Is love REALLY blind, i.e. we cannot help whom we fall in love with ? Or, can we CHOOSE whom we want to fall in love with ?
Is love a sub-conscious or a conscious decision ?
Thoughts and comments ?
2007-10-17 03:40:44 · 14 answers · asked by JustANiceGuyHere 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you can't help who you fall in love with..but if they don't love you back you have to move along--or be stuck to stagnate. One is out there for you, she just hasn't found YOU yet!! :) Hang in there!
2007-10-17 10:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Rachel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind, and isn't blind. It might be blind because you'd do stupid stuff to get the attention of who you love. We can't help whom we fall in love with. Some times, depending on the situation, love would either be sub-conscious or conscious, but most of the time it would be sub-conscious.
2007-10-17 03:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Green Phantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say love is blind. I have fallen for some guys that if I was conscious about it, I wouldn't have even noticed. I don't know why, but for some reason, you can't help who you love in my opinion.
Like my situation now is, I love my bf, but I'm in love with another man. It's odd and I think you can choose who you end up with consciously, but I don't think you have any choice in who you fall for.
If you did, I think the world would be even more screwed than it is and there would be a lot more people like Paris Hilton lining our streets. BTW, that isn't a good thing.
2007-10-17 03:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetheart 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's conscious to a point. For instance, I'm not going to fall in love with the creepy guy who always asks me for money because I won't make an effort to get to know him any better (which I believe is a requirement for love).
That said, if I have five different guy friends, I could potentially fall in love with one (or more) of them without consciously choosing to do so. Sometimes, we don't choose, and one day we wake up with a new feeling.
I think you can learn to love someone, but there won't be passion without certain criteria being met (sexual attraction, for one).
2007-10-17 03:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is love blind? No, but you do over look somethings when you are in love. Small things aren't as important as they once were. The relationship is more important than those silly little aggavitation.
Love do you have a choice? Yes...you know what you like and dislike so you put yourself in situations to be around those types of people.
2007-10-17 03:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have met a couple at milionairematch.com. The man is rich, and the girl is poor. They have a memorable story about their love. The man has helped the girl to recover from a serious ill. Then their relationship blossomed into love. So I think that the love is a unconscious decision in most of our time.
2007-10-17 19:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in Love means that you can fall out also. Actually loving someone is choosing to love them. So falling in love is blind but to choose to love isn't
2007-10-19 18:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question, you know to be honest I think it's more hormones in some ways. Example; we lust at first, that gets everything in ourselves ripe, I guess you could say, for the moment. Then there's the infatuation we get for the other person....can't live without them, gotta see them, eat, sleep , drink them in our allday, everyday, routine. Then I feel maybe we settle down and start to see the persons real qualities or at least, we think we do. I think this is when we feel like there's the chance for real love and then we make the decision to fall in love, and that is where the blindness can befall you, as I said before you think you see that other person for who you think they are, and you are then "ripe" for hurt if it isn't so.
2007-10-17 11:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the true heart of all genuine Christian Ministry is giving in love which to me the Social Darwinism of the Evangelical Movement pays lip service to alone,hiding behind a veneer of charity,and the presumption that taxes are not part of ,cannot be part of, a Christian help for the poor and sick ,like for example the nonsense answer here that there is no need for universal health care because Jesus heals, as if He does not use doctors and hospitals as part of the process.
2016-05-23 03:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a certain amount of control but it's easier to prevent it happening, than make it occur.
Love isn't blind, but some people choose to blind themselves to red-flags and imperfections in those they are interested in, because they'd rather keep an image of how they want that person to be, versus how they really are.
2007-10-17 03:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one really know when they get in a relationship that they are going to fall in love. Your heart just takes away. Ive been in love with people i thought i wasnt going to be with for a long time. So no you dont know who you are going to fall in love with
2007-10-17 03:46:29 · answer #11 · answered by Michelle L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋