She lives far away from me, and ive lost her phone no, but i ave her email addy/her home addy
Anyways she is 31 and in a " relationship" with this 27 yr old who lives a 4 hrs drive away from her, who is still a member of match.com!? left his relationship status on facebook as blank ?( she has hers as listed in a relationship), she lives in his home town where he has friends and family, he stays the weekends with her about twice month. he still has pics and msgs of his ex and former conquests,on his phone. i know 1 of them and he was sending her sexy txt asking her 2 meet up wiv him? I just think he is using her as place to stay and a back up sh@g.
I think he is a slimeball and( NO, i have no interest in getting wiV him, before all you cynics start)
im tempted to send her (anon) that book called "he is just not that into you" and write a brief note saying he is on match and his user name is x.
I dont want to be mean 2 her but what sort of things can i say?
2007-10-17 05:44:47 · 20 answers · asked by raggyann 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just think at 31, she should have figured it out by now, and her biological clock is ticking. why waste any more time with a man, that clearly is not ready to commit.
OH and if you are going to reply with" it is none of yr business", then seriously dont bother!
2007-10-17 05:49:59 · update #1
Well, don't assume. He may still have all that stuff on match.com and facebook because he probably hasn't gotten to deleting it or changing it, or maybe he wants to be sure about him and your friend's relationship first.
I would go to your friend and say "I know you like this guy a lot and because I am your friend, I want to look out for you, so that's why I am telling you...." and tell her everything you just said in your question. Tell her you are not sure he is using her, but to be careful and not get too close to him. Try to sound as nice as possible, and don't call him a slimeball to her, she may get offended. Just let her know that you are just trying to be a great friend, so she won't think you're jealous or something. Good Luck! =-)
2007-10-17 05:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by ILike2HaveItMyWay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first off, I assume you mean "with" not Wiv?
Anyway, although the anonymous note is kind of childish and silly it might work. And it's probably the easiest. Although if she finds out it was you, you better be prepared for the fall out that's going to happen. That dude sounds like a slimeball. Either that, tell her straight out. It's not mean if you do it in a nice way. Just be sure to tell her you're doing it b/c you care about her.
2007-10-17 12:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to site and watch a friend get hurt, but sometimes that's all you can do. She wont appreciate being told the bad news from you, or anyone, and probably wont believe it anyway, or will fall for his lame excuses.
Just be there for her when she finds out, and maybe let him know you're on to his ways, but even then he could poison her against you subtley.
We only learn from our own mistakes, unfortunately!
2007-10-17 12:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by pirate_princess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she likes him she wont listen to you,she might have doubts.Wait while it all goes ti*s up and just be there for her when she needs you.She will find out in the end what hes like.The truth always comes out in the end.
2007-10-17 14:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by skin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just inform her of the facts and do not give an opinion no matter what and let her decide on her own. that way she will be able to save face and check it out on her own and your friendship will remain intact and not be made to suffer because of this idiot!
2007-10-17 12:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you would be wrong to send her that information, either anonymously or with your name, you choose. At least then she would be fully informed and if she decides to stay with this wanker, she'll know exactly what she's getting into. Then you can say that you did what you could and don't have to be one of those who laugh at her behind her back knowing what she doesn't know.
2007-10-17 12:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by sustasue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Sadly, i also think your friend is not going to listen to you and may even block you after you talk to her. The truth is, she already knows how he is and is allowing for him to treat her this way. Stay out of it.
2007-10-17 12:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell her what you know, state your proof, and let her make her own decisions. After all, she is a 31 year old adult.
2007-10-17 12:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say she's 31? Ok so she is a grown woman and can make decisions on her own. Stay out of it because it's none of your business.
2007-10-17 12:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
umm show her the facts tell her about ur opinoin and tell her u think it would be best for her if she got rid of him and started looking for a diffrent guy... but dont push it on her like " DUMP THAT F**K OMG" just say u think it would be best . =)
2007-10-17 12:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Dj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋