Is it that he doesn't have a ring? He asks me all the time if I love him and makes me promise and swear I do. He constantly pulls me to the jewlery counter or store and asks me tons of questions about if I like this ring or that diamond, if it is big enough, if it is thin enough.... What is his deal? Is he leading me on or what? How should I answer those questions? And he has major trust issues cause his last wife did him so wrong--- will those ever go away or do I just have to deal with it?
2007-10-17 05:48:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is taking his time. Engagement is a HUGE step. He is obviously considering it and wanting to eventually get there, but just isn't quite ready. He is talking the future and even going as far as determining what kind of ring you like, so just let him take his time. He loves you and just like he said-wants to be with you for the rest of his life.....but he just needs time to actually commit to the idea. My boyfriend and I used to always talk about marriage and the future before we actually got engaged.....and in my eyes, i looked at it as him showing me that yes, he loves me. Yes, he wants to marry me, but today he is not ready for it. He sees it in the future, but not quite yet. settle down and let him move at his own pace. if he is already looking at rings and getting your opinion on that-he is probably going to do it soon enough. If you guys are going to spend the rest of your lives together, what is the rush on getting married? You have your whole lives and being married is just a small part of it. As long as you are together.....engaged, just dating, or married-nothing else should matter.
2007-10-17 05:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Answer to Master Richard, why buy the whole pig for such a little sausage? I mean are you really from the old school? As for the answer to the question: He is afraid of getting hurt again. If his ex hurt him and possibly stepped out on him, then I am sure it is from fear of a repeat situation.
If you really love him, and he is really good to you, time will heal...
Good Luck and Good Bless
2007-10-17 06:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He just means your great for right now and he maybe one day might want to take that step with you, but for now hes not ready for that.
2007-10-17 06:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.Drew 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he probably is scared to get married again. just keep your cool. if you two really love each other, he will step up and make a move.
2007-10-17 05:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by wigglesmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
H e doesn't feel he can afford it..tell him you'll be happy with whatever...
Take his" I want to spend..." as a proposal.."when are we getting married?"
Then you will know...
He will never completely get over his trust issues--you'll have to deal...
2007-10-17 05:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋