Ladies would you date a guy that...?

Question

is ugly, poor, has bad eyesight and posture? Are my chances of getting a girlfriend very good? My standard are not especially high: I like women that are: alive, in my general age range, and probably won't cheat on me, but if they were to, they would have their male friend use a condom?

So what are my chances and are my standards too high?

no, I'm not "trolling".

Answer 1

i wouldnt date a guy that has no confidence

Answer 2

What I read when you describe yourself is: Ugly: is in the eye of the beholder. Poor: Do you have a steady job? Bad eyesight again can be fixed. Posture: having some self pride can fix part of that. You should seriously seek counseling for being this insecure about yourself. If you think that is all you should get out of a relationship there is seriously something wrong with you. I would rather live life alone than to expect so little out of a relationship. If those are your standards for real,and you do get someone, you are going to find someone that brings you down and makes you more miserable than you already think you are. Google some info on self esteem issues.

Answer 3

You might just be hard on yourself. You probably aren't that ugly, and if you are, it won't matter as long the "inside" of you is beautiful. Bad posture is something temporary that YOU can fix. Bad eyesight is normal, don't worry too much about that. Poor? At least you know you won't get a gold digger. As long as you know how to treat a lady good, you're committed, you're faithful, and treat her right, then you are doing fine. But your lack of much confidence might be a turn-off. One of the best ways to be likeable, is believe in yourself and love yourself (but don't get cocky or prideful!), then others will believe in you and be able to love you.

You don't have too high standards for a woman. I'm glad that you aren't shallow. A relationship has to be based on honesty, and a girl that cheats isn't great at having relationships, so that isn't a high standard, it SHOULD be expected. It's a half and half chance that she will have him use a condom. That's just up to her.

Answer 4

Raise your standards... you deserve more than "alive".

Got bad eyesight - go get contacts, that takes care of the ugly glasses. Stand up straight and start doing some exercise with weights and maybe a little yoga (yes, its for guys too) and that will take care of the posture, also ugliness, because it will boost your self esteem - which really seems non-existent. You don't want to be with some one that cheats on you. Try to find a better job, not just to cake a girl either! Do it for yourself - but again that comes with self esteem, which gets us back to square one (see it above). Good luck.

Answer 5

Your standards for -yourself- are too -low-. You will not get a woman if you're advertising yourself as "ugly, poor, with bad eyesight and posture." What attracts us more than anything is confidence and a good personality. If you're confident in yourself and believe you're a worthwhile person, people will see that and think you're more attractive. You need to learn to be okay with yourself before you go looking for someone else. Anybody who wound up with you right now would most likely take advantage of the fact that you hate yourself and make you even more miserable. Try getting counseling. It helps.

Answer 6

They say that there is someone out there for everyone. However, that someone may also be like you described yourself, ugly, poor, and has bad eyesight, or not like you, whatever that entails.

I will not say your standards are too high. But whatever you want, in light of your description, you should be realistic about what type of woman realistically would be interested.

As to whether a woman would cheat on you, only God knows, regardless of how you treat her.

Answer 7

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm sure your not as bad as you describe yourself. It sounds to me like you have absolutely no self confidence! You need to love yourself, before you can love someone else. Are your standards to high you ask? To have a woman that is alive, and PROBABLY won't cheat on you, and if she does have her lover use a condom!! My God those don't sound like standards to me, sounds like you would settle just to have someone love you, but that would not be love! When you love yourself and have confidence in yourself, you will portray that to the women you come in contact with. Women do like men who like themselves, and have confidence. Don't just settle because you want to be loved, because in all honesty, it wouldn't be love. Maybe you could work on your posture, and perhaps look at contacts or a nice pair of glasses. You seem like a nice guy, like yourself first and everything else will fall into place at the right time. Good luck my friend!

Answer 8

Develop better self-confidence. Putting yourself down all the time won't make you seem very attractive to the ladies. Focus on the good qualities you have and build upon them. If you have bad posture, begin to work out and eat healthy. If you have bad eye sight, get contacts. Change your perception about you then your dating life will change also. Right now, you sound needy and pathetic. Do something about it rather than whine about it.

Answer 9

please have some faith in yourself. thats what woman like, and the ones who go on looks alone, well, you dont want one like that. dont settle for someone that would cheat as long as they wear protection. thats not fair to you. your standards are not high enough! if you know your posture is bad then fix it. but fix it for you and you alone. there is someone out there for you no matter what you look like, just dont settle for someone who will treat you bad just so you dont have to be alone, cause just as soon as you do, the one you are supposed to be with will miss out because you are already involved with the wrong one, know what i mean? i wish you lots of luck, up your standards and your self image. no one is that bad! God bless you and your journey. try out an on line dating thing if you want, i dont know but maybe that would help you out a little, that way you can fall for each others personalities rather than outward appearance.

Answer 10

My BF is 5' 4" tall, 165#, wild hair, little or no social skills,
computer geek, with a penchant for video games.
never had: a kiss, a date, sex of any kind.
Someone that most would consider undatable..

Came over to my house to set up my electronics.
He grew on me, and I invited him back for dinner.
By the strangest twist of fate, he got lucky and some time later, luckier still.

Now he has two tall,slim, redheaded girlfriends (one of which is super-model beautiful, and the other has boobs bigger-than-your-head) that adore him and will do almost anything for him. (and yes, he gets as much sex from either or both in a week, than most get in a month)

all because he was likeable , had awicked,twisted sense of humor, and was willing to learn what pleased his GFs.

Answer 11

You don't sound to much into yourself, how do you expect for others to like you? And what does bad eyesight have anything to do with relationships? I think you should focus on liking yourself first. If you think you are ugly and poor that is what projects to others when they meet you. What about your other aspects. Are you fun and interesting?