Ever since I started working 5 days a week our house is a mess, garbage is piling up, laundry is lost, food isn't prepared . etc...
Im lucky because our family can survive on my husbands income, but I feel guilty being a stay at home mom. Our child is preteen so its not a child care issue. It would be so nice to get this house back in order again.
2007-10-17 03:43:02 · 10 answers · asked by mullinon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was a stay at home mom for 17 years. I went back to work when my son went off to college and my daughter was a junior in high school. It was not a monetary decision, I just felt it was time to go back. Saying I was a stay at home mom didn't work anymore when your kids are that age. And I was embarrassed that I didn't work. Healthy people work, right?
Well I went through the same thing that you are experiencing. I was tired all the time, house not as clean as I would like, nights and weekends weren't for fun, it was to catch up on errands. Yes, we had more money, but no time to enjoy it.
Then, the company moved the office to another state and I got laid off. I am now a housewife. I occassionally still feel guilty for not working, but my husband likes me home. I told someone that I feel I should work because I am embarrassed that I don't. They told me what I will tell you. Don't let what others think dictate how you should live your life. This works for me. If it works for you, great. You now know what to do.
If, on the other hand, you are bored being home. Try part time work. It will give you time to do those things that don't get done working full time, but also allow you some extra money.
Your preteen should be helping you out with housework. My kids at that age, dusted, took out the trash, put their laundry away, vacuumed. You'd be doing him/her a favor not waiting on them hand and foot.
2007-10-17 11:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel guilty for being a stay at home Mom, it is the MOST important (&under appreciated) job. If you need to seek paid employment for your 'self' than you should. Your health and happiness should come above all else because you can't function properly without it. Your child is a preteen, not a helpless infant. The other members in your household can and should help out with the chores.
2007-10-17 04:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by RTS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to help your husband with bringing in money then i think you should keep your job. It is just a matter of finding a balance between work, and your home. If your child is a pre teen then they should be able to do a few chores around the house to help out. It will teach them values of a family pulling together to help out.
My son is 12 and he feeds the dog and walks him, does dishes occasionally, takes the trash out and then on trash day pull s the trash to the curb, he also does laundry on his own, cleans up his room, and will dust for me because i am a single mom who works 2 jobs to make ends meet.
He does it because he wants to help me and realizes i am tired. Of coarse he gets rewarded sometimes but it is all about finding balance in the household since both of you do work.
2007-10-17 03:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by spleefarella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can live off his income and he is ok with you staying home, then I wouldn't see a problem with it. I can understand your guilty feelings, but it might be worth it for you to stay at home and keep the house. Maybe you could just work part time or do temp jobs so you could feel you are contributing to the household income but also have more time at home.
2007-10-17 03:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Alli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband, probably would rather have a nice clean home and dinner if you don't really need double income. Why did you start working? Were you bored? Maybe a good hobby, or something while keep you too busy to feel guilty about staying home. Good luck... : )
2007-10-17 03:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Fannie Ella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you want to go to work for a sense of fulfillment? Are you working for some common family goal?
There is absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty being a stay at home mom, so please stop dumping on yourself like that.
Look, it's a family unit. Everybody is old enough to pitch in and help. Talk to your daughter about it - get her to help with some of it, doing it right the first time and without being told it needs to get done, and offer her some extra money for helping out.
2007-10-17 03:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lady G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should not quit your job!!! Your husband and your child are use to you doing all of them things. Sit them down and explain to them that you are now working and they are going to all have to pitch in and help out !!! you are not there slave. And your husband who is an adult not a preteen should be take the trash out anyway.and while you are at show them how to work the washing machine and dryer.. Just don't do it and they will get the hint.
2007-10-17 04:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is going to have to step up and do their part to keep the house in order. Everyone was used to you doing everything because you were home all day....don't quit your job, just keep working, and work with you family to maintain the house.
2007-10-17 04:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have to work why would you want too really save the house and there is nothing wrong with cleaning the house and being there for your kid
2007-10-17 03:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very much up to you, but you need to tell your family that it's their house too, and they should be helping to look after it
2016-07-12 09:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by Wolfram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋