There was this Special Girl worked for me at this business which is now going out of business. I used to be wild and OOC. I used to be with girls who I did not even know their name. I could do this without getting emotionally involved with the person. I change my life and ended up becoming this person who could no longer have sex without being emotionally involved. I am now married to a beautiful woman (a drop dead knock-out). Anyway I had great time working with this Special Girl. Before I knew it I had crush on this Girl. I could not disclose my true feelings to her because I was married and the vows I took, I intended to keep. My feelings for this girl became stronger and stronger. I am sure she pick up on the vibes and I could have been blue steel hot for her, if I allowed myself to go there. One night when we were at the business by ourselves, she said "My name" and then "let's just do it!" She probably thought I was weird because I pretended I didn't hear her. I am conflicted
2007-10-17 08:25:19 · 32 answers · asked by Chuck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i respect you for the fact that it was basicly thrown in your face and you stayed cool and keept to your vows your a good man and a good husband you should stay that way i commend you you should steer clear of this other woman no good can come about from that i wish you luck and happiness in the future
2007-10-17 08:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by @!#$%^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot have a special friend of the opposite sex when you are married when 1) You have a history meaningless sex with women you are attracted to 2) You feel conflicted about your feelings towards the woman and your wife 3) You are considering have sex with her.
Do you have strong feelings of temptation? Yes. Is having an affair worth destroying your marriage? No. If you are serious about your vows. Drop that special friend. Do not talk to her at work, accept her phone calls or be in the same room with her alone. Years of being a faithful husband does not mean that you deserve to mess up a little. Being faithful is what you're supposed to do. Stay away from her at all costs. Even if that means changing shifts to not work with her, changing departments or even quitting if you cannot control yourself.
2007-10-17 08:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're a dick head. If you have a drop dead gorgeous wife at home you need to knock this imature crap off. There is still a little part of your old self that wants to do other women. Keep it under control or you will screw up probably the best thing that you have...your life with your wife. Ya, this girl sounds like a real sweetheart....she knows you are married yet she will sleep with you? Can you say skank? I say yes, you can have a special friend if you are married...but only if you want to hurt a lot of people and screw your life up. Your wife can also have a special friend that will cost you lots of money when she hires a lawyer....
2007-10-17 08:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Paula D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should have friends of the opposite sex, it would be weird and unhealthy if you didn't. Everyone needs to have friends of both genders I think. These people are important to have in your life and keep you balanced.
But if by "special friend" you mean a sexual partner I would say you shouldn't (unless you have an officially open relationship with your wife?). I think having an extra marital sex buddy is not a good idea if you love your wife you shouldn't do that to her she will be hurt if she finds out and you may end up throwing away your marriage for a bit of fun in bed with this girl.
You need to ask yourself is it worth it?
2007-10-17 08:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by munchkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did a good job in pretending not to hear it.
You were able to resist the temptation in front of you. Your wife is lucky to have you then.
However, being attracted to opposite sex is normal. Married, single, divorced... It's a natural feeling. To be able to control yourself in "let's just do it" is the hard part. It's a test on your marriage life actually.
So, better be strong. Mind you, there is still a lot of pretty girls out there to tempt you.
2007-10-17 08:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Angelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i trust so. All of my closest friends are adult adult males. see you later as you do not ruin it with lust. i imagine that perchance assembly each and every 2 weeks is somewhat peculiar and that i can see why in case your spouse is disenchanted about it. possibly you adult adult males ought to verify really a lot less of one yet another. that is okay to have a buddy of the different sex yet you mustn't take it that some distance. With the way you talked contained in the outline of the question, feels like you're more suitable into this different woman more suitable than your own spouse.
2016-10-21 07:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by homrich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a true test of a good man. Resist temptation and go home to that drop dead gorgeous wife you have. A moment of pleasure isn't worth a lifetime of pain.
2007-10-17 08:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way, don't go there!!
How would you feel if your wife did the same to you?
And you said you intend on keeping oyur marriage vows, so KEEP THEM. It's not that hard. Say "no" to the "Special Girl". Make sure she knows that you are married, and that you have no intention of cheating on your wife.
If you do cheat on your wife, don't expect to stay together with her.
2007-10-17 08:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lizi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You obviously don't know what real love is...if your getting feelings than you must not love your wife...As she should be the only one...men usually cannot be friends with the opposite sex as they are linear thinkers and visual...women on the other hand are emotional...you need to step back and figure out what and who you really want...it's ok to be attracted to someone but if you have "feelings" your not in love...
2007-10-17 08:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by oh_paleeeze 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is how people get hurt, both physically and mentally. Should you wife find out you messed around it could ruin your relationship with her. And she might even go after this girl and do something to hurt her. Think about the trouble you and this girl could be getting into before you mess around.
2007-10-17 08:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋