Im 17 and i absolutely loved children and i think i want a baby. I know what its like to have a baby because i practically raised my nepew, i have him more than his mother does. He'll call me mommy before he will his real mom. Eversince the day he was born ive took care of him. Its just something in me that wants a baby. Reguarless of what happens im going to finish school(high school and college) and be successful and take good care of my child. Ive been knowing this guy for 8 or 9 nine years and weve always been friends and we jus started talking. I had a dream that i had his baby and we were all happy 2gether. One day i was babysitting and he came over and was playing with my nephew and little cousin and it kind of warmed my heart to see him playing with them it was like a scene out of a movie when a father comes home and plays with his kids. I wonder if my dream is a sign should i have a baby? I know if i do have a baby it wont be until after my highschool graduation.
2007-10-17 06:04:22 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would think about it lond and hard. Being a parent isnt a part time job, and it will be very difficult to have a baby, go to school and have a job. My advice? Wait until you are completely done with school (including college) Speaking from experience, it is very difficult to work, go to school and watch a baby. Who will watch the baby? Daycare isnt cheap, and neither is clothes, formula, food, etc...Your friend may like playing with your nephew, but does he want one of his own? And will he be able to take on the responsibilities? You need to sit down and think about all these things before you actually bring a child into this world. You want to struggle. Your baby should get the life it deserves. Good luck!
2007-10-17 06:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by MayMay 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I remember being 17 and believing with every fiber in my being that I wanted to be a Mom...and soon. I think it might be hormonal or just instinct for young women of child-bearing age to feel that way. I have to say that now I'm 29. I didn't have a baby at 18 and I couldn't be congratulating myself more. As much as I thought I would relish being a mother at 18...11 years of life between now and then has taught me differently. There are so very many things I never would have done if I had been a mother throughout my 20's. Now I'm approaching 30 and asking myself if I really want to be a mother. It's funny because I don't feel the same blinding desire to have a baby that I felt when I was 18. If anything I'm old enough and smart enough to be scared and humbled by the prospect of being totally responsible for the life of a helpless child. The irony is that I'm infinitely more prepared now then I was then. I've been happily married for 7 years, I've been to school, I have a good career, a home...all the things you should be able to offer a child. So I guess what I'm saying is that you might be selling yourself short by not allowing yourself the time to really establish a life for yourself. Don't give away your 20's just because you feel the urge to have a baby right now. You might feel really differently 2 or 10 or 15 years form now when it really matters. These are the best years of your life! Don't miss out on them. And please, please, PLEASE, understand the consequences for you, the child and the father before you decide to have a baby.
2007-10-18 08:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should have a baby IN ABOUT 8 YEARS!!! You are WAY too young right now to even think about it. Finish high school and college first. It is too hard to do this while trying to raise a child. You will be a much better mother when you are older, more mature and more financially stable. Practically raising your nephew, while admirable, is far from being totally responsible for your own child 24 hours a day.
2007-10-17 06:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
No one can tell you if you are ready. I'm 17 (18 in a month) and in college, and I just found out I am pregnant. Am I ready? Maybe. Do I have a choice? No.
Don't take this the wrong way, I'm happy and excited...
No one is ever prepared for what can happen...but I think you should at least be with someone a while. :)
2007-10-17 10:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ri B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-05 12:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought when i was 17 i wanted a baby too. keep doing what your doing, babysit your nephew or other kids. it's not that easy to keep on track when you have a baby and if you have a choice why would you want to put a child in that situation. and who's to say that the guy you've "been knowing" will want to stay with you or help you. i'm 26 now and pregnant with my first and believe me i'm glad i never had one at 17.
2007-10-17 06:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by MK 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your dream is NOT sign, dont be silly. its good that you have experience rasing a child, but when you have your own its totally different. having a baby without being married is tricky, what is gonna happen if it doesent work out with this guy, he can dissapear in a day. wait til you are married and you are and you husband are settled. grow up too, you are so yound and have NO idea what its like in the real world
2007-10-17 08:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by LuckyMama06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask that question then you are probably not really ready for the responsibility of a child plus on top of that taking care of someone else child is not like having one of your own it has great responsibilities with it, you have to cloth them and feed them and take care of them when they are sick you have to take the good with the bad so think real hard on the responsibilities that come with it before you decide to have a child
2007-10-17 06:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger T 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't.
It is one thing to care for a nephew and another to be a Mom.
Do well in college, start a career, buy a house, travel, find a husband, and then consider having a baby.
Loving a baby is not a good reason to have one so early in life.
2007-10-17 06:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by Gaby 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong about liking children. I am sure you would make a good parent when you are old enough to get some real experience of life behind you. 26-28 is a good age to have kids.
2007-10-17 06:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by krennao 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋