Im losint my true love. We been friends for 10 yrs & been together 3. he's all i have in this world. Literally. But i have issues & the help i need costs too much. I cant seem to get things right, and im losing him more everyday. I have a really bad attitude, mostly because of the way i was raised, and i take it out on him which i dont mean too, but hes all i have to vent on. & when im mad and ask for space, he keeps on asking me then i snap beign the heat of the moment. When i left i made a choice which basically left me with no family or friends he's all i have. Please someone help me to where i might be able to get my attitude under control & not be so mean. I dont mean it & when i try to hide from it so i dont be that way it just gets worse. Please help. If i lose this i lose my love, my home & my best & only friend. This is it. I have no where else to go, no home no family, no friends.
2007-10-17 05:36:56 · 15 answers · asked by cherrios85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you've answered your own question.
If you are not happy with yourself then you can't be happy with anyone else. I doubt that this person is your true love if you have to figure out how to keep him. You are obviously entirely too independent on him and he probably doesn't want that responsibility. If you self-adminittedly have a bad attitude then you really can't expect anyone else to help you except yourself!
2007-10-17 05:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sharp Marble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. sounds like I'm talking to myself. I had known my ex for 13 years, and we had been living together for five. We have two children together and about a year ago, he moved me over 1000 miles away from all my friends and family. and then it ended. I felt like my whole entire world was falling apart. But then I realized that staying with him because I had no where else to be was the biggest mistake of my life. I made new friends, became close with some people, found a new boyfriend, and I realized... I'm Stronger Than That. I never needed him. And you don't need him. Don't fight to stay unhappy in a relationship that, I'm sorry, will end anyway. It's just not worth it. YOU .. you're a strong person, and you can do it. You can take care of yourself and make new friends, and, my dear, you can be happy in the pursuit. I know you don't believe it and you won't listen. But you will eventually figure it out on your own, just like I did. Good luck.
2007-10-17 05:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by sskstru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford to see a professional about your issues, the best thing you can do is look for some self help books, and sit down with him when things are good between you two and have a long talk. try to figure out where your stress sources are coming from and avoid them, if it's work related, consider finding a new job, if it means saving your relationship. Going to church might be helpful too.
Most people do use the person they care about the most to vent at when they are angry, I don't know why, I'm sure there is a psychological reason for it
2007-10-17 05:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Count Chocula 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you know why you need to change, but change is something that has to come with the desire to actually change. I think what you have to do is ask yourself, what are you prepared to do? Are you willing to work an extra job to afford the professional help you need? Have you researched programs that are designed to give people the help they need with little or no monetary assistance? Because out of just reading this, it sounds like you have a nice pair of the "Victim glasses" on, but where is your accountability in your own actions? Have you done everything????
2007-10-17 05:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him. A year you've waited and if you want answers you need to ask him what hes feeling. Theres no other way. You can't play games or guess. You need a straight answer. It will be akword.. but if you two are meant to be then you will be or if not and you guys are truly best friends it will work it self out. I hope it works out for the best :]
2016-05-23 04:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help immediately. It does NOT cost too much, there is usually someplace where you can get it for very low cost or for free. Try a local university psychology department for instance. This guy is not your "true love", he is just someone you are using as a crutch to prop you up.
2007-10-17 05:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Wiz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went to my Doctor and I discovered I had emotional disturbances throughout the month due to hormonal changes. I, too was snappy and couldnt help it. I went on Celexa, and my attitude changed immediately. I no longer yell, snap, or get impatient. It truly is a miracle drug. this might be you, also..GO TO THE DOCTOR.
2007-10-17 05:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by S&NFervor4Ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything in life happens for a reason whether it is good or bad so you must not need him
2007-10-17 05:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you need to pray first and ask God to help you with your problems, then you need to sit and talk to your love and tell him what you told us. Tell him how much you love him and you need help, maybe he can go with you to talk to someone. If you go to church you can get counseling for free from you pastor, spiritual counseling is what you need.
2007-10-17 05:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make up with your family and freinds first, then start taking care of things one by one. I'm sure he'll come back to you
2007-10-17 05:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋