I have 2 daughters 2 and 5, my oldest goes to preschool and has been talking about how mean daddy is to her, he is not really mean he is just controlling and strict. I am scared she might say the wrong thing at school and then I will lose my kids...is this possible? she drew a picture for her teacher and it was her in tears, she wants to give it to her teacher but I said no.....I am teriffied...thanks!
2007-10-17 08:41:14 · 21 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Well, honestly, if your kids feel that strongly about it, something needs to be changed. If someone is strict, the child will be angry and upset, but rub it off their shoulder but the fact that it sticks with them is not healthy. you need to talk to their father [your husband?] and work something out! yes, they may exaggerate, but if they are bringing it to school, something is too far over the top.
2007-10-17 08:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think there's more to this than you are telling us. You say he's "controlling" which, for your information is abusive and "Strict" which gives us no info at all. There is a reason you are terrified and you're not telling us what it is.
Nobody can help you unless you tell us the whole story. Sounds like her daddy might have abusive issues and you are denying and therefore permitting it. If this is the case, then yes you will lose your kids and even get a trip for two to jail.
2007-10-17 09:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daddy might be really abusive to your kids behind your back, i suggest you talk to him because i worked in a day care center and we had this little girl who cried and would follow me around all day crying saying she wants her daddy but hated her mommy and i was the only one who would not yell at the kids, my boss would all the time so when the kids were upset, they'd come to me for help. I thought it was sweet so i did try and comfort them and usually it would settle most of them down quickly.
My answer should be that you talk to your hubby or boyfriend and if possible, talk to your child and ask them what is going on if you are positive they won't lie to you, and if you find anything out, i suggest you leave him imediately, get a restraining order on him if it's a bad enough problem he has, and find a man who will treat you and your children the way you all deserve to be treated.
i am sick of all these guys who act like they hate their kids and treat their women like they just want them for their body. Don't let this Ba$tard get your kids taken away from you, this world is bad enough having so many abusive parents and kids becoming negative people. Take care of this problem ASAP.
Best wishes from TNT
2007-10-17 15:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the word controlling is what stands out to me. She is obviously very unhappy and you as the parent need to make sure she is in an enviroment that has the discipline but makes her feel safe and happy. You will not lose your kids over normal discipline but boy does that word controlling stand out. You need to fix the home so you don't need to worry about what is said at school. But they look into the family I believe before taking them away or every kid that told his teacher that they were sad because there PS2 was taken off them for been naughty would be taken away
2007-10-17 09:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most that can happen there is if the teacher calls child services, they could come and do a home visit...they'd do an evaluation.
They will not just come and get your kids without a full investigation.
Have a heart to heart discussion with your husband about how his actions are affecting your daughter.
2007-10-17 08:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to have a heart to heart with your husband. If he is being that strict with them that you fear you could lose them, he should lighten up before you do. Teachers are mandated by law to report any suspicious behaviors to the authorities. It might be that your child has a teacher that is just as strict but why take the chance.
2007-10-17 09:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by cris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you all need to rethink whats acceptable behavior. You can be strict, and still be kind. Your husband seems to have rage issues.
Anyway, if the teacher felt concern she would contact CPS, and they would come in and see the house, watch all of you with them, in extreme cases have a few therapy sessions with the kids to assess their state, and go from there.
In just about all cases they find that nothing is wrong. In your cause thats all that would happen. Unless they determined that you needed parenting help.
2007-10-17 09:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone had better start talking to Daddy. Obviously he is far TOO controling and strict and that whether you want to believe it or not constitutes abuse just as beating children does. And yes, it IS possible you can loose your kids. Daddy needs to go to parenting classes, mommy needs to go to. If it weren't so bad YOU wouldn't be so scared.
2007-10-18 19:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds that your daughter is trying to tell you something. You had better listen to her. She is reaching out to you in the only way she knows how. You need to hear her!
I think it's time to talk one on one with her teacher to see if there are any more signs at school. I think you might need some sort of counseling for her and also maybe for him.
It sounds like an unhealthy situation that is ready to explode. Do not sit back and wait for that to happen. Listen to her now.
2007-10-17 08:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by jachooz 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should go to your child's school and talk with her guidance counselor. She will have some ideas and ways for your family to deal with this situation. Maybe Dad needs to lighten up on the kids. Maybe share the picture that she drew with him and let him know that he is scaring the girls. Maybe if he sees that they are in fear of him, he will understand why he needs to change his ways. Good luck!
2007-10-17 10:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by swanseaemtgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋