among smart guys than you might think as well. The library, Barnes & Noble, and Starbucks were all good suggestions as well, though I don't go to any of them except to get something and then take it home.
2007-10-17 17:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a stupid question. Lots of people don't go for empty headed football players. That being said, your description is a little vague. There are many different kinds of "smart" guys and they are to be found in different places. For example the only guys I've every been untested in were "nerds" who some people consider smart. I met them by sharing activities with them like playing video games and Dungeons and Dragons and going to action movies. But maybe you prefer the literary or doctor/lawyer type as your definition of smart. Whatever you are looking for, I suggest participating in an activity (like a book club,cross-word puzzles or something) that shows you can relate to their special brand of smart. If you are a student, take some advanced classes and ask the guys there to talk to you about the subject. Smart guys often feel lonely and rejected and they want to know that a woman can relate to their particular type of smartness so show them you have a good brain.
2007-10-17 16:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by KazaKu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are MANY 'smart and spiritual' guys out there ... and the BEST way to get to know one is to be a 'good friend' ... and that means having 'long intellectual talks' WITH people. I met my 'smart and spiritual' guy when we both moved into an apartment building for the formerly homeless. We've now been married for nearly 11 years, and our income is now $60,000 a year. We had 'different religions' when we started out, and it was only by 'examining the syntax' that we realized we believed the same basic stuff. We now share our religion. We are partners, lovers, playmates, and BEST FRIENDS. We were best friends first ... try it, because it really DOES WORK!
2007-10-17 16:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kris L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
finally someone with enough sense to want a spiritual and smart guy..........well i would say church, but you probably already checked there, so find out who guys at the church who are around your age hang with, there is bound to be a smart and spiritual guy among them......(and no you cant have my BFF whom i would love to have as a BF!!!);)
2007-10-17 16:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
church, youth groups, leadership groups, retreats, school. Try and go to Borders or Barnes and Nobles and take a walk through the religion section
2007-10-17 16:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will say at church but not all those there are the real thing either. talk to you pastor or his wife.
most of all prayer. set in your heart what you are really looking for and tell God. just because it looks nice doesnt mean it is. if they stray from anything you are looking for and you say well we will get back to that or he doesnt go to church as much as you would like . they will pull you down, dont ever think you are the strong one whom will bring him back it doesnt happen, they will pull you down.
2007-10-17 16:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by carol l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go to the library. Why? Because none of the other idiots at school will step a foot in there!
2007-10-17 16:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by Neziwi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem is, we don't really have a centralized place to hang out. You have to root around a little, weed out what you aren't looking for.
2007-10-17 16:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by highball116 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen more spiritual people on the street corner than in church.
2007-10-17 16:13:20 · answer #11 · answered by kurol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋