What is the husbands role in a marriage biblical? Please be objective and provide proof.?

Question

I have been married for 2 years and stil do not understand what a husband role is. I hear views from religon and secular people. Sometimes, they combine both views which I believe you cannot do. My wife and I battle about roles and I believe a lot of problems is because she tries to know my role and does not know her own role. I want to know what does a husband do. Also, is being the so call "provider" only based on finance, or is it a cop-out for both man and woman? My wife makes more than me and she throws it in my face by saying things like, "If you want more time with me, you should make it were I don't have to work". She married me knowing she made more money than me. Please explain your answers too.

Answer 1

http://www.lazarusunbound.com/bunker_plagueofwoman3.shtml

There are three parts to this, so be sure to start at part one, which is linked, also part two, then the link, part three.

May God open your eyes to the fact that you head your family, as Christ head's His church. You should love your wife as you love yourself. God does not put up with rebellion. You are in rebellion when you refuse to be the head of your household, and in so doing, show the greatest love for your wife, care of her eternal destination.

Answer 2

No two marriages run with the same balance of roles.
Ephesians 5:21-33 give a broad outline of how a husband and wife are to treat one another. (Encouragement, instead of throwing things up to each other all the time.)
(3 verses are directed to the wives, 10 to the husbands, giving us a perspective that God expects more from the husbands, and the husband's role is the vital part.)
Proverbs 31 from Verse 10 on is a wonderful description of a Godly wife.
You married a talented woman. Would she be satisfied to be a stay-at-home wife, and perhaps future mother?
Being a homemaker is a full time job.
My wife made more than I did 35 years ago. She opted to stay home once the kids were born. We sacrificed, I worked a couple jobs, sometimes three; gave up the new cars, nicer houses, and better neighborhoods to live as God wanted, with spiritual harmony in the house, each of us fulfilling God's plan.
The Proverbs 31 woman works diligently ALSO, providing for the needs of the household; she just does it from home, while her husband is known in the gates of the city (a good reputation in business.)
Sacrifice the luxuries now, learn to work hard and often, and the Lord will reward you when you are older.

Answer 3

I was your wife almost 30 years ago. I made more than my husband, but after the birth of our first child (we had five) I yearned to stay at home. By that time, our finances were geared toward both of our incomes.

It takes a resolve to know your roles and yes, it's the husband's responsibility to provide for his wife, and is the wife's responsibility to take care of the home and children. Doesn't mean she can't provide an income, but children and home must be first.

I've shared a link to a commentary written with scriptures that will show you the biblical position of husbands and wife. This adds on to what others may have already shared but do read and I pray that your family survives this bump in the road.

You both can make it work!

Answer 4

The Bible also gives practical advice on the family arrangement. It establishes specifically the role of both the husband and the wife in the marriage arrangement, as well as the correct way to bring up and educate the children. It says: “Husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. . . . On the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband. Children, be obedient to your parents . . . You, fathers, do not be irritating your children, but go on bringing them up in the discipline and mental-regulating of Jehovah.” Following the Creator’s superior advice greatly contributes to the stability and happiness of families.—Ephesians 5:21–6:4.

Answer 5

# 1 Protector of the Home,using all Resources;
#2 Provider---
#3 Priest-

There can be no Harmony in the Home ,If Man is not-active in these 3 areas,There will be confusion;
To those that are Sick or Infirm ,God will take care of the weak areas,He will place Someone around You that will help;

Answer 6

Perhaps move somewhere and have costs of living that make it possible for her not to have to work at all. So many poeple work hard to fill a bag with holes.

The Bible says that the man leads the household spiritually and otherwise. Take charge and do what is best for your family.

Answer 7

God's Word tells husbands "love your wife as Christ loved the Church." And Christ died for the Church. So that's a pretty big assignment! Husbands are to lead their wives, spiritually, and protect her completely.

God bless!

Answer 8

Husbands are providers -- God says He is like a husband to us because He provides for us (see Jeremiah 31:32). Joseph, the ultimate husband, is described in Matthew 1 as a provider and protector with great spiritual righteousness, so he is a fine model for any man to follow.

However, the "ideal wife" described in Proverbs 31 also has an income from outside the home. Anyone who states that women aren't supposed to work outside the home should consider that passage very carefully.

I Corinthians 7 speaks about how husband should fulfill their marital duties to their wives as wives are to their husbands. So faithful and loving sexual relations are part of one's role.

The ultimate passage is, IMHO, Ephesians 5, which talks about mutual self-giving to one's spouse (wives submit to husbands, husbands lay down their lives for their wives -- equal but slightly different commitments).

22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

This is echoed in Colassians 3:18,19:

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

...and again in I Peter 3:

1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. 5For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, 6like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

7Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Titus 2 adds temperance and self-control to the mix for both husbands and wives:

4...train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. 6Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. 7In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness 8and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.

All this being said, your main problem is that your wife is unhappy and she is blaming you.

Perhaps your feels that she has too many responsibilities? You can fix this in three ways: (a) increase your income, (b) decrease your expenses and (c) make sure you are sharing the homemaking duties if you aren't already. All three of these will enable her to work fewer hours and maintain the priorities that you both agree are important. So move to a smaller house that is cheaper and easier to maintain, take a weekend or evening part-time job and encourage your wife to cut back on her hours a bit. Your self-sacrifice will encourage her to be more self-sacrificing.

Also, you may want to consider some marital counseling with your clergy. There needs to be mutual respect, love, generosity and COURTESY between the two of you to have a happy marriage, and you make need some guidance in developing that.

Answer 9

You're both ruining your marriage by focusing on your dumb "roles". There are no set "roles", just love each other.

Answer 10

roles are complete bullshit - if two people can share all the repsonsibilities as a team, they should not be married