my parents died when i was three and my aunt, (my moms sister) was 23. She was my only living relative, and gained custody of me. we love each other, i even call her mom now. but lately, we have drifted apart. (i am nearly 15 now ahe is 35) i used to tell her everything. yesterday tho, i disappointed her more than i ever thought possible. she found out that i was sleeping with my boyfriend in our apartment when i was supposed to be at school. we (bf and i) have only done this once, the other times we did it, were at his house when his mom was at work. my aunt told me that she has lost all trust in me, bc i told her a few weeks ago that i was still a virgin and that she didnt have to worry. i told her that i didnt think that it was that big a deal and she just looked at me like i was stupid. i may only be 14 but i dont think that im stupid. now tho, she says that she cant trust me, and that i cant use the phone, my cell, watch tv, or go out with any of my friends.
2007-10-17 03:50:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i dont think that this is fair. i feel like she overeacted to something that was not that big a deal. she says also that if she has to get me a babysitter every time that she leaves the house, then she will....i DO NOT think that that is fair, but she may have been joking...she was really mad to
2007-10-17 03:51:46 · update #1
Your aunt is probably mad for a few reasons - first, you are way to young to have a sexual relationship. Second, you lied to her about it - what prevents you from lying about other aspects of your life (i.e. drug use, spending habits, school/grades...etc.)? Third, she probably fears (and rightly so) for a) your health - STD's and b) you getting pregnant at such a young age.
Your aunt is mostly likely also mad at herself - she was incredibly young to take you in and raise you. She probably feels that she has let you and your parents and herself down - just think how she feels - she raised you to make healthy, positive choices. Then, you throw it all in her face: you are having a sexual relationship at too young of an age AND you lied about it to her face. And don't forget that you are skipping school (being truent is not a great track record to hold at such a young age - and you lied about that too).
It sounds like you are extrememly immature because you are making such poor choices. I'm sure your aunt is just tearing herself apart to figure out what "she did wrong," when in reality it is you who needs to be tearing herself apart and figuring out how to fix this situation.
Your aunt took you in when she really didn't need to - look at what she gave up to raise you. Try to be more thankful - and be thankful that she cares enough to take your phone, tv, time with friend, etc. away from you. She is trying to protect you.
Grow up and be thankful that you weren't tossed around like a rag doll in the system. It's not a fun place to be.
2007-10-17 04:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too was brought up mostly by my aunt, my parents did not pass on (I am sorry for you for that), just family problems... I had done several things "to her"..called her a few names, she heard, done things to not make her trust me, etc., you need to realize that she is all you have and that the trust she HAD in you will take a very long time to get back. WHAT WERE YOU THINKING of doing that then lying to her about it?? you should have been honest when she asked you, NO MATTER HOW MUCH SHE woud have HURT, you would have still been honest.
And that my dear, is the love and appreciation she was looking for.
Secondly, sex at 15 IS A BIG DEAL!!!
Can u afford a baby, reguardless if you use protection or not, you know that it's not 100% safe???
Girl, you better get yourself back in good with your aunt, and forget about sexual activity.
You will not realize it now, but when you're older, you will figure out just how much you hurt her, and wished you hadn't!
I sure as heck did!!
Good luck!!
2007-10-17 04:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are only 14 & have had sex you say at least twice. You are only 14 what the heck are you doing having sex at such a young age, you don't have a clue what love really is. Did you use protection/condom?
If I were your Aunt I would feel the same way, you lied to her, would you like it if she lied right to your face? No you would not.
Then you have someone over in her house, your having sex, you do know that all her personal property is there right, & did you ever think that she is afraid it might be stolen?
No I bet you didn't, Yeah yeah yeah I know my bf wouldn't do anything like that.....well how well do you really know your bf hmmmm?
You have disrespected your Aunt & you have disrespected her home. Think about that.......
2007-10-17 04:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she can't really trust you now.
Would you trust your aunt if she told you one thing and then you found out she lied about it? Wouldn't that shake your trust in her a bit?
You're 14. You have plenty of time for sex when you grow up. Are you prepared to raise a child? No? Than you're not ready to have sex.
You may not think of yourself as stupid, but your actions prove otherwise.
Your aunt is trying to look out for you, and by lying to her you are going to bring upon even more punishment.
2007-10-17 04:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked Wanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad at you for a while. I mean your 14 and things happen but you can prevent them. My niece is 15 and just had a baby. Your aunt looks at you like her daughter. I mean how would your parents have felt if you did this. I mean don't upset her. You have to be mature in this situation. your to young to be having sex anyway. I had my first child at 21 and it was hard enough for me then. Now I have 2 at the age of 24 and no freedom. Its hard.
2007-10-17 03:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all your only 14 and you should be concentrating on school and not having sex I would try to gain her trust back and as immature as you are acting you might need a babysitter to keep your legs closed and nothing coming inside
2007-10-17 04:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if a parent is over protective then they will freak out like that well for one i had to tell my mom i was not by tellin her i mite be pregnet and o god she took me tothe doc. and got tested and tested for any stds and it was scary but eventually she will learn to trust you again if you do the right and be goo but anyways i dont think your punishment is fair at all but hats just me so anyways good luck to you
2007-10-17 03:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-12 22:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just doesn't want the responsibility of taking care of the baby that you and your boyfriend will ultimately produce.
2007-10-17 03:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by Beau R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋