I found a vibrator in her wardrobe. I stumbled across it because she told me to get a top from her wardrobe while she was in the shower.
Ive been with her for 2 years. Im annoyed because shes never told me shes had one.
When i turned it on the thing worked, so i know she must be using it.
What should i do?
2007-10-17 01:30:16 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wasnt snooping through her things, i just came across it!
2007-10-17 01:41:54 · update #1
ROFL
News Flash -- We all have them!
2007-10-17 01:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm married and very satisfied with our sex life..and I've always had a vibrator. No big deal. Sometimes I "needed" to use it while he wasn't home, other times I used it with him during our lovemaking. He loves the idea that I'm so well, you know, that I can't wait for him all the time. He loves it when we use it together. So, nothing personal against you. She must just take care of things when you're not around to! Tell her you came across it. Maybe she sent you into the wardrobe knowing you would. This may be her way of bringing it up with you and adding something different to your sex life! Don't be annoyed, it has NOTHING to do with you. Maybe she was afraid you would presume something was wrong with your sex life and didn't know how to approach it with you. I've been married 25 years and if there was one area where me and my husband had absolutely no problems in 25 years, it has been our sex life! So EMBRACE THE VIBRATOR!!! lol Have fun
2007-10-17 08:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and I have one. There is nothing wrong with it. Let me ask you this maybe it will make you see this toy in a new light. Lets say you had to go out of town for 3 months and there was no way to take her with you, would you rather she go find another man and cheat on you when she gets horny or stay at home with the vibrator? Hubby was out to sea for 6 months at a time and I stayed home instead of going out and finding a boyfriend and he is grateful for that.
2007-10-17 08:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by christina h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing really wrong with her having one. The only thing wrong here is that she hasn't told you about it. You've been going out for a long time and you would think that she would tell you that. She must be very shy and timid about sex I'm guessing. You should bring up very carefully to open up communications. Then later tell her that you want to use it on her. This will show her that you're intimidated by it and will probably help your sex life in the long run.
2007-10-17 08:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by Brian 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if i were you i would never mention it to her. she ask you to get a shirt from her closet and that is all . you had to be snooping or you would never have found it. women would not leave that object out in the open for someone to find. she will be upset and embarrased if you bring it up to her.
you should keep it to yourself. she didnt cheat and probably never will. be mature about it and when the time is right she will probably show you how to use it on her effectively someday
2007-10-17 08:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be silly, believe it or not, probably most girls have got at least one, whether they're single or not. Girls dont have them to replace sex, its exactly the same as a guy having a (you know what) on his own, but a girl uses a vibrater instead of her hand because it feels better and its quicker. If i was you, i wouldnt even mention it because its something she does in private and its personal. How would you feel if she demanded to know if you used a sock or not??
2007-10-17 08:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by KJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not being mean, but you have no right to be annoyed. Do you make an announcement to your gf every time you masturbate?
It's for her own personal pleasure and has nothing to do with you. Perhaps she doesn't want to make you feel inadequate and with your attitude after finding it, I'm not surprised.
Want in on the action? Ask her how she feels about you guys going shopping for toys.
2007-10-17 08:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're worried about being replaced by a battery operated gizmo?
I don't even know where to begin.
The funny thing is people are always searching for something to make sex better, only to find out people are what they need. Quit freaking out.
2007-10-17 08:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by thewon4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably embarrassed to tell you about it or maybe she knows how you would react for example thinking your not satisfying her. when you're not around something has 2 please her be happy its a toy with batterys and not some other guy. if you're that worried about it just ask her randomly have you ever used a vibrator because my friends gf uses one and i was just curious to know if she says no ..don't bring it up again shes obviously embarrassed to tell you.
2007-10-17 08:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her have her fun. I think that you would rather have her use that then the alternative. She probably didn't tell you because she is embarrassed. Not exactly the topic of conversation for you to bring up with your man. Besides you want her to know what pleases her so that she can tell you!
2007-10-17 08:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Tre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has not violated you in anyway and sometimes some women find pleasure in pleasing themselves.how would you have felt if you found condoms..that she has never offered to use with you would you be more hurt.think carefully before reacting negatively on this, your feelig are understandable but dont overeact about it..
2007-10-17 08:51:33 · answer #11 · answered by judie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋