My grandmother, is right now, on her death bed. She was like my second mother and if not for her, a lot of times my brother and I wouldn't have had clothes to wear when we were little. She got cancer 10 years ago and was told then she has six months to live. She has chronic lymphatic leukemia, has had 2 strokes and has emphysema (never smoked, it was 2nd hand smoke). The strokes caused the nerves in one side of her face to die so her face fell and also damaged her vocal chords so its very hard to understand her. Her intestines have shut down and her kidneys are shutting down now. She cannot speak to anyone but managed to whisper "I love you" to my 3 year old daughter, which was the most crushing moment of my life. I guess my question is, God let her go on this long and now that she has days, maybe hours, to live, what is the most important thing to do? Just sit with her and be there, pray to her, what would you be doing?
2007-10-17 06:19:21 · 14 answers · asked by Janessa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
exactly what you are doing! tell her how much you love her , my gran died suddenly and now 10 years on I still regret not telling her how much I loved and treasured her, you have this chance, I am so sorry for you your heart must be breaking but let her know your life has been richer and better for having her there, it is very difficult to see someone you love so much suffereing and to slip away, just make sure you have the time just to be there also tell her that shes in you and her grandaughter, just to hold her hand and stroke her hair, don't hold back, if you want to tell her things do it, and you sound really nice.its difficult to give you any words of comfort it is a difficult time all the best,with love xxx
2007-10-17 07:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is a difficult part of life, but it's part of life. What does not kill you only makes you stronger. Have courage and hold on to your faith in God. Don't question Him. There are things which are beyond your comprehension, and you will understand them only later when you will have become wiser. Perhaps this difficult situation is being used by God as an instrument for your family to be even more closer to one another. I don't know. There is a reason, but we just have to entrust everything to God. Pray with your grandmother, and invite the others to pray with you. It helps a lot. Scientifically, it is proven that repeating chants/mantras helps people deal with life's struggles. Spiritually, it gives hope. Hang in there. The only thing constant with life is change.
2007-10-17 13:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by todupam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be there just for comfort for her there is nothing worse than not having the people you care about around. Since she is this bad off you need to make sure you tell her often how you feel so that she has no doubt.
Don't think about how lonely you will be in the future give her as much love and care as you can before it is too late
2007-10-17 13:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by searching for friends 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is let her know how much you love her and how much you will miss her. Tell her what a joyful day it will be when you meet again in Heaven!!! . My dad passed away 1 year ago today of lung cancer. The hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life was to whisper in his ear "It's o.k to go. We'll be fine and we'll take care of each other. Go be with Danette (my sister who passed away in 1977) and Grandpa (who died last October)." We had to keep telling him all of those things to help make the process of dying easier for him. We wanted him to go peacefully and he did.
2007-10-17 13:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Dawna 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be there as much as possible - night and day if possible - just holding her hand, reading to her from her favorite books and yes, praying.
By all means pray with her and for her.
Don't forget to pray for yourself.
Tell her that you love her and expect to see her in heaven some day.
Tell her that you appreciate and honor her for all she has done for you and that she has been, is now, and always will be your inspiration and guide in your life - and that you hope to some day be half the woman she is now - even as ill as she is.
Tell her that although you will miss her - you know she will always be with you in thought and in spirit.
2007-10-17 13:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be there right next to her. Try and make her comfortable. I've been through a lot of deaths in the family. Most I have been close with. If I could have been there I would have been. The military doesn't consider grandparents close family.
2007-10-17 13:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Silverbyheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holding her hand and letting her know how much, love she gave you. Let her know that you will do your best to go on in life and that she will always be a part of you. My heart goes out to you for your loss.
2007-10-17 13:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by MotherB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister passed away in July from AML, another form of Leukemia. Just be there with her. Hold her hand. Talk to her. It will mean a lot later on. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I understand the pain. If you need to vent or talk, please email me.
2007-10-17 13:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mandi Jo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just be there for her and let her know how much you love her. Tell her that it is her time to go to heaven and fly with the angels. Let her know that she will see you again when you get the same chance to fly with the angels in heaven.
2007-10-17 13:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there, and tell her you love her, and appreciate all of the love she has given you. Let her know that love will never "go away" and she will live in your heart forever and pray.
2007-10-17 13:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by straycat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋