It seems that even when he genuinely likes you and there is nothing wrong with you 2 he will pull back or break it off 'cos he's hesitant to get involved, says things like, I think you want more than I do right now, why so many expectations? or nothing at all and just stops calling....why is this anyone please?
2007-10-17 07:59:34 · 35 answers · asked by Sunshine Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it is happening a lot, the problem isn't guys. I don't want to be putting you down. But it sounds like you're clingy and needy. Have you ever sought counseling for low self-esteem or depression? They are signs of co-dependent personalities. I think that you're moving too fast for the guys. You're getting emotionally attached very quickly and that is a red flag. Until you can get over your habit of too close, too soon, you'll keep sending out bad signals. Watch out. If a guy is loving it and is all for moving too fast, too soon, he likely is an abuser.
Personal experience speaking. Two siblings that can't stay out of co-dependent relationships. One of the major signs is Denial. But I hope you take this to heart, anyway.
Good luck!
2007-10-17 08:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by Serena 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Testasterone has nothing to do with willingness to commit. Depending on age, most guys are secretly toting their own forms of baggage caused by bad break-ups, and/or seeing a buddy go through one. Most guys enjoy the ability to play the field, and will continue to do so until they find the one that none else can compare too. The problem is, we have to make a lot of comparisons before we get to that point.
I chose my girlfriend I have now becuase she's everything none of the others could be. Caring, honest, committed, and excellent home maker, and she laughs at my stupid jokes even when I know they aren't even that funny. We are better friends than lovers, and neither of us make a big deal out of the small stuff. All this equates to a LACK OF DRAMA....which is really what we want.
2007-10-17 08:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many people are afraid of intimacy. People also fear being used - typically women fear being used for sex, whereas men fear being used for money. If a woman starts talking about wanting a baby on the 2nd date, this could scare off a lot of guys. Everything in a relationship matters - people can be very concerned with germs, for example, and that might play out as OCD or a repulsion to habits like putting shoes on a table. Some people can't stand to hear a partner snore. And people can argue an awful lot about drinking or spending habits.
2007-10-17 08:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah men do not like the idea of being ''hung on'' or somewhat dependent on (which is alot of ladies withing a 5-6 month period) plus men always grow up being told to not get married or involved because if you do then you loose your personal freedom....and ladies you DO know what I mean....men don't like to share ALL things especially when they are doing 3/4 of the work most of the time in the relationship (includes most but the socializing with others) dont take this the wrong way but b4 I was married I could do whatever I want and now I HAVE to include my wife in everything i do even though sometimes I dont want to (like watching the football game and grillin and drinking beer till its over.) The only response I get is ''Why can't you do something with me'', and then she totally puts me on a guilt trip like working 60 hrs a week and cleaning the house and taking care of the finances and bills and giving her money and time and consideration at all times is NOT ENOUGH.........IDK.......I think this is what most men think and this is why they take flight.
2007-10-17 08:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not all guys, but allot of guys, really like playing the field, being single etc..., They want a good time not a girl friend, really.
Also you have to remember guys are just more immature than women. Although you are at the age you are wanting more serious relationships, commitment etc., he isn't at that point yet.
Be careful though, you may think you can wait and hope he eventually grows up and catches up but some men never do.
2007-10-17 08:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hollywood is teaching our young people to crave sexual variety. This is sinful "adultery" to God, and leads to constant dissatisfaction and infidelity.
Greed is not making any one happy. More money, or even a "trophy wife" will always get trumped by some one else.
Escape the greedy chase for "MORE" or "better". Satsifaction with what you have is real wealth, and it trumps "greener grass" over the fence (or over the 'septic tank')!
There are some really "great" things about (chastity) waiting for marriage, that few know (because few have experiencd it) as I do, first hand...
- Your spouse is the BEST lover you ever had, and always will be!!!
- 'Aides', and "social" illness, beomes mere "rumours", when you are ALWAYS sleeping with a "clean" partner!!
- Plus, no one, in the whole world, can laugh at you, or criticize your love making. Not ever!!! It is just between you two!
All humans crave freedom. Men more than women, perhaps due to immaturiity.
Loss of freedom, AND "taking on responcibility" is scary. Just ask any teenager.
We need "guy space" for stuff like cars, tools and watching kick-*** action flicks. But women want to take over, to "female up" what used to be exclusive male territory.
No one but God can protect a family. Women can cry and get over that sad reality, but guys are too proud, and unable to cry.
Men kow they are not strong enough, nor good enough, to make such promises.
Find a man who trusts God. He will have faith to stand and comit his life, with God's help!
Marriages between flawed humans always fall short some how...but a good Christian union is not just between a mere man & an imperfect woman.
You BOTH need to commit your life to the almighty living God, especially inmarriage. And you also are responcible to our society (including your family, present and future).
A stable marriage is a comfort to spouse, children, your family, all of society, and our Father/Mother God!!!
The Holy Bible says "The two shall become ONE!"
"For I am jealous for you with godly jealousy. For I have betrothed you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ." 2 Corinthians 11:2
2007-10-17 08:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think guys are afraid of getting involved. I am going through this right now, and I don't understand, because you could be the greatest person, and they are more than willing to throw you in the gutter. I think men are wanting to be players so bad in this day and age. Or they have a girlfriend
2007-10-17 08:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Really it's more simple than "being distant" or "hesitant" or "putting up guard walls".
It's that many men want to bury their bones in lots of stuff. Sorry but it's true.
You'll know when a man is serious when you feel he completely genuinely loves you and you have no doubts any more.
2007-10-17 08:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys are scared to get committed too early... If you wait, you will find the right guy that will want to spend all of there time with you. Make sure you find a guy that wants the same as you. Sounds like your guy wants totally diffrent things than you! Keep your head up, The right one will come eventually.
2007-10-17 08:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
With involvement ... the fairytale hits a brick wall ... expectations go up , and things which are left unsaid .. tend to pile up and ultimately lead to the destruction of the love n spark that was the foundation of the whole thing
2007-10-17 08:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by Krazny Oktybr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋