Is it ok to sit a boy apart of the other kids in kindergarden because he hits them?

Question

My son is 4 years old is in kinder, he cant talk right, he cant use the pencil right, cant color with crayons, and he hits other kids... He has problems and specialist are investigating they have made exams to him soon I will get the results... The thing is the teacher know he has problems and she sits him apart the others, I feel like my child be angry because of that, or feel out of the group, is the teacher doing bad to him. Thanks

Answer 1

4 is too young for kindergarten, but your child should be socialized by trying a few hours of daycare at a place that has a program similar to kindergarten. Also look for play groups in your area or go to the park and meet other kids who's moms would be interested in arranging play dates. I think the teacher is doing the right thing. If the tables were turned would you want your kid sitting next to a child that hits him? I know I would not and would probably ask the teacher to have a talk with that child's parents or remove the child completely.

Answer 2

Sounds like he's entirely too young for kindergarten. I would pull my child out. Of course there's not a very big chance that I would put a child in school at 4 to begin with.

But yes, the child needs to be seperated from the rest of the class if he's causing disruption. It's not fair to the entire class to leave him in the middle of the classroom to abuse and disrupt the other children, just so that he doesn't get angry. The teacher isn't doing bad to him, she's being fair to the other kids in the classroom.

Answer 3

Well yes and no. Her responsibility is to the greater good of the class if he can't control himself and stop hitting he needs to be off to himself. As a parent i don't want my child to be hit
On the other hand this could make him more upset and jealous and he may think he is bad and act up more. I say they are doing the right thing. if and when they have some extra time they should have a teacher or volunteer sit with him and other kids constantly correcting and disciplining his behavior

Answer 4

Not for nothing, but why should the other kids be required to sit next to a child that will hit them? Yes, your son should be kept away from the other children to prevent them from getting hit and worse by your son. The teacher has to consider the class as a whole.

As far as your childs issues, have you tried simple diet changes? All organic, no bleached sugar and flour, no caffeine, balanced meals with fruits, veggies, whole grains, etc. Or maybe your son is allergic to something he is ingesting and this may cause his problems.

Answer 5

If someone was constantly hitting your kid wouldn't you want him removed from the situation! It's not okay to endanger the other children in the class and the teachers need to make sure that everyone is safe! He shouldn't be seperated all day only when he hits someone and he should be able to rejoin the group after he has took a few minutes to calm down untill he does it again and then repeat the same actions!

Answer 6

This situation is hard to tackle, as you dont want to exclude a student, or indanger other children in the process. Excessive exclusion is not acceptable, but if your child acts out and hits another child, a detaining time away from others would be wise. But when the detaining time is over his teacher should let him join the group again, and if he hits again, do the same and so on and so forth untill he learns it is wrong. Good luck honey.

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Answer 7

Why is he in kindergarten at 4 years old. I think a preschool would be much better for him. It would give him time to learn proper interaction with other children. I know it is sad to see your little one separated from the rest of the class, but the teacher can not allow him to hit other children. Would you want your child sitting by a child that hit him?

Answer 8

You are right. He shouldn't be punished for what he did before and might do in the future. He will feel like an outcast. If he gets totally turned off by school in kindergarten, he may never like it and never perform well.

It also sounds like your child might not be quite ready for kindergarten - his manual dexterity and social skills aren't quite there yet. Can you remove him until next year? We're in such a hurry to get our babies in school.

Otherwise, is there another class he can join where the teacher can handle him better?

Answer 9

It might not be best for your kid to be sat apart from the rest of the kids, but if he hits, the other kids' physical safety needs to come before your child's feelings. Most kids don't start kindergarten until they are 5. Maybe he is not ready?

Answer 10

what else can she do? she is supposed to protect all the kids, not just yours. sorry if that sounds insensative- i dont mean it like that. its just that she cant let him continue to hit the other kids and get away with it. it would be different if she was yelling at him all the time and making him leave the classroom or being really mean to him. as long as she is not doing anything more than making him sit a little farther away, he should be ok until they find out why he is acting that way. then maybe she can deal with him differently once she knows why he hits. good luck with your boy!