How you discipline you kid? Is spanking them a good solution?

Question

I was just wondering how everyone disciplines their own kids. You think that once in a while they need a little spanking? You think is cruel? If the kid just answers back to you, and does not obey at all... how you handle it?

Answer 1

The reason so many kids today are out of control is because parents have stopped spanking their kids when the child is in the formitive years.( 2 to 5). A child needs to know that there are consequences for their actions and "time outs" are a joke. Atleast they would have been to me when I was a kid.

Answer 2

When we were kids we got spanked. What is the difference of this generation, protective services. However what a lot of young people do not know is that you can spank your child, just not to the extreme of abuse. A good swat on the butt actually does a child good, we always called it an attitude adjustment. I've also used time-out, standing in the corner, taking away toys, taking away privileges, and for the older kids, grounding. Generally if the child is extremely disrespectful, I would spank them and set them on their bed, close their door, all but a crack, and tell them to think about what they did that was bad. Most times this worked. Also as my children got older, I made them write sentences, and essays about how they miss-behaved, and how they could improve the situation in the future.

Answer 3

Many people automatically associate spanking with abuse that is simply not the case.

IF done correctly spanking can be a VERY effective form discipline. I'm not saying with a belt or anything but a good smack on the butt(and only the butt) when a kid is out of line does work.

I have an 18 month old and I give her to the count of 3 to comply with something I've asked her to do and I repeat what it is I want done between each number. IF I get to three she has to stand with her nose on the wall for 18 seconds(one second for each month). IF she refuses to stand their I count to three and then she gets spanked. She's 18 mths so she only gets one spanking.

Spanking is also ok in emergency situations. If my daughter runs into the road or runs out of sight in public area its always an automatic spanking.

Just make sure that if you spank NEVER do it when you're angry and always make sure to let them know that you love them and that spanking them isn't meant to be cruel but is punishment for misbehavior.

Too many people today take their child rearing out of leftwing books that tell you to coddle your child and take their ego's into account when you discipline and thats just ridiculous. You are responsible for shaping your child into the person that they need to be. Follow your heart not a book.

As to the talking back that has to be immediately nipped in the bud. They child must see that what you say is law and unquestionable. My favorite techniques are a quick flick on the cheek or a babyspoon of vinegar(the taste is horrid but so much better than giving them soap).

The discipline you choose is your choice but keep these guidelines in mind. Base it on your child's temperment, ability, and understanding and ALWAYS make it consistant.

Answer 4

spanking is not cruel ! for what you are saying the kid is doing like not obey or talking back a spanking is what he or she needs but a lot of things just taking something away is OK or sending them to there room ! you no your kids better then any one do what you think is best from what you are saying you are doing just fine !

Answer 5

My son isn't old enough to get into trouble yet, but I have decided that when he is older I will spank him if needed. I don't want to hurt him physically, just a little "wop" on the butt (with my hand) to let him know he isn't supposed to do whatever he did. I know people think it's wrong...but I am not going to leave bruises or anything. Just pat him on the butt. I have seen so many kids get away with something they shouldn't have done, and then they grow older and think they can continue to back talk and other things, and I will NOT have Aidan disrespect me like that. If you spank them they will KNOW not to do something. Sitting kids in a corner, on a mat, or grounding them does NOT work. Believe me- I've been through. So you pat them on the butt, and then EXPLAIN what they did wrong- talking to the child FACE 2 FACE and then sit them down and let them think about what they have done. Tell them when they are ready to apoligize and mean it they may get up.

Answer 6

It depends on the situation and the child. All children are different even in the same family. I do whatever I think will modify their behavior. Yes... sometimes I spank, but not every time. One of my girls starts to cry if I raise my voice, she hardly ever gets a spanking. However, her sister that is another story. The elementary school here paddles the children when they do not follow the rules. We have to be able to control our children, and it has to start when they are young.

Answer 7

no longer unavoidably, as long as this is by no potential EVER meted out whilst offended. My 10 three hundred and sixty 5 days previous son has basically been spanked approximately 5 cases in his life, and those have been after there became right into a chain of events, consequences, foremost as much as the spanking. do no longer threaten to spank, or the different form of punishment, and then no longer follow by. whilst my son broke a intense secure practices or understand rule, he became into given the possibility to describe himself, had to place in writing a word for example that he understood what he did. Then he became into given a warning, if it got here approximately lower back then this privelege could be taken away for this era of time. If it got here approximately after that next punishment, he could be spanked. Spankings are then dealt with as a extensive journey, with him having to return into the front room, getting a swat on the bare backside. The build as much as the genuinely spanking is worse than the hit itself; he's acquainted with we will not spank different than in very few situations and he avoids them basically approximately constantly (this is been 2 years because of the fact the final occurence). At 10, i think of we are previous spanking in an effort to eliminate team activities events as a replace. however the spanking is an effective gadget if used very sparingly and basically whilst extremely forewarned. And constantly follow a spank with a hug and a quick talk with regard to the way you adore him/her and don't prefer to spank lower back, repeat the guideline broken and characteristic him/her promise to no longer harm that rule lower back.

Answer 8

A spanking can be a good way to teach him/her. You dont want to make it regular b/c then he/she can grow some fear. If you do it once in a while he'll know when hes doing wrong and wouldnt do it again. If he answers back to you and does is on a regular basis then a slap in his mouth would do good I think (at least it worked out on my kids), not too hard but not too soft either, just so he/she knows that it's bad. And be mad at him until he gives an apology and tells you that he/she learned the lesson.

Answer 9

Every once in awhile when all else fails a tap on the bottom doesn't hurt them. But, I have found that consistency in punishments (ie no TV, taking away toys, no dessert, no outside) is more effective in the long run. It takes a few times of the punishment being enforced for them to realize that you are serious. Spankings are forgotten in 30 seconds a day of boredom is remembered.

Answer 10

With children too small to reason spanking is appropriate in my opinion. Once they develop some reasoning skills then there's very little need for spankings.

But with a wild 3 year old nothing snaps her to attention like a little swat. Not enough to physically hurt, just enough to let her know she was wrong.