she says i was fighting with people, giving verbal abuse to her and throwing beer around. she says she was embarrased + disappointed. i have promsed her i wont get drunk again but i don't think she wants me back. how can i prove myself to her if she wont have me back? and do you think she is over-reacting?
2007-10-17 04:22:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Having been in two relationships with alcoholics in the past myself, I don't think she's over-reacting at all. I thinks she's being very sensible. There is nothing you can do to win her back, but you could learn the lesson so you don't c*ck up future relationships in the same way.
2007-10-17 04:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure there is not more to this story? Have you done some silly drunken things in the past and this weekend was just the icing on the cake for her? All you can really do is sit her down and promise her that you will not do it again and hope she gives you another chance. Has she dealt with an alcoholic family member in the past and possibly thinks this is a warning regarding your drinking habits? Maybe you should asses your habits with drink as she may well have a point. Not saying you are a drunk but I went through a summer of drinking heavily and acting like an idiot and it took my friends to sit me down and make me realise I was on the verge of a problem.
2007-10-17 05:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's the first time you've ever done anything like this, then yes i think it's a little unreasonable but if it's a pattern of behaviour and this always ends up happening then I see her point. How long have you guys been together? If it's not that long, I can see why she thinks she shouldn't put up with it. But if you've been together a while, she should accept your mistake, apology and promise and give you another chance. You're not the first person to be an idiot when drunk and you won't be the last, it'd be a shame to end a relationship over one mistake. Just try and make it up to her!
2007-10-17 04:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You like her becasue she's a nice girl not some two bit pissed up slapper, right? So why are you suprised she doesnt want to risk getting in that situation again? Not to mention what are you showing her you're like as a partner? You've scared her off proper! You see this as a one-off mistake but she looks at it as a reflection of your basic character, and imagines many more embarrassed nights where she cant relax and enjoy herself, people avoiding going out with her in case she brings you along...
Not to mention it might actually get dangerous if there are fights and she is there, she may be left alone in a bad situation if the police get involved and you get carted off for a night in the cells. What would she do then? Who would look after her and see her home? Maybe your best mate....
I'd move on and find yourself someone more into your way of life who is a bit more of a drinker herself and will understand you better.
Maybe that pissed up slapper I mentioned before....
2007-10-17 04:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is being a little unforgiving, she should at least give you another chance. If she refuses to see you any more sadly there is nothing really you can do.
Take my advice though - no matter what, DON'T beg her or keep pleading and pleading with her to take you back!! It will only make her respect you less and make the situation worse.
Just don't get drunk like that again (in front of her anyway), give it time and see what happens.
2007-10-17 04:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ivor Hugh G.Rection 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does sound that you acted horrendously whilst drunk which really hurt her. You really need to prove to her that you take your behaviour seriously and that you won't get so drunk in the future where this could happen again.
She's still really angry and upset but if you persevere and really prove yourself, she may give you one last chance. In the next few weeks keep off the booze totally and make sure she knows it which will show her how much you want your relationship to work.
2007-10-17 05:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by Chucksey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would react in the same way and it is certainly not an over reaction. Now she has seen the worst side of you it has put her off completely. I don't think that any amount of pleading will change her mind so give it up, change your ways and start again with another nice girl.
2007-10-17 05:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by ANF 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is completly right to give you the push. Wake up and smell the coffee. Binge drinking is very dangerous. If you think you have a problem, do somthing about it. And no you will not be able to stop unless you get some help. Try AA
2007-10-17 04:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Grumpy Old Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is angry it is becasue she has a good reason...how would you react if she would have done the same? The worst thing a guy can do is to get drunk and lose control. You have learnt your lesson, next time you will think about what you are doing before doing it!
2007-10-17 04:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lola 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had a great night by the sounds of it. Do you really want to be with someone who is going to stop you having such a fun? Find a girl who appreciates you when you're drunk ...... someone you can 'bounce off of' in a verbal slanging match perhaps.
2007-10-17 04:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋