I hate the way my body looks and I'm terrified that I will mess up. How am I supposed to move when I'm on top? I don't know what I'm doing... How do I get over my fear of being exposed like that? Help!!
2007-10-17 04:24:54 · 53 answers · asked by Dasher 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not suppose to be thinking (about that kind of stuff) while you're up there. You'll never be able to enjoy the ride if you're too concerned with other stuff. You're cheating yourself and your partner. If you're not comfortable "up there" then find out where you are comfortable. Because I promise you, he's not thinking about that. In order for you to reach your goal (which should be pleasure), you have to be comfortable so find out where you want to be and do that. Now just shut up, stop thinking and have some fun.
2007-10-17 04:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
it's okay i know how your feeling i felt the same way, and sometimes still do. But to help with the fear of being exposed, put a blanket on you and your partner while your on top, just say your cold or something, thats what i always do. I would also feel i wouldn't do it right or something, but it takes pactice to know what you and your partner like. And how i learned to move when on top... was to watch some porn. Swear, it sounds silly, but check it out, they are the pros. Oh and every so often ask your partner, do you like that?, or do you like when i do this, good luck!
2007-10-17 04:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by I Love my Baby Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all unlike all the hype you see on TV there is no perfect body. I am sure that your body is fine. As to what to do don't over think just go with the feeling communicate with your partner and you will get the best results for both of you. Plus if you really have to turn the lights either down or off.
Good luck and have fun
2007-10-17 04:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by French Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel like this too. I never really thought too much about my body until I was with my ex. He would say things that made me feel bad, but not just to me, it was always in front of his guy friends and his sister who was my best friend and who had like the perfect body. So I became very self conscience about it. Especially my boobs......and lack there of... But my bf that I have been with now for 11 years is so in love with me and my body. I even told him a few weeks ago that it was because of him that I started to feel better about my body. And he couldn't believe it , he was like "what? why?, did somebody say something to you?" I didn't want to go into the story but I just told him that he makes me feel like a sexy momma and I hope I'm keeping him happy. And it was kinda funny because I'm 5 months pregnant right now and he said "you're gonna be a MILF"! lol!!!! I thought that was so funny, I even said "I BETTER!!"
So anyway, don't think about it too much. You're probably afraid because you may be a little inexperienced but trust me once you get into the groove of things it will come so naturally. Start of slow, keep your top or bra on for a bit, then slowly he can remove it or you can. And plus you don't have to stay up there the entire time, just try it a little at at time. And once you feel the big "O" when you're up there, girl you're gonna be wanting to get on that bull ride alllllll the time!!!!
2007-10-17 04:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by texicangirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over it when you start doing this, and your partner will help you out with this because he knows how good it's going to be. You could try dim lighting if you have not been with this person several times already, it may help you to relax too.I once was the same way about this, but the more feelings you have toward somebody ,the better it will be anyway.Good luck, and try to not worry so much about this.
2007-10-17 04:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by starchild4485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you hate the way you look? Apparently the guy likes the way you look or he would not be there. Just sit on top of him and rock back and forth. You could always ask him what he wants and if he is a true man he will tell you what he likes.
2007-10-17 04:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. Honestly, you just have to let it happen. Your partner should understand your concerns and guide you through it. Mine did. This is not something that can be explained you have to try it. Don't worry about your body.... if really is a big concern of yours leave the lights off. You can only see so much in the dark and he has probably seen it already. good luck.
2007-10-17 05:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On is a great position for women...they can control how deep the penis penetrate's...you control the speed...try just moving up and down if your sitting upright...slowly till your body gets the hang of it...you can also lean forward and kiss your partner and slowly move your hips up and down...you can sit on the penis and get your partner to thrust upwards...women love this one...most of all...only do things you are comfortable with...if your not comfortable in your head you won't enjoy it...as for your body you are your own worst enemy...i am sure it's normal and there's nothing wrong with you
2007-10-17 04:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by hanz2602 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being scared will mess all u do, confidence will be shown on how u move and act, so be confident and love urself and body.
good luck ( enjoy the pleasure and enjoy ur body )
and the person u r with , he just simply need to accept u as u r ( if u really feel bad try to change it but dont make it life or death issue )
good luck
2007-10-17 04:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by michael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to do is; when your laying down with him kissing just start to lay on top of him, take of your/his clothes. Put your knees either side of his stomach (so they're bent) still while your kissing hI'm, than lift your bum up so you can slide im into you, at this stage your body is still pretty flat against his (so he can't really see your body). After that just go up and down, you'll just know what to do naturally when you get there, if he wants you to do something etc, he'll let you know by holding your hips/bum and guiding you.
2007-10-17 04:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋