I have this problem with my gf...we have been best friends for 8 years before that and started dating and it has been the most happy thing until recently...but i dont know what happened and she started doing bad things...for example when we go out with her friends she humiliates me in front of them by saying how hairy I am -"i could knit a sweatshirt from his hair", or how I listen to her every wish "if i want him to be a chair for me, he is going be to be one..." It feels terrible...in the beginning i could swallow it, but recently it started to depress me, and in these meetings i started not saying a word the whole time. In private she criticized me a few times and there was a physical fight, and you I couldnt dare fighting properly and she beat me down with her sandal. And of course I had marks on my face, and next time we met accidentally two friends of her and they asked me what these marks are, she just pointed down to her sandals...What makes her do all this???
2007-10-17 03:35:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But the thing is I dont wanna break up with her and I want to fix the situation...and several times I really tried to reach out and talk...several times I was really depressed and told her "u dont give a **** about me" and she told me no,no I care so much - if I didnt, u would have noticed it (I cannot imagine what she would have done if it was like this). She is really my soulmate and most of the time its like being with another part of me...and thats why it hurts so much when she tramples my pride, but i cant fight her...:((((
2007-10-17 03:48:18 · update #1
Physical and mental abuse is appalling, if you had slapped her on the face with your shoe do you think her friends would find that funny? I don't think so. Tell her that you find these put downs really humiliating and you do not care for her to continue, ask her how she would feel if you said humiliating things in front of her friends? I don't know why you want to stay with someone who puts you down in public and who physically abuses you, I would get out now while I still could, you may love her but that is not a valid reason to put up with abuse.
2007-10-17 04:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was you, i would really really talk to her about how you feel. sometimes people don't realize how much they are hurting the other person. my ex-g/f was kind of the same way. she would talk smack and at times become very physical. i had about enough and took the higher route. I told her we needed to talk and i told her what i felt. I was firm in my concerns (that's important, you need to be confident and speak with a confident and firm voice). the end result was that she was taken aback by the feelings i was harboring on the inside and she apologized. she didn't even realize how much it was bothering me. so, you should talk to your girlfriend and DON'T sugarcone anything, just be straight up honest. if she doesn't consider your feelings after that, then you need to drop it. she will only bring you down emotionally and physically as well. good luck
2007-10-17 03:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by shoeontheotherfoot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gf more than likely needs a doctor not a bf...my suggestion is that she has bipolar II......low self esteem and when she's putting u down in front of those people she's feeling better...my advise is to perhaps since u've been friends for so long is talk to her mom and suggest that they get her help then u gracefully bow out of the relationship.....
2007-10-17 03:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She gets a kick out of humiliating you. Remember you are the man in the relationship. Maybe you should break it off or if you wanna be with her but not get humiliated don't go out with her
2007-10-17 03:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberley L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that she beat u with her sandal and humiliates you in public is awful...by gf also beat me recently and i must say i dont feel the same person anymore...try talking it out and if not, leave her, because she will degrade you more and more
2007-10-17 20:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she acts like this while you are dating, think how lovely your married life will be. No one, man or woman, deserves to be treated this way. I think that you should reconsider your relationship, and make a choice either to stay, and accept this type of behavior, or leave, and find someone else.
2007-10-17 03:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, i think of you may desire to leave the section on each and every occasion her mate is around along with her, proceed to try this and that i'm confident she'll get the belief, if she would not, then you definately might might desire to placed off that fellowship, except you think of you could cope with being round her and her mate.
2016-10-12 22:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have put her in jail for beating you with her sandal.Domestic abuse goes both ways.Dump her and find someone that cares about you or let her put the collar on you and become her b****.Good luck.
2007-10-17 03:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time for a hart to hart with her u need to tell her how u feel ask her if she lost intest in u if that is the case then u know where u stand. ask one of her friends out!!! and forget her there are plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-10-17 03:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by frank b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a real !@#$% She doesn't respect you at all and eventually you wont love her anymore. Get rid of her!!!
2007-10-17 03:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋