my ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 8 months ago, and just recently in like the past month or so she started to try and talk to me again, so i went with it. We spent a few nights together, and hung out a few more times. She tells me shes in love with me, and that she wants to be with me, have kids, and get married oneday, but she tells me that she has alot of stuff on her mind, and just cant be in a relationship right now. Ive even herd that she loves me and wants to be with me from other people she has told, but when it comes to me saying something about us dating again, she just says eventually things will work out, and that i do want to be with you, but i got alot of things on my mind to think about that right now. i mean is she just needing her space? do you think she is affraid of something? she also told me that she would cry, not thinking she would ever get another chance with me, and that she made a mistake, but she isnt doing any thing about it. im so confused. HELP.......
2007-10-17 05:52:45 · 14 answers · asked by wyte529 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Propose.. tell her you'll see her when she has her mind made up...
Right now, she is using you...
2007-10-17 06:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her?
If you do give it time and see what happens. It sounds to me that she has a great deal to do (perhaps study) or something to sort out.
A number of months ago my BF did the same to me. It was an aweful situation. He needed time to sort things out and he did. We are bacl together and happier than ever.
I am not sayinf it will be this way for you
but it may/
Do you trust her?
I think if yes is the answer to both questions you have your answer. Go with the flow. Don't push her inot anything and be there when she needs you. If at any stage you see no future or fell you have waited to long then you have. Let her know.
Sometimes enjoying what we have in this moment is all we can do. And it is the present moment that makes happy memories when the moment has passed.
2007-10-17 13:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by á?¦ â?ªà®?? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing confusing about it. You were probably very good to her and she's keeping you on the back burner in case nothing better comes along. Seen it a thousand times. Tell her no problem if she needs time and space and to call you whenever she is ready. My guess is she will call you at the first sight of you being with another girl and she will want to get back together. And then you are in the driver seat. However, if I were you, I won't waste my time. You sound very decent and deserve someone that is into you and ONLY you.
2007-10-17 13:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex has you hemmed up in all the emotional fallout she's generating, but you correctly recognize she's not doing anything to advance or rectify the situation. So, basically, nothing's changed. All that other crap amounts to pretty talk until something tangible takes place. Hanging around "hopefully" only facilitates her ambivalent treatment of you. Putting some distance between you will force her to p i s s or get off the pot.
2007-10-17 13:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to make sure she has a chance with you if she doesn't find someone that she thinks is better. If I was you I'd go on with my life and not give her the chance to hurt me. If she really wanted to be with you she would. She'd quit playing games even if she has problems. We all have crap we have to deal with. That doesn't mean we keep someone hanging on while we figure the issues out.
2007-10-17 13:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As i read between the lines i understand that your gf before settling down she wants to be a somebody you can be proud of. Isn't that nice? Only she needs more time and space to succeed. Your understanding and motivation could help her achievement.
Well...what are you doing? Come on give her all the support and assurance you can give. That's all she want from you not the benefit of the doubt.
Trust her!!! Trust her!!! Trust her!!!
2007-10-17 13:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by poorguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is confused herself. I have been there in my youth. Basically she cares for you but would like to see other people. She doesn't want to hurt. You are a safety net for her. She's comfortable with you. So when she gets hurt by someone else she can go back to you, because she knows you'll be there. Move on she is only going to hurt you. You love her let her go. Yes she may love you but she is not in love with you. There is a big difference. Good luck....
2007-10-17 13:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by wicked1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while there is a slim chance she is telling the truth, but this is usually a game women play. she wants a nice guy like you to marry, cry on his shoulder, talk to as a friend, then go have wild sex with the bad boy. she wants to do what all women do, stuff you into the friend box and never let you out.
tell her to get a gay guy friend, and move on.
you could sleep with her friends and sisters, it is a cure for this game, because it makes you a bad boy.
2007-10-17 12:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is f ucked up man. If she really loved you and wanted to be with you, nothing else would matter. It's a load of bull-$hit and you should forget about her.
Have Fun! :-D
Da King
Master of the Master Joker
2007-10-17 12:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say get her to tell you about the stuff that is on her mind. Is she playing you ??? Tell her that she cant keep this up, and that you wont wait around forever. It sounds like she just wants you there when she needs you..
2007-10-17 12:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk with her because (this may not be your case, but) i had a friend who would do this to her boyfriends, and it seemed really weird to me for her to say that to all her exs.
so one day i asked her why she does that, and she told me because it makes her fell good about herself, and that if one of them leaves, she still has her options open for one of the other ones.
it was like she kinda had them on the back burner, and when she got board of being single (or if a dance was coming up) she would start things up with them again. it was sick.
so, just talk with her and, i hope YOUR girl isn't playing you like this because that is just crazy.
2007-10-17 13:04:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋