this guy and i are seeing each other. although he's very nice, he's so shy. i have to ask him questions or make jokes to get the conversation going.
i know he's really outgoing and funny--his friends and his family said so. why is he acting so differently with me than with his family and friends? am i doing something wrong? how do i make him more comfortable with me?
2007-10-17 03:26:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps he's nervous. Sometimes we worry so much about making a good impression or someone liking us, that we end up nearly sabatoging the situation because we overdo or underdo.
If you feel like the two of you have things in common, and there is mutual interest, then give it a little more time and see if he relaxes and opens up more.
2007-10-17 03:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Inexperience with the opposite gender in anything other than casual relations can be very awkward and intimidating to a guy at first. If this is a case where this guy is just getting into the dating scene and you're his first real flame, he may have to be prompted somewhat to respond. The only thing you were doing wrong is assuming he'd be just as loose with you as he would be in a group of friends. It's obvious he has to be given a kick-start on how to act when with you. So you may have to reassure him that you kiss but don't bite, you hug but don't put on a hammer lock and that you like him for who he is and that conversation with you doesn't have to be too much different than it is when he's among his friends
2007-10-17 10:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hehe, I had this problem with a guy I was with. I'd known him for years, knew he was outgoing funny and stuff, but he seemed to clam up around me. So one day, he was being quiet and I asked him why he was that way with me.
He told me that he was just trying to not look like an idiot around me and my friend. He wanted to make a good impression and that my opinion mattered so he wanted it to be a good one.
Then he would smile awkwardly, and I'd ask what was funny and he'd say nothing. Eventually he told me I made himj so happy he wanted to just smile all the time and he could never be bored when I was around.
Maybe ask him about it. It could be he has the same issues as mine did. He doesn't want to screw up and look stupid in front of you.
2007-10-17 10:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetheart 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hon..
Sometimes when a guy is really crazy about a girl, he likes her so much, that he doesn't want to do or say anything that's going to make him seem like a jerk in front of her ..
But once he's with you more, he'll become more and more comfortable with you, and feel more secure about himself, and his relationship with you..
Just keep being who your are Hon. Just give him lots of hugs and kisses..He'll be okay..Just be patient with him..
Take care Sweetie..And have a great day!
2007-10-17 10:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy really likes a lot, he doesn't want to make any mistakes that might ruin his chances to the point he becomes unbearably nerves. Just joke it into the conversation one day, like "Don't be afraid to talk a little more, I wont bite!".
2007-10-17 10:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He would only be shy with you if he was really interested in you, like probably in love with you. You two don't need to talk when you two are together. Just being together and keeping each other company is enough. Give him time.
2007-10-17 10:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Green Phantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh give it time, maybe he's just being careful let the ice melt, being shy is totally normal, maybe he likes you that much that he just want to make sure he doesn't say or do anything that you may not like, maybe he's trying to make himself feel confortable he just needs a little time..
Go with the flow, don't stress yourself out you'll see things will fall into place
Good luck
2007-10-17 10:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Paul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just trying to show you respect,adapting to his environment.He will becomfortable eventually.His jokes may sound real then being a joke.I joke around with my son,he is talll and skinny.So I call him a walking stick.He responses and tell me I am fat.I am on the plus side but certain jokes can be hurtful.Talk to him and tell him to be his self.If he goes over board let him know.
2007-10-17 10:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,, chances are he is intimidated a bit by you,, maybe your beauty,, presence, he likes you more than he can express, not sure of himself quite yet,, maybe he is just a bit shy with you., Let him know the characteristics,, that you like in him,, share you fallacies and shortcomings with him,, he will warm up to you.. cheers. Tom
tommy_caswell2000@yahoo.com
2007-10-17 10:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by tommy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you have to do to make this situation better....but there's plenty he can and should do. More than likely he has you built up on a pedastal which makes relating to you about as awkward as it would be confronting God, so he needs to humanize you a bit to make you more palatable to mere mortals....and no one can do that but him.
2007-10-17 10:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋