Can you help me feel better?

Question

I broke my ankle 2 weeks ago and it has just been a disaster. I stayed home for like a week from school and am failing all my classes. I am so worried I'm not going to pass this year. Also today I am at home and I had to here my mom yelling at me all morning that "I can't be like a grown up" and "maybe I'll just let you go live with your dad". My dad verbally and emotionally abuses me and I would rather be dead than live with him. I'm just really scared, hurt and in a lot of pain. And I have this boot thing on my leg and yesterday people at Officemax were laughing at me which hurts me too. I won't be able to vacation this summer, even if I do pass the 10th grade. I feel like giving up on life. Can you help me feel better please? thnak you

Answer 1

you will get thru this. This kind of setting will help you to persevere lifes obstacles, and will build character. it will make you a stronger person. about school, just do the make-up work, or stay after school with your teachers and work it out, they wont let you fail. and the leg, it will make it stronger than it was before the axident. get thru this, and keep in mind that there is always someone who has it worse than you. let me know how it goes, if you need more support.

Answer 2

Youve only been off from school a week, which shouldnt be the reason why your failing all of your classes. As for your mother she needs help. If she's telling you things like this, and you dont want to go live with your father, maybe you need to speak to your school councelor or a relative, is there anyone in the family who would let you stay with them? What is it that you are doing that is causing your mother to treat you the way that she does? maybe she is having issues of her own which isnt reason for her to treat you the way that she does, but its causing her to react the way she does and she doesnt know of a better way to approach you. Ignore the comments you received at office max, some ppl are just ignorant and dont know or were never taught better. As for saying that you would rather be dead, no you wouldnt sweetheart, dont say things like that, b/c death is not ever the answer, talk to someone, anyone an adult who can help you. There is help. while your at home though spend that extra time studying and catching up on your school work. Ask your teachers for some tutoring if they provide any, or maybe a student there in that particular class period or that has the same teacher can help you out.

Answer 3

It is not these little "trials" that make us stronger, but it is what we choose to do with them. Maybe this is a wake up call for you to focus more on school when you get back. It is early enough that even if you are failing, you can turn that around.The boot thing is just part of having a broken ankle. Maybe that will help you appreciate it when you see other people in the same situation. As far as living with your Dad, I would level with your Mother. Tell her you what you just said here.Look for the good in everything. At least it is only a broken foot. You are still able to move around.Take care. If all else fails, you can come live with me.

Answer 4

dude, just hang in there. just think of it this way, all those people who laughed at you are gonna get bit in the *** when karma rolls around. also, don't worry about failing. if you've been out of school for two weeks, then you have 2 weeks to make up all that work, and you have the rest of the year! (it is only October after all). why your mom is yelling at you makes no sense to me, but maybe shes just having a hard time with her own personal life. tell her that you don't want to live with your dad. and whatever you do, DON'T give up. remember, once you hit rock bottom, things can only get better. hope this helped, and i hope your ankle gets better soon.

blessed be

Answer 5

I'm sorry your Mom is being so rough on you. Maybe she's just stressing right now too. Have someone bring your books & work home & study! what a perfect time to hit the books. It's not like you have too much to do right now. As for the Office Max people.. Some people are just idiots & make fun of other people to make themselves feel better. People like that don't matter & try not to let their comments hurt you. Just hang in there, I'll be thinking about you.

Answer 6

IAsk your teachers for extra help. Maybe stay after school a few days to get caught up.

I'll add you to my contacts so if you need help with homework post a question and I will get an alert.

Sounds like your Mom is stressed out, be patient with her. She won't send you to live with your Dad. There is a reason they broke up and she doesn't like him and she won't put you through the same thing.

I don't think the people at Office Max were laughing at you, lots of people wear the boot. If you really think they were, call the manager.

Hang in there, Kiddo!

Answer 7

1. Relax

2. Quit worrying. How many broken ankles are you ever going to have in life? Two maximum? lol My younger brother had an accident when he was in 10th grade. He wound up with a cast from his toes to his hip. I was impressed with how that rascal got the prettiest girls to carry his books while he stumped along on crutches.

3. Have a friend over to help you catch up with homework.

4. Fire your mom. Or, consider that she is having a bad day, and you should not let her issues ruin your day.

5. Relax. No kidding. Really.

6. Physical injuries can have a profound effect on mood. Mood can have a profound effect on healing.

7. Try to not be quite so upset about the yobs at Office Max who are laughing at you. Perhaps you can get them to laugh with you. After all, you broke your ankle. The boot has to look goofy. There must be a story to tell. Tell it funny. Make it a joke on yourself. Try to make them laugh. Then laugh along. Then they are laughing at your humor, not your condition.
When someone asks what happened tell them that Hopskotch is a lot tougher than it looks. Then just watch their face, cuz they are gonna be so confused for a bit, and then they are gonna laff.
Tell people that you were playing house with your younger sister and she decided to divorce you and threw ya outta the tree house. (This may work best in Kentucky...)
Tell them that you were working on a new dance step. And some girl accidently zizzed when you zagged.
Tell them the truth. "Well, ya know I am kinda clutzy sometimes." Pause for laughter, if none then continue. "And I was trying to (mention some crazy improbable act) and here I am now."
First the people will appreciate your self-deprecating humor. They may start telling you stories on themselves where they did something.

8. or whatever.......relax. do your homework, take your pain pills, and limp along as best you can, because that is the best that you can do right now.

Decorate the boot.
Put battery powered blinking LEDs on the damn thing. Christmas lights if nothing else.
Have fun with it.
Better yet, ask a girl that you like what she thinks you should do to decorate the boot.
Make her laugh. Hell, make her blow milk out her nose at lunch! (And then apologize to her.)
Give it a name and introduce it to friends in the hallway at school. (Alright. Maybe not so much. They may goon out and run away from you, and you won't be able to catch them, because yer wearin the boot.)
Paint it dayglo orange and babypuke green, or whatever colors float your boat.
Talk like a pirate and squint one eye. "Arrrrghhhhh! Damn pegleg keeps gettin stuck in the knot holes."


Quit catastrophizing the situation.

A broken ankle leads to failing 10th grade? No way.
Even if you pass you won't be able to vacation? Well, maybe you won't be skydiving.....
Even if you pass, and have a vacation you will never get to drive a car.
Even if you get to drive a car, you will never find a girlfriend.
Even if you find a girlfriend you will never have sex.
Even if you have sex, ....

You get the point.
Sure these examples are stupid and obviously wrong.
Could you be putting undue pressure on yourself?

As far as acting like an adult......hmmmm. I am 52 years old, and you just saw what I act like. Not so very mature all the time, eh?
Most adults wind up making the best of a bad situation. We do what we can, with what we have, and try to improve the situation so that next time we have more with which to do.

Maybe a little time with a counselor at school will help you to gain a more positive perspective.

Answer 8

If you teachers know what has happened to you go to them and explain to them that you really want to pass and ask them for extra credit work you can do from home. I cannot see a teacher no giving it to you should be able to make up the work you missed without penalty for it being late. It will take extra work on your part to get it done at home but you will be thanking yourself in the end. And dont worry about what other people think of you its how you feel about you that matters. Only you can make you happy its up to you to do that not others.

Love yourself and all this will be behind you and you will be able to look back on it with laughter and wisdom.

Answer 9

I know sometimes that life can seem rather impossible to take. Dear one, you are not alone, even if you feel as you are. No one is worth losing your life over, i promise. life is too precious to end. Have your tried yoga or meditation? It does sound like you need inner peace. What are you hobbies? what gives even if it is just a moment of happiness to you? do you write? do your draw? I know phyical pan can give a person grave depression. Beleive me i do understand, I have had five spinal surgeries. all of them failed. Life is worth living, you just have to find what makes your soul sing. The fact that you posted this here, tells me you want a real answer and you do really want to live. Hang in there. I am an author of a poetry book and a mediation book, for me meditation saved me. Try it

Answer 10

Wow, I thought for a minute there this was from my daughter because she is going through some of the same things.
The ankle will get better but it will take time! Follow your doctor's instructions and hopefully they gave you some meds or you can take aleve or advil for pain.
The main thing is for you to use this time to catch up on your school work and get extra help so you can get back on track. Do whatever you have to do to pass your classes!
Ask your teachers for extra help and don't be embarrassed to get help!
talk to your mom and let her know you are trying but it is hard and you need her help and it upsets you when she makes threats about your dad. You should not have to go to your dad's and be treated badly-does your mother know about this?
Whatever you do, DON'T GIVE UP!!! It will all be better in time! Focus on making things better, don't dwell on the negatives, try to turn them into positives. Pick one thing today that will make you feel better and do it! Believe in yourself and you will get through all of this!
If you have an adult friend or school counsellor that you trust that you could talk to it might help.
Take care and I hope you feel better.