How do I build up confidence to approach girls?

Question

I am 24 and been having this problem ever since highschool, I never been on a date, or kissed or even received a girl phone number. Its been getting worse, its like I don't want to be near any group of females for a sustained amount of time.

Answer 1

This is a good way to approach women in a public setting without seeming creepy. You can meet women anywhere, you may even meet your future wife standing at a bus stop.

1. You have to get out there and seek them out! Girls do not go door to door looking for dates!
2. Enter a public place and check out the girls. Seek eye contact. Maintain eye contact while trying to keep underwear and armpits dry.
3. Smile. Avoid appearing overconfident as she may find you cocky, but you mustn't be shy either.
4. Approach with confidence; don't use cheesy pick-up lines, they rarely work. A simple "Hi, how are you tonight?" should break the ice. Or, if you're a teenager, or less formal a "Hey, how's it going?", or "Hey,what's up?" will suffice. Being polite and friendly always helps.
5. Wait for the signals that she is interested: laughing (at your hilarious jokes), flicking her hair around, etc. If she makes any physical contact, like touching your arm while she laughs, it's a good sign.
6. Take a hint if she's not interested. If she's busy, or if your comic genius is not being appreciated, then say, "It was great to meet you" and cut your losses. If you come on too strong, some women might feel threatened.
7. Take it small steps at a time. If you think she is interested, don't overdo it: be brief, return to your friends, say, "Maybe we can have a chat later."

Answer 2

Nancy is right, the only way to do it is to talk to more girls. Here is an exercise you might try: open doors for girls and say Hi, you don't have to say any more than that. Girls are people too and many are just a uncomfortable talking to strange guys as you are talking to strange girls. Just try talking to them without trying to make it a goal of dating them. If you have a friend who is a girl (and after you do the above for a while, you might) ask them to help you overcome this by inviting her and another of her girlfriends out for coffee or lunch and just have a good time. Good luck

Answer 3

it may sound awful, but find a girl you think is cute but particularly crazy about, say something like, "hey, you look realy nice today" or whatever, something sweet, just go for it, if you screw up you haven't lost anything.. and the more you chat to girls, the more confident you get. just chatting to girls as friends makes you more confident -- works the other way round for me anyhow!

just get the first time out the way. it gets so much easier, and is dead fun. you'll never know if you don't try. good luck!

Answer 4

Work your way up the ladder, start by talking to chicks you have absolutely no interest in, you'll see they aren't aliens and they don't bite (often), but if you want to skip that, you'll probably have to get really really drunk at a club and build your confidence up. But seriously start talking to chicks you're not interested in, and note if they take interest in you, move on, and you will become more confident and eventually find that perfect girl

Answer 5

just go for it. you seem like a nice guy.. and there are still some nice girls out there that aren't skanks.. it's easier than you think.