2007-10-17 02:13:27 · 8 answers · asked by gaehall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he has set visatation days, her mother is not making her go ,does he have rights, he pays his support,and alot more, does anyone know the laws.
2007-10-17 02:17:55 · update #1
I went through this with my daughter. It really didn't have anything to do with me or my daughter's feeling about me (she loved me) it was that she wanted to be with her friends on the weekends. If you think about it 15 is usually the age that children spend more time with their friends than their parents. I just accepted it and let go...tell your bf that he has to be creative about see her...(take her shopping, out to eat) alot of phone stuff and don't take it personal...it is part of them growning up.
2007-10-17 02:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get the visitation modified . She is getting older and she probably wants to hang out with her friends . I went through this with my husband . Talk to the girl ,(the Dad ) find out what would be fair for the two of them . Maybe one day during the week and then one weekend a month . The girls a teen now , and believe me , she doesn't even want to be at home let alone visiting Dad . It's her way of growing . Tell you BF to have a little patience .Don't worry about the support , the money is there for the girl , regardless. I you push the support issue there will be loads of hostility . Talking to her is the best thing to do . Make arrangements that agree with her .
2007-10-17 09:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by vpsinbad50 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the daughter doesn't want to visit with her father, there has to be a reason.
I think a 15 year old can make their own choices.
Perhaps your boyfriend could give her a call, and let her know he loves her and wishes to spend time with her. He can ask her what he can do to make their relationship better.... because, if she doesn't want to see him, there has to be an issue.
Your boyfriend is the adult, and instead of forcing his daughter to do something she doesn't wish to do, he could try to straighten out their relationship.
I didn't want to see my father when i was a teenager either (i'm now 50), and if i were forced, it would have made the situation worse.
2007-10-17 09:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that at this age the kid is growing up and friends become much more important to them. It means your boyfriend may have to become much more creative if he wants to spend time with her. Maybe not asking for the whole day but taking her out on "dates" that still leave her time to be with friends. Or having her invite a friend along for a sleepover occasionally. Hopefully he can manage to keep in touch. This is a tough age even for traditional families.
2007-10-17 10:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at that age she just dont want to be bothered... shes 15 she has a life. friends, weekend plans. if he was to take this to court the judge would ask her if she wanted to go she would say no and judge would say ok... have him try and call her and see if just 1 night would be ok. just like u have a life so does she... shes a 15 yr old young woman. boys are starting to come into her life... he should of made more of an effort sooner.
2007-10-17 09:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well your boyfriend has the right to visit his daughter since his supporting her. but the problem is maybe her mother is the one telling her to tell his father not to visit her. but you need also to understand the child. and why not explain some to her the situation.
2007-10-17 09:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by ambot 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How in the world does your boyfriend have a daughter that has another father? I dont know whats up here? I do know that whatever it is you need to stay out of it!
2007-10-17 09:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So, what is your point? Its not your fault.
2007-10-17 09:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by mikeydonatelli 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋